How to develop self-esteem and self-confidence

Confidence - the guarantee for achieving excellence

When trekking in the desert, we should believe in the oasis; when bumping on the waves, we should believe in the other shore.

Others We don’t have to believe in us, but we have to believe in ourselves.

Confidence is the stepping stone to success

Confidence is a state of mind, which is to bravely show your abilities and show off your abilities when it’s time to shine. Being in the limelight, not afraid of what others say, and not sticking to the previous methods. This kind of self-confidence is the prerequisite to ensure that one's abilities can be used normally and fully. It is the first level of self-confidence, and it is also the average person's understanding of self-confidence. If you have this If you are confident and have not been influenced by any outside world, then what you show is to do things within your ability.

But people's abilities are limited after all, and everyone has their own limitations. There will always be people who gossip, negatively evaluate, or even slander you in this way or that about something you can't do anything about. At this time, you will often be hit, and it will be caused by lack of confidence in a specific behavior of yours. Not confident in one's own abilities, thinking that oneself is useless and can't do anything. The end result is that the whole person shrinks in his shell like a snail, and cannot even show his due abilities.

I can't do it myself If you just can’t do something, deal with it calmly. Don’t feel that you are inferior to others if you can’t do it, let alone affect your self-confidence.

There is such a joke:

A person comes back from the club, Bragging to his friends: "I defeated the world chess champion and tennis world champion in the club today."

Mingyou was surprised and asked him how he did it.

He said: "It's very simple! I won the world championship of chess in playing tennis, and I won the world championship of tennis in playing chess."

When people heard this joke in the past, they always laughed at it. This "double champion" is opportunistic, but few people will ask this question: How does it feel to be defeated by the world chess champion and tennis world champion?

Obviously, they are not because they are not good at it. Losing confidence after losing to an ordinary person in an event. They gave up their own strengths and compared their shortcomings with others. This is a sign of abandoning their confidence. You are a chess master, but there is no need to feel inferior because you are not good at tennis. ;Similarly, even if you are a mess at chess, it will not affect your dominance on the tennis court.

Success in one thing requires many factors. In fact, you only need to have the key factors. It is possible to achieve success, and your incompetence in non-key factors will not affect success. But often under the influence of the outside world, lack of confidence in things that are not important leads to lack of confidence in the whole thing, which leads to failure.

People have great potential, and your own abilities may not be recognized by you. There are some things that you may not have the ability to do, but you must do it, such as fighting against the odds. At this time, you must believe If you can do it yourself, this is self-confidence in your potential. This is not blind self-confidence, but the belief that you can do what you must do.

There is actually not much difference between people, it is just that some people dare to Do, some dare to say, some dare to think, and you must believe that you can do what others have done.

To be confident, you must understand the true meaning of self-confidence: have a good attitude; Believe that you can do what you can do, be calm about what you can't do or work hard to learn how to do it; develop the habit of self-confidence; analyze things and find out the key factors for success, and focus on non-key factors. Face your own powerlessness correctly, learn to focus on the big and let go of the small, use your strengths and avoid weaknesses.

Confidence gives you opportunities

Confidence is the key to never giving in in our pursuit of excellence in life. The pillar of life, only self-confidence can detonate the potential in our lives; only self-confidence can overcome the suffering and setbacks in our life journey; only self-confidence can continuously surpass ourselves and maintain the youth of life; only self-confidence can Seize the opportunities that come unexpectedly in our lives.

"Confidence" can seize the good opportunities for success. Here, we can learn from the examples of celebrities and see how they

Successful.

Japan’s Seiji Ozawa is a world-famous music conductor. Many famous opera houses, such as the Italian Opera and the Metropolitan Opera in the United States, have invited him to join the conductor many times.

