How to get along with people who dig at you skillfully?

Let's be clear, there are really few people in the world who can praise you calmly and unreservedly. The people you can meet are often people who like to dig at you, laugh at you and even insult you from time to time. This is a normal interpersonal relationship and the most normal thing that normal people have to face. I remember a sentence in a novel: what is a person? People just dislike each other and interact with each other. Therefore, in the face of this problem, we need to elaborate.

1, be positive and in a good mood. A general without a good attitude is definitely not a good general. Before going to war, he was timid. In our words, it is definitely inappropriate to call it pee. It is normal for someone to dig at you, which means that you are not bad, still in the center of the circle, and can be noticed. Others are willing to spare no effort to dig at you. All these actions show that you deserve attention. If no one is sarcastic, you will stay in the house for more than ten days and no one will pay attention to you. That's really sad. Throughout the ages, everyone is actually living in a joke, a joke in people's mouths. Now you open the address book, find a friend casually, let you find ten reasons to scold him, and ensure that you can easily vomit blood. What does this mean? Treat ridicule with a normal heart and a good attitude. You can't just say that you are crying like Lin Daiyu, and you won't live for half a month. That's really inappropriate. Only with a good attitude can we be strong and invincible. It can also make those who dig at you automatically feel embarrassed and have to give up.

2. Make it clear. Modern people's life is already boring, and satire has become a way to vent their anxiety. In the face of being satirized, we should distinguish between our own mentality and ourselves. Some friends just owe a little, that is, we often say that people are very harmful and like to make fun of others. You eat a meal, he can say a few words, you buy a new dress, he can say a few words, even if you talk about a boyfriend, he can still say a few words. But this kind of person, in addition to debt, must be harmless in his heart. In fact, he didn't have to do anything, and he knew that he had a good relationship with you before he dared to make such a joke. There is no need to pay attention to such sarcastic people. He satirized you, you satirized him, and everyone lived in peace. There is no need to go online, let alone take it seriously. There are also accidents. Some people really want to dig at you, don't want to make you good, don't want to make you happy, and want to make you nervous through sarcasm What should I do? Let's move on.

3. Self-blackness is the highest defense. What do cynics want to see most? Is to see you speechless, to see your pain, to see his sarcasm work for you. That would be great. How to beat him? It's simple. Tell him not to dig at you. No matter what he says, you say he is right, and no matter how sarcastic he is, he will cater to you. After a long time, he naturally felt boring and disappeared quietly. Black doesn't mean no skin and no face. Being black is the highest level of protection.

4. Soul torture. Many people who like to be sarcastic just like the happiness on their lips. They never enjoy the result, but the process of sarcasm and complacency when others dare not resist. Many sarcastic people often choose to keep their heads down, which leads them to push their luck. If you face this person directly at this time, ask: Why are you always targeting me? Often he is speechless at once, and if he can't do anything anymore, you will end up in peace. Dare to challenge evil forces is our best counterattack.

The most effective way to deal with it is to improve hard power. If all the above methods fail, there is only one way, and that is to make yourself strive for promotion and become a truly powerful person, a person who is not afraid of anything. For example, our dear father Ma, your sarcasm to your parents is not very nice and useless. I don't care. He will only say: you are good-looking, but are you richer than me? So cynics must step down.

Still in a word, only when you are strong enough can you become a fearless strong person.

It is not complicated to treat and deal with the sarcasm of others, but we must distinguish who is sarcastic! ! ! The division of the crowd determines that we should adopt different coping attitudes and strategies. Don't follow certain routines and ideas! Otherwise, it is likely that the loss will outweigh the gain!

In the workplace, we occasionally meet people with low quality who are intentionally or unintentionally sarcastic. We must first understand our position and the ultimate goal of responding to sarcasm, so as to effectively deal with different people!

Old ghost talks about this problem with personal professional experience-

First, when we satirize others, we must find out what our real purpose is! Many people have not seriously thought about this problem, but please make it clear first now! ! !

Our first purpose is definitely not to convince or scare those who dig at us, and never dare to dig at us again!

People who like irony are generally of low quality. What's the point of caring about them?

