The poor circle and the rich circle

I attended a lecture last Tuesday. At first, the host asked everyone to introduce themselves for 30 seconds. After all, it was a listening class. Suddenly found that 30% are bosses, all have their own companies, regardless of size, at least don't have to work for others. I met two girls who took part in this training in the past. On the way, I almost listened to them. They talk endlessly, their energy is super high, and their cognitive level is completely out of line with their age.

I had dinner with them these days, one was from 1996 and the other was from 19 1 year, but what they showed me was to subvert my cognition. I haven't met any post-90s children, and the height of cognition has completely subverted many of my cognition. Even though I have read hundreds of books and taken too many courses, what are cognitive psychology, philosophy, physics and so on? It is not a problem for them to find my confusion and my problems. It gives me the feeling that I am like a frog in the well. They stand on high places and see all the scenery, while I stand at the bottom of the well and see only problems and various realities. Their mouths are full of rich people's thoughts, and the world they see is rich people's world, but what I see is only the thinking of the poor and the thinking of migrant workers. It shook my heart.

9 1' s sister took me to meet his friends, mostly post-90s. Each of them is extremely powerful positive energy, smiling, super friendly, and each of them is more talkative and sensible than the other. They shared their experiences with me and how wonderful their world is. What shocked me was that none of these friends came from the same industry, some came from SF, some worked as HR headhunters, and some used to be designers. And the income is much higher than our work. This group of 90-year-olds traveled around the world, and the circle of friends was full of scenes that you can only see on TV, such as skydiving and hot air balloon. They started a company at a young age, and discussed all day how to expand the market, how to expand contacts, how to integrate resources, how to establish pipelines, and how to make money by using poor cognition and information. They realized the freedom of wealth and time early, and they had already jumped out of the mouse circle, but I was trapped in the mouse circle and could not extricate myself. They all believe in the law of attraction and everything will come true. They all believe in "altruistic culture" and they all believe in "the power of pipelines".

When I went to the billiards bowling alley in the sports center on Saturday, I was shocked to find that all of them were born after 90, and 30% were weak little girls. In my cognition, it is impossible to associate these little girls with billiards. Unexpectedly, in Guangzhou, so many young people actually use billiards to relax and promote communication. In my cognition, I never thought that I could organize to play billiards. I remember going to the billiard room many times when I was a child, but what impressed me was the smoky billiard room, where all kinds of ignorant young people killed their lives and time. However, the reality is embarrassing. People who play billiards are positive people. The environment is comfortable and the air is fresh. Everyone communicates with each other.

Go to the board game place on Sunday to participate in the board game "Cash Flow of Rich Dad". I think it's the first time in my life to enter the board game room. I think this place should only come after 90 or 00, but after several board games, I found myself too low. No one here is a negative energy person. Without exception, they are people who actively think about how to succeed.

However, when I met so many new friends, my former colleagues and friends around me didn't seem to be like this. People around you are trapped in the rat trap and can't see the smiles on their faces. They have to deal with all kinds of trivial work all day, and they are under great pressure, carrying heavy packages and heavy loads. Or I think the current environment is quite good, and I get paid every month, thinking, "Isn't this what life should be like?" What parents, teachers, bosses and leaders say in their ears every day is "Work hard when you go to work, behave well, try to leave a good impression on the leaders, and you will be promoted and raised". Or think that you can do something "sideline", change something, think about it, feel that you lack opportunities, courage, and various possibilities of success, and give up slowly. I think it is more comfortable in the present mouse pen.

Maybe everyone is used to it in the workplace. Cake is always limited and resources are always limited. For cakes and resources, all kinds of people fight with each other and get caught up in all kinds of political struggles and all kinds of workplace bureaucrats. It seems that in our faith, no one says that we can "make Qi Xin work together and contribute our strength to make the cake bigger". Or as a boss, I know that the essence of hiring employees is to buy other people's time in bulk and make money for myself. No matter how big it is, it has nothing to do with the people below At most, I will pay you at the market price. Whether you can give a market price depends not only on the profitability of the company, but also on whether the boss is willing to give up. After all, the company is the boss and has nothing to do with employees. So everyone is used to it in the workplace. Unhappy, not paying enough, just change it. Whether you can grow bigger has nothing to do with yourself. The most is whether the salary is higher.

But it is often because of high wages and high expenses. When the income is 1w, the monthly cash flow after all expenses is 3000; 2w income, the monthly residual cash flow is still 3000; At 3w, the cash flow seems to be still 3000. Life seems to be enchanted or cursed. The increase in wages will only improve the living standard and will not help the cash flow. Getting rich and investing seem out of reach. Small opportunities are useless, which will only reduce cash flow and deposits, and there is no cash to grasp big opportunities. Life is completely in an awkward position.