Once, he went to Europe to participate in a music conductor competition. In the finals, he was placed last. After Seiji Ozawa received the music score handed over by the judges, he made a little preparation and concentrated on conducting. Suddenly, he found a little disharmony in the music. At first he thought it was a mistake in the performance, so he asked the band to stop and play again, but he still felt disharmony. At this point, he believed that there was indeed something wrong with the music score. However, the composer present Authoritative figures from both the artist and the jury solemnly declared that there would be no problem with the music score. It was his illusion. Facing hundreds of authorities from the international music industry, he inevitably hesitated or even wavered in his judgment. However, he After thinking over and over again, he firmly believed that his judgment was correct. So he said loudly and decisively: "No, the music score must be wrong." As soon as his voice fell, the judges on the judges' bench immediately stood up and responded to him. Warm applause, congratulating him on winning the competition.

It turns out that this is a trap carefully designed by the judges to test whether conductors can stick to their correctness when they find mistakes and the authorities do not admit them. Judgment. Because only those with this quality can truly be called world-class music conductors. Among the contestants, only Ozawa Seiji firmly believed in his own judgment and did not echo the opinions of authorities. Therefore, he won the The winner of this world music conductor competition.

A person's self-confidence should be innate, and no one can take away this right. As long as you firmly believe that you can do it, you will achieve success that is unique to you. Sincerity leads to gold and stone. No matter how great the difficulties are, we can still get out of the difficulties, because we believe that it was we who mistakenly entered the difficulties, rather than the difficulties that caught us; no matter how many hardships there are, we can overcome the difficulties, because we firmly believe that it was we who mistakenly encountered them. Read life, not life deceives us.

Walking in the desert, we should believe in the oasis; bumping on the waves, we should believe in the other shore. Others may not believe in us, but we must believe in ourselves .

The female musician Wagner was criticized and attacked by his contemporaries, but he was very confident in his work and finally defeated the secular rumors. Darwin worked in a small British garden for 20 years , sometimes succeeding, sometimes failing, but he persevered because he was confident that he had found the clue and finally succeeded.

The 19th-century British poet Keats was orphaned at a young age and lived in poverty throughout his life. He was highly criticized by literary critics. Keats criticized him, failed in love, contracted tuberculosis, and died at the age of 26. Although Keats was in poverty throughout his life, he was not dominated by the environment. After he read Spencer's "The Faerie Queene" as a boy, he was sure that he was destined to die. Become a poet. He once said: "I think that after my death I can be ranked among the English poets." Keats devoted his life to this biggest goal, making him a poet who will go down in history.

If you are confident that you can succeed, the possibility of success will be greatly increased. If you believe that you will fail in your heart, you will never succeed. Without confidence and purpose, you will achieve nothing.

Build up self-confidence. You must trust yourself and believe in yourself.

Former world boxing champion Joe. Fleurer's secret to winning every game is: the day before the game, he always pastes his motto on the ceiling - I can win!

We all know that the telephone was invented by Bell, but , few people know that someone invented the telephone before Bell, but he made no effort to publicize and promote his research results, and was eventually buried: After Bell invented the telephone, he was ignored and believed at first, but He was full of confidence and continued to use various opportunities to publicize widely, and finally popularized the telephone. Others such as Bernard Shaw, Mendeleev, Marie Curie, Nobel, etc. are all examples of success through self-confidence.

Confidence is the cornerstone of success, and not giving up self-confidence is the support and guarantee of success. God will help those who help themselves. Only those who believe in themselves can overcome challenges; only those who believe in themselves can discover the path of opportunity in the swamp of life.

Self-confidence needs to be cultivated

Having confidence or not is the decisive factor

The key to determining the quality of living conditions. Confidence is the spring of action. The incomparable driving force based on confidence is the source of all success.

Lack of basic and moderate confidence in oneself It is impossible for a person to have the qualities of perseverance, strength, and fearlessness in real life. It is impossible to actively pursue life goals and a bright future, and you can only falter or even struggle on the road of life.

Confidence is half the battle. So, believe in yourself and be confident in your You must have confidence in your own abilities. If you do not have the minimum and moderate confidence in your own strength and abilities, it is impossible for you to succeed. Therefore, in daily life, we must always pay attention to our words and deeds and cultivate our own Confidence.