Like sarcasm, colleagues and leaders in the unit all know! There is not a fool who doesn't understand! So our real purpose is to make more people in the unit and workplace respect us and establish our good image! This is the first one!

In the enterprise, the people who dig us may be people of different levels and abilities. The purpose of our reaction must be different. For this party, what we want to achieve is also to distinguish!

As grass-roots employees or grass-roots managers, we are in the accumulation period of professional strength. At this stage, we must treat different people differently!

Second, it is easy to judge that we are not as good as our colleagues in terms of ability, strength, work performance and performance, and other colleagues and leaders around you can see it clearly.

First of all, we don't have to look at such people at all! Don't take it seriously from the heart!

No matter whether these people dig at you in front of other colleagues or leaders, don't pay too much attention!

Because of their comprehensive strength, performance and personal qualities. It is obvious to all.

The sarcasm to these people is only a pity and pity smile!

You have to remember: too lazy to refute! To dispute with them is to lower yourself! It will also make other colleagues, leaders and bosses laugh at us!

Third, we are sarcastic colleagues with similar strength, ability and performance. Maybe it's because we are evenly matched in the daily struggle for honor and interests, maybe it's because we are competitive, maybe it's because we don't like us in some places, maybe it's because you have received more attention from the leaders. .......

For this kind of person, we can deal with it in stages:

You can bear it a few times first, because everyone is watching anyway! Don't refute, be patient, let everyone see your generosity and the sacrifices and compromises you have made to maintain the harmony of the team.

On this basis, if this person does not converge, it will be easy!

You can fight back in front of other colleagues or leaders when the other party is cynical! Can't wait! Right now. Right now.

Of course, according to the severity of the opponent, different counterattack strategies and strengths should be adopted. Each of us can make a rough judgment on this. Or, because I have endured it several times before, it is not a big problem to be aggressive at this time!

For those who are too sarcastic, on the one hand, you can tell the truth in front of everyone (this has to be made clear on the spot, you have been patient many times. Everyone will have a sense of identity), and swearing in turn is not a problem! You can even drop things directly! (Ha, ha, ha, old ghosts teach bad people. )

Of course, according to the severity of the other party's sarcasm, we should grasp the sarcasm "degree" that does not involve personal attacks.

Fourthly, ironically, our qualifications or abilities far exceed those of our colleagues and teachers. At this time, we must first keep in mind the hidden rules of a society and workplace: strength determines status, and strength determines the right to speak! Strength determines the amount of resources around you! Strength determines which side others will move closer to!

Whether you are reading this article or not, you should treat the sincere words of the old ghost objectively and calmly!

When people speak softly, they are frustrated, wronged and sarcastic, which is a stage that almost all of us at the grassroots level will go through.

Our urgent task at this time is to accumulate strength, gather resources, strive for long-term skills, improve performance and establish contacts!

For those colleagues and masters whose ability and strength far exceed ours, let's be patient and the most responsive thread!

Of course, if ridicule involves life attacks and the bottom line of being a man, it can be necessary to fight back in extreme cases.

Under normal circumstances, the old ghost suggests patience! When you are weak, it is difficult to strive for fairness, rationality and respect!

This world is strength, and whoever has strength between countries is justice! Who can be presumptuous?

If you have patience, you will have patience, and you will not lose precious development space because of temporary anger, so that you can get your own rapid growth.

As a newcomer from the grassroots, sometimes you should not be too sensitive, and you don't have to take some "sarcasm" of some old masters and old employees seriously.

For example, an old master said to a new college student: Look at you college students, how come you can't even know this!

Faced with such contemptuous remarks about the group of "college students", many college students will feel insulted, which is a great shame.

In fact, it is not necessary at all!

On the one hand, maybe the other party is really being sarcastic! What about the real irony? ! We really won't! Satire is a good thing. I won't, I don't understand, and I won't let others say a few words? I just graduated. I don't understand. I just can't. Give up with a smile and admit that you just graduated. As a college student, you really have no experience. In the future, you should learn more from the master and ask more questions ... people next to you will think that you are a high-quality college student and know how to respect the elderly! At this point, once you make an excessive reaction or language, there is no good fruit to eat! People around you will think that you are overreacting and have too much self-esteem.

