I want to ask in the Zhihu: "What is a knife that kills people without seeing blood?"

Knives that kill people without seeing blood are described in martial arts novels. A chivalrous man with superb martial arts kills people in minutes with a particularly powerful knife. The killing speed is amazing, leaving no trace.

The murdered man felt no pain, but almost died in extreme pain. The murdered person or bystander didn't even see the blood coming out.

How insidious and vicious the means of harming people are.

Similar to the peerless weapons in martial arts novels, it is a bad word in real life. Yes, it's vicious language.

"Bad words, too exaggerated!"

Some people say: "Unless it is a deep hatred, there is nothing bad. The indomitable spirit is the low point of emotional intelligence. Frankly speaking. "

No one will know how painful it is until the knife sticks to him.

A generation of movie stars Ruan wrote in his suicide note: "A man's words are to be feared".

Lu Xun also wrote "On People's Words to Be Awed" for him.

I believe everyone has seen this photo and is shocked. Everyone will feel deeply sad and helpless.

For the tragic experience of children, for the poor life of African people, for the cruelty of reality.

This photo won the Pulitzer Prize, the highest prize in American journalism, but

The photos spread all over the world, but the author was praised and criticized by people. The constant voice of accusation and abuse is like a scourge.

"Why didn't you help the girl at the scene?"

"Why didn't the reporter put down the camera and give the starving child a piece of bread and a pot of water?"

"Isn't the value of a child's life worse than a news photo or a news award?"

The author explained and groaned, but it was like a grain of sand in a flood.

Finally, the voice of accusation killed him and he committed suicide.

The spittle vulture hurt another innocent man.

Others said, "It's not that people are terrible, but that people are too fragile and have poor endurance in their hearts. Don't just say a few words, as for it. "

Isn't it? This kind of soft knife is more lethal than the real knife and gun.

As the old saying goes, "Longquan is on the tongue, and it doesn't bleed or kill people." Longquan is a Gu Jian with poison on it.

In real life, you, me and him may inadvertently or inadvertently play the role of a person with superb martial arts, holding a knife that kills people without seeing blood, hurting lovers, hurting children and hurting friends.

The lethality is 100 times stronger than you think, and its influence is far-reaching and extensive.

What's even more hateful is that the person wielding the knife said, "I'm a knife mouth and a tofu heart, that is, I speak straight." People also misunderstand that they are "knife mouths", but their hearts are still very kind.

Nonsense, who can hear from your vicious words that your heart is as beautiful as a flower!

Others said, "There are people in the world who are not afraid of what others say."

However, that is only a minority. People are emotional animals, hurt by people's words and accumulate pain. They either died in silence or broke out.

And those people, too, paid and paid, and were tempered into immortals by vicious words.

"Husband, do you know how much you hurt me? ! "

I remember that it was four or five months when I wrote articles online. I am full of confidence, and inspiration always flashes at any time.

One night, I suddenly had an inspiration, and I quickly recorded it.

My son is one year old and four months old, and he has been clamoring for a hug from his father for a long time.

I was writing on a whim when my husband suddenly said impatiently, "Don't pretend to study hard, go and wash your face."

As soon as the words reached my ears, I felt my heart suddenly froze. Vincent's huge waves were frozen in the downward trend, and his inspiration suddenly disappeared without a trace, and his mind and heart were full, and even the whole person felt cold.

Although he only said it once, I kept repeating it in my ear.

It's been a while, but I can't forget this sentence. Every time I think of this sentence, I will ask myself repeatedly: "am I pretending?" Didn't I study hard? "This situation makes me depressed and sad.

I pretend to study hard. After all, it's fake. What about you? Children will lose patience after quarreling for a while and can't go home often. As soon as they come back, they will lie on the sofa watching TV and playing mobile phones.

I pretended to work hard and set a good example for my children. What about you? Stop pretending.

Besides taking care of the children at work, I am very tired. I wanted to improve myself, but I didn't get encouragement and praise. Instead, I got such a cruel sentence that I wanted to cry and hit people.

This is what I really feel inside.

