It is because I am married for the second time that I want a bride price of 15 thousand. I don't want to be looked down upon. Is that wrong?

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"This is the first time I have been in love and I feel weak." A boy told me this.

when relatives and friends around him and parents at home all said that they were not suitable, it was a great hindrance. He was never depressed and decadent at that time.

In his opinion, as long as it is the person he likes, he values the future of two people more than the days when they were not together.

Because his girlfriend was divorced once, but she had no children.

according to his girlfriend, the previous marriage was due to the family's rush, and the two people had no emotional foundation, so they got married quickly and slowly, only to find that they were out of character after marriage.

So, in less than half a year, I chose to get divorced.

after the divorce, the two of them met.

At that time, his girlfriend was a Buddhist attitude, and she no longer had any thoughts about getting married, but she just didn't insist on it anyway.

and he likes each other very much. No matter personal conditions or personality, his girlfriend makes him very fond of him.

so, from the beginning, his love will be more.

It is precisely because of his dedication and persistence that his girlfriend finally opened her heart and wanted to be with him.

He didn't expect that the two of them survived many discomforts at first, and after the temperature gradually increased, his girlfriend's attitude towards the bride price made him puzzled.

This is also the first time since they fell in love that they couldn't talk at all and started a cold war with each other.

his family's conditions are average. his parents bought him a house before marriage, and he is paying the mortgage himself. this house was just renovated last year, and he wants to wait until he gets married before they move in.

So, with all kinds of expenses down, and he also wants to buy a car at present, the economy definitely needs to be measured more.

With regard to the bride price, his attitude has always been: I will definitely take it. I don't care whether you give the money to your parents or use it for yourself after taking it.

But the number of bride price should be defined according to economic conditions. You can't let me get into debt because of the bride price.

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He thinks there is nothing wrong with his idea.

I asked him, what is the acceptable amount of bride price?

he said, it's less than 5,, including 5,. If it's too much, I really can't take it out.

He had no idea that his girlfriend, who had been married once, was particularly desperate in the bride price. His girlfriend said that she wanted a bride price of 15, yuan.

At that time, he was shocked when he saw this number mentioned by his girlfriend on WeChat, and he thought that she had typed something wrong.

unexpectedly, my girlfriend said no, she just wanted 15, yuan as a bride price.

As far as he knows, the bride price of his girlfriend's previous marriage was only 18, yuan symbolically. She didn't understand why it changed when she came to him.

His girlfriend said that there is another reason for her divorce, and she still feels that her mother-in-law always looks down on herself, is on top of herself, and usually speaks rudely.

She thinks that it was because she wanted less bride price, so her mother-in-law didn't care about her, so she didn't even want to pretend.

His girlfriend told him that she divorced at the beginning and was laughed at by many people. Especially when she said that she was going to divorce, her relatives at home advised her that she was not young and divorced once, so she would definitely not find anything in the future. If she did, she could only find someone with children.

She was upset when she heard this. Later, when they were together, her girlfriend remembered these words and felt that she had to fight for her own breath.

The way for her to live up to her expectations is to ask him for a bride price of 15, yuan to prove that she is not what they say. Even after a divorce, someone will really love her and be willing to spend money for her.

He still doesn't understand his girlfriend's logic and thinks her idea is absurd.

When two people discuss the bride price, his mood has gone beyond his original passion for love and gradually returned to calm.

Although he didn't say this in front of his girlfriend, in his heart, he thought that his girlfriend should be grateful, because he was willing to overcome all difficulties to marry his girlfriend. After all, his younger girlfriend is two years old, and he really has an advantage over her.

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Anyway, two people talked and talked, but they didn't convince each other in the end.

his girlfriend's view is only one: it's because I'm married for the second time that I want a bride price of 15, yuan. I don't want to be looked down upon, but I want to fight for breath, do you understand?

when he doesn't think so, the chat between the two people is already full of gunpowder. His girlfriend said that if he thinks so, she can't help it.

later, they had a cold war.

after listening to his story, my first reaction was that his girlfriend was selfish.

because the last marriage failed, she didn't grow up at all: two people divorced, instead of thinking about whether they made any mistakes in it, they blamed all the reasons on others.

First of all, I blame two people for getting married too hastily. There are many people who choose flash marriage, but not all of them are unhappy. The reason is that in the process of getting along after marriage, those who finally get divorced have their own mistakes.

But her girlfriend doesn't think so. She continues to blame her mother-in-law, and the last marriage was ignored because she didn't ask for a bride price.

All her assumptions are based on herself, and all her assumptions are beneficial to her.

including asking him for a bride price of 15, yuan, trying to create a phenomenon that his second marriage has face and someone loves him, all of which can prove that his girlfriend is an egoist.

The life of two people is not for others to see. No matter how outsiders evaluate it, the real life needs two people to live day by day in daily necessities.

so, to put it bluntly, these evaluations are actually not important.

His girlfriend didn't grasp the priority of things, but took it for granted to test their feelings and satisfy their vanity, without considering his thoughts and situation at all.

Because he asked her if this figure was negotiable, he told her about himself.

and his girlfriend's attitude is also relatively firm, and she firmly believes that this 15, bride price is the time to test his sincerity, so that her relatives can look up to herself in the future.

otherwise, it is meaningless to get married.

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About the bride price, it has always been a topic that can arouse heated discussion, because from different standpoints, there is always a collision of ideas.

I remember that some time ago, I saw a boy on the Internet saying that he thought the bride price and dowry were the start-up funds for this small family, not all of them went into the wallet of his wife's family.

It's such a sentence, and the reply is hundreds within half an hour. Some girls say that no matter how much the bride price is, it was originally given to the woman's family, and the man can't ask.

Of course, some people supported this boy. In the end, they were divided into many camps. Everyone was talking about their own views, and there were some similarities, but there were also many differences.

I think, between two people, the bride price will definitely be different because of each other's family circumstances, and finally their views and practices are inconsistent.

But in any case, the most important thing is that both people agree that the bride price can be a icing on the cake rather than a stumbling block to the estrangement between two people.

Because some people, due to various conditions, face the bride price far beyond their ability, but they still bite the bullet and carry it down. Although the marriage is over, they must have left some dissatisfaction in their hearts. This kind of emotion is often a kind of opening ceremony to bury the curse after marriage.