In order to pursue the salary increase, we constantly strive to grow, and in order to work more in the workplace, we constantly study and improve our skills. And many people who do java just learn various technologies at the back end; To be a front-end, you only learn various technologies of the front-end. It seems that everyone has forgotten the development of the market for 40 years. Anybody else want it? What about 50 years old? What about 60 years old? Completely caught in the ability trap.

If we retire in the future, if we can live to be 100 and 60-100, what will we live on? If the monthly expenditure of a 30-year-old person is 1.5w, regardless of inflation, assuming that the world is "continuous" (fact: the world is discontinuous and full of uncertainty), assuming that the quality of life of a 60-year-old person hopes to maintain the quality of life of a 30-year-old person for 40 years, then 40 years * 12. Then where did this 720w come from? Have you thought about it? You say I rely on the state pension? By children? Can you rely on it? Western developed countries are 20-30 years ahead of China. Have you seen The Shawshank Redemption? When Lao Bu got out of prison, he should be 80 years old and have to work to earn money. I have been to Europe and America, only to know that people who are still working in their seventies and eighties are everywhere. How old do you want to retire?

The essence of part-time job is to package and wholesale your time and freedom to your boss. Then, with the increase of salary, the requirements of enterprises for you are getting higher and higher, and enterprises should dig more of your surplus value. As a result, your free time is getting less and less, and your responsibilities are getting bigger and bigger, leaving less and less time for your family, children and friends. But time is like a butcher knife. Your physical quality and function are getting worse and worse. 20 years old, you didn't feel it all night. 40 years old, do you feel that you haven't felt anything all night? It is natural for the body to go downhill. Can the wages of part-time workers go up all the way?

Running hamster

I think our part-time job is really like this hamster. We live in a hamster cage and go to work happily every day. On this circular runway, we keep running, can't stop and don't want to stop, enjoying this life. Just like the mouse circle in the cash flow game, you get paid every month, and there is also the risk of unemployment. With no cash on hand, there are few opportunities. Even if you come to a big opportunity, you can't seize it, you can only let it pass by. With longer working hours, higher wages and higher expenses. What remains unchanged for decades is that the cash on hand has not continuously increased, and it will always live in the circle of the poor and never jump out of the circle of the rich. We dare not let ourselves run slower, afraid of being eliminated, afraid of being rejected by the boss, afraid of earning more wages and creating more profits for the boss. Our time is getting less and less, and finally we can't jump out of this rat circle and stay in the circle of the poor all our lives.

There are several kinds of hamsters here:

1, I feel that the years are quiet, I enjoy myself, and I don't study. I feel quite good at present;

2. I have a sense of crisis, and I am also studying, but I am still thinking about how to work in this circle, earn more money, and have a higher position, but I still don't realize my problems, and I am going forward with my head stuffy, thinking about what I will do, thinking about how much salary I can get by what position, and I can live a relaxed life;

3. I really realized the thinking of rich people and tried to jump out of the middle mouse circle.

Goldfish in the fish tank

This reminds me that I am like a goldfish in a fish tank, waiting for its owner to feed me every day and swim freely. In fact, the world in our eyes can only see this fish tank, and we can't see it or believe it exists. Even if you think the world exists, you will feel that you are not fit to live in the ocean. This fish tank is quite good now. There are still many dangers and uncertainties in the ocean. Might as well have this fish tank. No natural enemies. The owner feeds it every day. All he has to do is be obedient, obedient, help the master earn more money, don't think too much, be dedicated and gregarious. Master told you to behave well and do a good job. I will give you more food. If you are disobedient and can't make money for your master, if he doesn't like it, throw it away and buy another obedient one. Therefore, we are all afraid of being given up and trying to express ourselves. How can we care if we can be ourselves? I don't have an external self. I can't live any longer. Do I still want the real me?

It seems that this is the life of our poor people, and our beliefs limit us to death. Even if you suddenly have an idea, people around you will immediately pull you back to your original place.

This also reminds me of a famous experiment. There are three monkeys with a banana hanging from the top. Whoever grabs the banana will give everyone a shock. Slowly, all the monkeys knew that they couldn't get the banana. At this time, change the three monkeys one by one, one by one. The monkey who just came in didn't know, so he was ready to reach for it. Before they took it, they were defeated by other monkeys. In fact, they will not be electrocuted at this time. In this way, when the first three monkeys changed people, none of the three monkeys behind dared to take bananas, and whoever wanted to take them was beaten, but in fact they didn't know why they wanted to beat it.