Although there are not many hurtful words, it hurts my self-esteem, especially since I am over forty years old. I really want to improve myself, especially in front of my 14-year-old son.

At that time, I wanted to shrink into an ant at once, not as high as their soles.

Am I too sensible? Just a short sentence. Maybe he forgot.

As a result, after a while, I was afraid to read books and practice calligraphy in front of him and his son. I always secretly charge them when they are asleep.

I remember there is a saying in a movie: when they are in love, they have endless words; After they got married, they quarreled endlessly.

Some unhappy families have quarrels and contradictions day after day, and most of them regard the marriage life that lacks management and maintenance as a battlefield.

Patience has worn out, and I don't care about each other's feelings when I speak. If you are not malicious, accusations and complaints will turn into verbal abuse.

Once I went to the hospital and saw a middle-aged couple. The man's face is very uncomfortable. Later, I learned that the man was ill and the woman came to see him.

"Have a fever! Don't feel well! I told you to put on more clothes, but you didn't listen. You deserve it. See how little you wear when you go out. "

I've said this several times. I know it's cold, men wear less clothes and catch a cold. Women blame men and don't listen to her. But it makes people feel uncomfortable. It just looks kind, but it expresses bad intentions.

I think men's voices are worse. Hearing this, the man glanced uneasily at the woman's face and frowned.

Turn around and start turning your back on the woman and give him another head.

It is conceivable that in a similar situation, over time, there is no contradiction in married life, and it is strange that there is no crisis.

Home is a shelter from the wind and has the closest people. A happy family needs love and gratitude.

Despise and disrespect make people feel sad and inferior, which is unbearable.

"Son, we are all for your own good. Do you know how much we love you? ! "

Parents' love for their children is the truest and deepest in the world. But you can't always say something that hurts your child's self-esteem in the name of love and as an elder.

If you are not careful, it will affect your child's life for several years or even a lifetime, and it may also change his life.

I remember that when I first went to work, I talked with my father about a topic. You talked to me because of your age and life experience.

A few words later, I heard my father say, "That's your problem. You interrupted before others finished. How to get along with leading colleagues in the future? No one can get along with you. "

I said something similar at school, except that "leading colleagues" were replaced by "classmates, teachers and friends."

Not many words, but the brand in my heart is deep. So that I dare not discuss problems with my colleagues at work, even if I have my own ideas, I dare not say them, for fear of not waiting for others to finish, let alone leading.

People think I am difficult to get along with and have no opinion. But only I know how depressing it is. Sometimes my colleagues make fun of me, and sometimes they just don't ask me what I think.

Afterwards, my father seems to have said, "We are all telling you our problems for your own good."

"Good for me? ! "I didn't feel it, but" the problem of interrupting makes people unable to get along with me. " I've been worried for years. Makes me feel inferior and have no self-confidence.

The feeling at that time was really experienced. I began to be introverted and didn't like to talk.

Years of contradictory psychological entanglement have made me gradually understand and express my views in a timely and appropriate manner.

Some experts have said: "Language is powerful. Positive and warm language can make children confident and optimistic, while aggressive and hurtful language may ruin their lives. "

Many parents have worked hard to provide food and drink for decades, trying to achieve their children's life, but it is too easy to ruin their children in a few words.

In Never Give Up, Daniel Wu plays a perverted Joe, who hates everyone and hurts people by cruel means. This has something to do with his father abusing him when he was a child.

"You waste", "Why do you want to live? You might as well die. "

It is in this endless humiliation and abuse that Azu's psychology is gradually distorted.

Although this is a movie, there are such things to worry about in real life.

These insulting words may not have any negative impact on people in the short term, but in the long run, the consequences may be unimaginable.

Shenyang once conducted a survey on children in juvenile detention center, and the results were surprising: more than half of the children suffered long-term verbal humiliation from their parents in their childhood, and vicious language affected their thoughts and will.

Children's childhood should have been chatting with their dearest parents. Their childhood is full of cruel words, and they spend every day in the abuse of "pig brain", "anyone is better than you" and "why don't you die"

They gradually feel inferior, rebellious, depressed and give up on themselves. When this or similar words appeared again, they finally broke out: kill, put yourself in prison.

