As the saying goes: "If you are poor, you will not visit your relatives; if you are rich, you will not return to your hometown." What is the truth behind this saying? Why?

"There is a way out. Only when you go out can you find a way out. When people are poor, go out more and maybe you can find a good way out. And when you are developed and wealthy, you should not forget your hometown and give back to your hometown." I believe everyone is familiar with these words. Although they are suspected of being "chicken soup", the existence of their truth cannot be denied. However, the saying shared with you today, "If you are poor, don't leave your relatives, if you are rich, don't return home" is obviously inconsistent with it. Paradoxes contradict each other, so does this proverb become outdated and meaningless? If not, what is the truth behind it? We might as well understand it sentence by sentence! 1. Don’t visit relatives when you are poor: The so-called don’t visit relatives when you are poor, as the name suggests, you don’t go to visit relatives when you are poor. I remember that there is such a foreign daughter-in-law in our village. Every time her mother-in-law’s brother goes to her house, he is almost always rejected. As for Why? In fact, the reason is very simple. She dislikes her brother for being poor, and he is a bit naive. She feels embarrassed when entering her house. She is afraid that the neighbors will laugh at her for having poor relatives and a poor elder brother in her family. Furthermore, she is also afraid that her elder brother will lend her money and things. , and she was even more afraid of living in his house eating and drinking for free. In short, she felt like a hot potato. Of course, she never saw her brother step into her house again, even if he passed by her door, he would not enter.

Both brothers and sisters are so unkind, let alone ordinary relatives.

In fact, when a person is poor, it is one thing to visit relatives for fear that the relatives will not be treated with respect. The second thing is that as a poor person, he does not want to go around. After all, he is more or less embarrassed in the presence of people who are richer than him. I feel inferior. Besides, it would be awkward to go to someone else’s house without holding something in my hand. And I really have nothing to offer, which makes me look particularly shabby, so it’s better not to walk around than to do this.

So it is not surprising that there is a saying that people who are poor do not stay away from relatives.

2. Don’t return to your hometown if you are rich: The so-called “don’t return to your hometown if you are rich” means that you have become rich and rich. Don’t think about honoring your ancestors and returning to your hometown with rich clothes.

After all, there are many people who look down on people who are poor and look down on their wealth. This phenomenon is especially serious in rural areas. When everyone knows that you are rich, your seven aunts, eight aunts, and even those who will never be able to hit a golf ball in their eight lifetimes They will be begging and wagging their tails to curry favor with you, your relatives will find various reasons to borrow money from you, and some local public institutions will ask you to donate money, and you will also feel that you should help them. If you don't borrow money, you won't donate. If you do it to them, they will say that you are stingy and don't know how to repay kindness. In short, you will say all kinds of unpleasant things. From then on, not only will your reputation in your hometown be ruined, but your relatives and connections will also be ruined.

In short, it will cause a lot of unnecessary trouble, so it makes sense to say that the rich will not return home.

To sum up, it is not difficult for us to understand what the saying "If you are poor, don't visit your relatives, if you are rich, don't return home", we must also understand the truth that the world is cold and human relationships are as thin as paper. , which further strengthens the meaning of this statement, and there is no contradiction with the so-called "Chicken Soup for the Soul" paradox as mentioned at the beginning, let alone who is reasonable and who is not, but the angles are different. That’s it! What do you think about this? Welcome to leave a message and comment! Statement: The picture comes from the Internet and has nothing to do with the position of this article. If there is any infringement, please inform us to delete it!