Because the people around us are all people like us, and they all have the same "group belief", and just like the opening statement, "When you arrive at the unit, you must work hard, behave well, try to leave a good impression on the leaders, and you can get a promotion and a raise", just like the last three monkeys. Over time, everyone doesn't know why you can't build that banana and stay in the cage and fish tank honestly. It became "learned helplessness".

Just like the three desperate monkeys in the experiment, if a person tries to get out of the mouse circle many times, he fails countless times. He will give up his efforts in this matter. You may even have doubts about yourself and feel that "this is not good, that is not good" and there is no hope. Dare not take a step. In fact, we are not "really unable" at the moment. Instead, they fell into the psychological state of "learned helplessness", which made people set up their own barriers, attributed the failure to their own unchangeable factors, and gave up the courage and confidence to continue trying. For example, I think my poor academic performance is due to my poor intelligence, and I am lovelorn because I hate it.

If we can summarize the existing problems, we should have the following points:

1, too far from money

2. Too far away from the rich

We are short of people with dreams.

4. In the wrong circle

5. Wrong thinking: poor thinking and immigrant thinking.

6. You can't control yourself without action.

I think we should do a few things:

1, be strict with yourself, control yourself, change yourself first, think like a rich man, and control your time like a rich man.

As for your dream, you should believe it 100% before others believe it. Don't have plan B, because it will hinder the implementation of plan A. Our dreams are always with us. They won't give up on us, only we will give up on them. Don't close your eyes because of fear, don't stop dreaming because of fear, open your eyes and look at the reality and see what it takes to realize that dream. Set your goal higher, never lower it, never. This is my goal, and I will follow it all my life. My goal may fail, but I will never let go.

3. Go to those people who have got the results you want and ask them how they did it. Twenty years later, their blood is still boiling. See how they do it.

4, change the circle, don't stay in the current circle, jump out of the mouse circle. If you don't have a dreamer around, you won't be a dreamer. If all nine of your friends go bankrupt, you will soon become the tenth. If you have seven friends smoking, you will soon become the eighth. You must be with like-minded people, and don't tell those little people about your big dreams.

About the "power of pipeline", we should start with such a story.

A long time ago, there were two young people named Bob Poirot and Bruno. They are cousins and ambitious. Living in a small village in Italy. Two young people are best friends. They are great dreamers. They have been saying that they hope to be the richest people in the village in some way one day. They are all smart and diligent. They think all they need is a chance. One day, the opportunity came, and the village decided to hire two people to transport the water from the nearby river to the water tank in the village square. The job was given to Bob Poirot and Bruno. Both men grabbed two buckets and ran to the river. At the end of the day, they filled all the water tanks in the town. The elders in the village paid them a penny a barrel.

Our dream has come true! Bruno shouted. We can't believe our good luck. But popolo is not so sure. His back hurts so much that his hands carrying heavy vats are blistered. He is afraid of getting up tomorrow morning and going to work again. He vowed to think of a better way to transport water from the river to the village.

Bruno, I have a plan. The next morning, when they grabbed the bucket and ran to the river, Bobolo said, "It's only a few cents a day, but to carry water back and forth like this, let's build a pipe to bring water from the river to the village." Bruno froze. "pipe? Who has heard of such a thing? " Bruno shouted, "Bob, we have a good job. I can carry a hundred barrels of water a day. A penny bucket is one yuan a day! I am rich! After a week, I can buy a new pair of shoes. A month later, I can buy a cow. In six months, I can build a new house. We have the best job in town. We only need to work five days a week and have two weeks' paid vacation every year. We can enjoy life in this life! Give up your fantasy! "

But Bob Poirot is not easily discouraged. He patiently explained the plan to his best friend. Bob Poirot spends part of his day carrying buckets and water, and the other part of his day building pipelines. He knows how difficult it is to dig pipes in rock-hard soil. Because his salary is paid according to the number of buckets carrying water, he knew from the beginning that his salary would be reduced. Moreover, he also knows that it will take 1 or 2 years for his pipeline to produce considerable benefits. But Bob Boluo believes that his dream will come true in the end. So he did it.