So, how to develop your own self-confidence?

1. Choose the seat in the front

Whether it is in a library, classroom or other public place, the seats in the back are always filled first. Most people who occupy the seats in the back hope that they will not be filled up first. They will be "too conspicuous", and the reason why they are afraid of being noticed is that they lack self-confidence.

Sitting in the front seat is a sign of self-confidence, and it can also cultivate self-confidence. So from now on, try to Sit in the front. Of course, sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, but remember, everything about success is very conspicuous.

2. Practice speaking in public

There are many people with quick ideas and high talents who are unable to use their strengths to participate in discussions. It’s not that they don’t want to participate, but just because they lack confidence. Those students who are silent in class They all think: "My opinion may have no value. If I speak it out, others may feel stupid. It's better for me not to say anything."

But on the positive side, if you speak as much as possible, then It will increase your confidence and make it easier to speak next time. Therefore, speak more, which is the vitamin of confidence. No matter what class we listen to or what kind of meeting we attend, we must "take the initiative" to speak every time, maybe to comment, maybe Be it a suggestion or a question, there should be no exceptions. Also, don't be the last to speak, be the icebreaker and the first to break the silence. Don't worry about looking stupid, because there will always be someone who agrees with you.

3． Stick to your own ideas

Don’t try to escape just because you encounter opposition, but use all our resources to confront the opponents on the spot. The reason why we can become an independent person and be in a certain position The situation is because we insist on certain concepts and thoughts in our hearts. If we are unwilling to apply these concepts and thoughts, it will bring more restrictions and setbacks to ourselves.

4. Don't imitate others out of awe

The reason why great people are great is because we kneel down. In fact, no one will be stronger than us, as long as you have firm confidence. We can easily notice others' Strengths, and underestimate one's own advantages. This mentality is not only unrealistic, but also unhelpful to oneself.

5. Highlight your own advantages

Starting from the work that you are best at and easiest to do is the easiest way to inspire people's confidence in work, study and life. Smart people always know how to highlight their own advantages and Spend your main energy on this.

Whether it is work or school, if you succeed once, you will feel confident when you do it next time. After all, geniuses are in the minority, and each of us should Discover your own strengths and expand them. It won’t take long for your self-confidence to increase greatly.

6. Break down the goals

Steadiness and steadiness are the basic factors for the success of any career. Even if the progress is not too big, the progress itself can give people great confidence. Therefore, instead of immediately moving towards a goal, Rather than moving forward with ambitious goals, it is better to complete each small goal one by one, which can give people stronger self-confidence. The fact is that many people in the world like to make excessive demands on themselves and have unrealistic ideals. , unfortunately, they all fell into a state of anxiety and lost confidence.

7. Don’t worry about failure

Everyone is prone to self-denial and often denies the value of difficult-to-realize ideas from the beginning, especially for negative people.

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When facing new work challenges, don’t think about whether you can do it or what the consequences will be, but first think about how to do it. Prepare yourself mentally and develop the mentality to accept the worst consequences. A strong mentality. Maybe things don’t go as smoothly as you imagined at the beginning, but you can make corrections and make new ideas after failure, and the negative mentality inside will be reduced unconsciously, prompting you to generate confidence and positivity.

Self-esteem - one cannot lose dignity as a human being

Understanding respect is a very important and basic virtue that a person should possess. Respecting others is a kind of politeness, respecting oneself is a kind of nobility , You should never lose your dignity at any time.

Respect yourself

If a person does not think highly of himself and has no good evaluation, how can he expect others to give him good evaluation? What? There is a proverb: Those who do not respect themselves will not be respected by others. Yes, if you despise yourself first, others will naturally not regard you as noble. It is natural for them to reject you and insult you. You When you look down on yourself, you can't say to others in your heart: You should value me. Even if you do this, the result will be disappointing yourself, because the respect for yourself and the respect others have for you