Perhaps their parents never thought that these words would lead their children to commit crimes.

Parents found a quiet place and settled down to read the following words:

"You are a pig brain. You can't even understand this. "

"How can I raise a useless thing like you? I really regret giving birth to you. "

"Don't always give me trouble, go as far as possible."

"I know playing mobile phones and watching TV every day. What else can you do? Look at other people's children, and look at you. You are as stupid as a pig. "

"Don't cry, I'll kill you if you cry."

"You are too stupid to know anything. You always embarrass me in front of my colleagues. You might as well die. "

What do you think of it? Shocked, hurt self-esteem, and tried to explain.

There is no doubt that most parents really love their children.

But in the eyes of children, when parents are angry and anxious, an unintentional sentence makes children suffer unforgettable pain and injury! Some people will never forget.

The Global Child Safety Organization has published such a poster:

Look at these children, the scars stabbed by bad words are hard to heal.

Think about their parents' praise and encouragement, their loving eyes and hugs when they were in infancy and just learned to walk. I don't know when it started, but it was replaced by these hurtful words.

Don't carve any scars on the child's heart.

A sharp knife cuts meat easily, but a bad word hurts and hates people.

"Friend, I am thinking of you."

A classmate who became the mother of a second child chatted with me and became angry after a few words.

At the age of 39, she is already a middle-level leader of the unit, young and promising.

Discuss with your husband, is it appropriate to have a second child and a second son? That's called "good".

Then the two began to prepare.

As soon as I knew I was pregnant, I reported it to the leader.

According to her understanding of the leader, she knew that the leader would be surprised, but she didn't expect to hear such words, which made her panic. The child is three and a half years old, and she can't let it go.

"... oh, I want a second child! Are the old people on both sides of your family old? Who will show it? It is precious to have a babysitter now. Just forget it． They are not at ease to look after their children. Look at what is reported in the news, beating and cursing.

I did it for you.

My old colleague's daughter, Xiao X, did you know that she gave birth to a child with cerebral palsy and almost died at birth? How long did she stay in the hospital? Later, I heard that she was hospitalized several times. Are you better now? Do you know how old the child is now? "

"The somebody else's children pass me what matter. What is she up to? ! I feel uncomfortable after listening to it. " This classmate said angrily.

A boy is a senior in a good high school. At the end of the first semester, his father called and said that his grandmother was critically ill. He tearfully asked the dean for leave.

The dean said, "Your grandmother is ill, and your parents are here. What's the use of going back? " . They say you are dying, and you can't say when you will die. Now that your studies are so tense, there are still more than 20 days before the Chinese New Year. How many days will you miss if you catch up with the annual leave?

Now is the critical moment, and every minute counts. I won't allow you to have a holiday today. ......"

The boy asked the headmaster for leave the next day. When he came home two or three days late, his grandmother had died. The failure to see his grandmother for the last time made the boy sad.

I believe these words not only make the parties feel sad and sad. Even the irrelevant people around feel angry and unfair.

I didn't hear it when I thought of others, but I felt malicious.

"Go your own way and let others talk!"

Ji Bolun once said: "A person has two me, one is awake in the dark; One sleeps in the light, I am a fire, and I am also a dead branch. "

Everyone is not perfect, everyone's experience is different, and everyone's understanding is different.

You can't expect everyone to be like you. Therefore, please pay attention to the speaker's intention and the listener's intention. When using the so-called good medicine, he pushed himself and others.

In the face of someone who hurts people with bad words, you can glance at him behind his back, scold him in your heart, spit on him in secret, hold your head high, go your own way and be yourself.

If you used to hold a knife, take care of yourself and seal the knife as soon as possible.

Liu Yong said: "Speak ill, say you're welcome, tell big novels, make cold jokes, emphasize words lightly, speak slowly, make a long story short, talk empty talk, talk less nonsense, and take the words to heart."

Stick to your dream and keep moving forward, even if you think you are moving at a snail's pace.

Do not give up! Be brave and persist! Don't believe those words that say you are nothing.

You are yourself, just like there are no leaves in the world.

May the world be wonderful because of you.