Soon, Bruno and other villagers began to laugh at Popolo, calling him "Popolo the Piper". Bruno earns twice as much as Bob Poirot and shows off his new purchases. He bought a donkey with a brand-new leather saddle and tied it to the second floor of his new building. He bought shiny new clothes and ate delicious food in a country restaurant. The villagers call him Mr Bronaugh. When he was sitting in a bar, he bought people several drinks, and people were amused by his jokes. When Bruno slept in a hammock at night and on weekends, Bobolo continued to dig his pipe. In the first few months, Popolo's efforts did not make much progress. He works very hard-even harder than Bruno, because Popolo works at night and weekends. But Bob kept reminding himself that the realization of tomorrow's dream is based on today's sacrifice. Day after day, he kept digging, only one inch at a time. "One inch, another inch becomes a foot." He repeated this sentence while waving the kettle and beating the rock-hard soil. An inch becomes a foot, and then10,20, 100 feet of short pain, long pain is not as good as short pain. After finishing his work every day, when he stumbled back to his humble hut exhausted, he reminded himself. He measures the effectiveness of his work by setting and achieving daily goals. He knew that one day, the reward would greatly exceed the pay.

Whenever he falls asleep slowly and his ears are filled with the laughter and laughter of the villagers, he repeats this sentence over and over again: "Keep your eyes firmly on the reward."

Day by day, a month passed. One day, Bobolo realized that his pipeline was half finished, which meant that he only had to carry a bucket to walk half way! Bob spent extra time building the pipeline. The completion date is finally getting closer and closer. During the break, Bob saw his genius friend Bruno struggling to carry water. Bruno is more hunched than before. Due to long-term fatigue, the pace has also slowed down. Bruno is very angry and unhappy. He has a grudge against himself for carrying water all his life. His time in the hammock decreased, but his time in the bar increased. When Bruno came in, all the customers in the bar whispered, "Bruno the bucket bearer is here." The drunks in the town giggled when they imitated Bruno's hunchback posture and shuffled around. Bruno stopped buying drinks for others and telling jokes. He would rather sit alone in a dark corner, surrounded by empty bottles. Finally, the big day of Boboro finally came-the pipeline was completed! The villagers gathered around to watch the water flow from the pipe into the sink!

Now this village has a steady supply of fresh water. Other nearby villages moved to this village, and the village suddenly prospered. As soon as the pipeline is completed, Popolo will never have to carry a bucket again. Whether he works or not, water keeps coming in. When he was eating, water was flowing in. When he was sleeping, water was flowing in. When he went to play at the weekend, the water flowed in. The more water flows into the village, the more money flows into Bob's pocket.

Popolo, a plumber, became famous, and people called him a miracle worker. Politicians praised his foresight and begged him to run for mayor. But Bob knew that what he had accomplished was not a miracle, it was only the first step of a huge dream. You know, Popolo's plan goes far beyond this village. The pipeline forced Bruno to lose his job. Watching his friend ask the bar owner for a free drink, Bob felt terrible. So Popolo arranged a meeting with Bruno. "Bruno, I've come to ask for your help." Bruno straightened up, narrowed his dull eyes and said in a hoarse voice, "Don't be sarcastic." "I'm not here to brag to you." Bob said, "I'm here to offer you a good business opportunity. It took me two years to build the first pipeline. But I have learned a lot in these two years! I know what tools to use, where to hollow out and how to arrange pipes. I was taking notes all the way. I developed a system that allows us to build another pipeline, and then another one? Another one? " I can build a pipeline by myself in a year. But this is not the best way to use my time. What I want to do is teach you and others to build pipes? And then you teach others? Then they teach others? Until the pipeline covers every village in this area? Finally, every village in the world has pipes. ""Think about it, "popolo continued." We only need to earn a small part from the water flowing into these pipes. The more water flows into the pipeline, the more money flows into our pockets. The pipeline I built is not the end of my dream, but just the beginning. "Bruno finally understood this grand blueprint. He smiled and extended his rough hand to his old friend. They held each other's hands tightly and hugged each other like long-lost friends.

Many years have passed. Bob and Bruno have retired for many years. Their pipeline business all over the world injects millions of dollars into their bank accounts every year. When they sometimes travel around the country, popolo and Bruno meet young people with buckets. These two friends who grew up together always stopped to tell their stories to young people and help them build their own pipes. Some people are willing to listen and immediately seize the opportunity to start a pipeline business.

Sadly, however, most people who carry barrels always impatiently refuse the idea of building pipelines. Bob and Bruno have heard the same excuse countless times. "I have no time." "My friend told me that a friend of a friend I know tried to build a pipeline, but failed." "Only those who join early can make money from the pipeline." "I have been carrying buckets all my life. I just want to maintain the status quo. " I know I lost money in the pipeline scam, but I won't. "Poirot and Bruno feel sad for many people who lack vision. But they admit that they live in a world of buckets, and only a few people dare to dream of pipes.