Bragging and self-deprecation

Tip debate question: "To adjust the mentality of contemporary young people, do they need more self-bragging or self-deprecation?"

My answer is: Discuss the matter as it stands. When young people encounter difficulties, they should learn from themselves. In the process of healing and mentality adjustment, what is needed more must be the self-praising defined above.

Being magnanimous and open-minded requires years of accumulation. Accepting it is already difficult, letting go is even harder, and then you use your own scars to joke. Tsk, I don’t think self-deprecation at this time is very meaningful.

Many years later, when a person looks back on the past and mentions it like a joke, as if it is a story he has heard, oh yes, he is completely relieved at that time, and he has the ability and courage to laugh at himself. .

I don’t want to discuss the original topic. I would like to use the idea of ????the debate topic to expand the above topic of the debate. Don’t just refer to young people, but include everyone.

Don’t just adjust your mentality. Change the topic to “Boasting and self-deprecation in life” and share your thoughts.

01

If someone asks me, in life, should I brag or laugh at myself?

I would immediately ask: Should I drive fast or slowly when driving?

If someone comes back and asks: Do you think we should drive faster or slower?

I would answer: fast when it should be fast, slow when it should be slow.

If bragging is defined as in the argument, it is neither complacency nor showing off, but self-affirmation and self-confidence, of course it must be there.

The book "Puppy Money" teaches children a way to develop self-confidence, which is to keep a success diary. Write down all the things you did well in the past day in your success diary. It can be anything, even very small things.

Then, when you are afraid of facing new challenges, when you say to yourself "No, no, I can't do this," go through your success diary and look at your experiences recorded in it. success story. Before those stories became stories, I myself said no, no, no, I can’t do it.

Self-affirmation, discovery of one’s own shining points, and self-confidence are all positive and sunny attitudes, but using the word “boast” to summarize the definition seems a bit different.

There is nothing wrong with "bragging" quietly, such as writing in a success diary, finding a place where no one is around to have fun quietly, and spending some money to reward yourself.

It has to be done in public, and it has to be done in hair ties, so I’d better reserve my opinion.

There is a saying that people cannot show off and that human nature is not good for others. I despise this statement.

As with anything, when you are "showing off", you are already sharing with the wrong person.

We must be modest and prudent in the ancestors’ religion, and modern theory has never said that we should “praise and self-praise”.

Bragging, I don’t like these two words, no matter how we artificially define it.

It’s too easy to praise yourself. Who doesn't know how to raise your tail? Who hasn’t won a battle?

02

On the contrary, laughing at yourself requires strength. Not everyone has the ability and courage to laugh at themselves. I think all self-deprecation is humorous.

My weight has increased steadily; I have saved my money wisely; the money did not come from the strong wind, but was blown away by the strong wind; I have no sense of existence, and even the sensor hand sanitizer does not come out; since the summer vacation , I gave up breakfast. ...

How fun, haha, there is another one, there is a person who gives himself some money every Qingming Festival, saying that he will not lose at the starting line when he gets there. His friend lamented that he thought he was falling behind in this life, but he didn’t expect that he would be falling behind in the next life.

One time at dinner, everyone made fun of women’s status in the family, saying that among us women have the final say at home. I said no, no, no, I’m not, I don’t want to have the final say. Finally, I am a woman in this life, and I don’t have to be the mainstay to support my family. If the sky falls, my team captain will support me. I will be a good teammate and provide support and cooperation. alright.

If you laugh at yourself in public, you and the listeners will feel relaxed. If it was the past, I must have been relieved.

If it is a joke, everyone will definitely like it.

I don’t know what it feels like to laugh at oneself in private. I think being open-minded and smiling can forget about it. It shouldn’t be considered self-deprecating, that’s open-mindedness.

Boast to be quiet and active. Self-deprecation has to be done in public for it to be interesting and self-deprecating.

I admire people who have the ability to laugh at themselves.

03

Learning to adjust your mentality is a very important thing in the process of growth.

Self-affirmation, finding your own shining point, and not being afraid of difficulties are one aspect. Letting go, saying good-bye to unfairness and unkindness, forgiving yourself of failures and setbacks, facing them calmly, and moving on are another aspect.

No matter what words we use to define it, just do it and live your life, you need both.