On the other hand, some old masters are just careless words. Maybe it's half-joking, maybe it's because I'm biased against college students, maybe it's because I have a low degree and have no higher development in the enterprise. If you want to gain the respect of new college students in the workplace in this way ... it is better to understand those old people who are not high in position, have no upward potential, and expect to be respected by others, those who are very strong!

5. Your colleague, if you are cynical in front of the leader and you, you should first evaluate his ability, position and impression in the leader's mind.

If this is a person who is recognized as neglected, disliked, hated and incompetent, he will dig at you in front of the leader, so just smile. It doesn't matter! Your leader is not a fool! In his heart, he has judgment on that cynic! His sarcasm will only degrade himself!

If the people who dig us have strong strength and ability and are valued by leaders in daily life, then we should pay attention to some strategies and methods.

Or should I endure it once or twice? If the other party pushes his luck, it will be easy!

Point it out directly in front of the leader!

For example, Master Wang, in our communication with the leaders just now, I did do something bad and not in place (I can even point out my mistakes directly), but I don't think you need to be so sarcastic! (Dare to say it directly! Say it in front of the leader! ) You have satirized Mr. Wang at least twice! Out of respect, I didn't say anything the first two times, but you can't always do this! Say something! You can point out what's wrong with me Satire, insults and nonsense that has nothing to do with our work ... what do you mean? Just as Mr. Wang came, let me know! Do you not like me? Or do you want to show your ability? Or have I offended you? .....

Wait for him! It's okay!

6. Both the leader and the boss are sarcastic. In fact, the best coping strategy is not how to deal with it! But through daily efforts to improve the relationship with leaders! ! !

A leader is a person who decides his own interests, honor and promotion space. It is the best policy to do a good job of daily relationship with leaders with wisdom.

Occasionally satirize every day. Don't worry about blocking your way for the time being! Don't expect any coup to return to the leader or embarrass the leader with any clever language or words. Wake up and respect us. Don't count on it!

The above is for reference. I hope I can give some reference tips to my friends.

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In the workplace, there are always some "malicious" people who are mean and like to dig at others. They are not ashamed of irony, but enjoy it. He just said something you didn't like to hear, which is what we often say. Such people are not simply poor in emotional intelligence, but often poor in quality, which is a manifestation of too dark psychology.

Psychologically speaking, cynicism has two psychological motives. First, self-righteous personality, feel superior, and satisfy their vanity with sarcasm. Second, jealousy is too strong. Seeing that others have reached heights they can't reach, they are jealous and vent their dissatisfaction through sarcasm. No matter what the other person's purpose is, when you are satirized or insulted, you should respond skillfully and don't be a trash can for the other person's emotions. There are several ways.

First, the homeopathic unloading type. Just like a master of Tai Chi, you should know how to dial four or two kilograms and follow the trend to make his poisonous tongue useless. For example, he said, "You look fat, you are so stupid". You can calmly answer: "Yes, you can be fat if you are broad-minded. You are so thin, you'd better eat less snacks. "

Second, the needle shape is hidden in cotton. If you don't want to offend people, you can adopt the policy of hiding needles in cotton. For example, he said, "This dress of yours is really ugly." You can simply answer, "Yes, we just need to be comfortable. Unlike some people who dress up all day and want to seduce women. "

Third, tit for tat. If some people are really annoying, it is unnecessary to be polite to them if they hint at vomiting blood several times. For example, he said, "Look at you, you are always dragging your feet, even a snail." . At this time, you can face down and solemnly warn: "bow up and shut your mouth, no one will sell you as a mute." If you want to be a swift horse, go and play in front of the leader. Is it necessary to belittle others like this? "

Fourth, dismissive. Disdain means that you despise his sarcasm and make him feel embarrassed. For example, she said, "Look at you dressed like a leprechaun". You can say "My husband feels good and is not suitable for you" without looking up.

Five, hide the knife in the smile. When someone is sarcastic in front of the leader, you must never refute it. He can have no quality, nor can he have no cultivation. For example, he said, "Your plan is an armchair strategist". At this time, you must smile and say, "What Zhang Gong said is not unreasonable. Although the words are inappropriate, I know you must be out of public interest. Tell you what, I'll modify it when you come down, and then I'll ask Zhang Gong to correct it! " .

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