From Zhang Xiaohui to Lan Jieying: Is it the fault of Descendants that beautiful women of the same age have different lives?

Introduction: A friend often asks: If I had a better family, would I be like this now? It is true that everyone's life experience can be traced back to family background to find the answer.

When I was chasing ode to joy, I was particularly impressed by such a sentence: "A person's family is a person's fate."

The more people reach middle age now, the more they can figure out the deeper meaning of this sentence.

In the face of the incomprehension and confusion brought by the basic stereotyped life trend and the present situation of one's own life, one can trace back to one's own family to find a trace of answer.

Being born in a family is often accompanied by a person's growth, from childhood to adulthood.

A good family background will help a person shape a correct outlook on life in childhood and play a positive role in his later life, while a bad family background will cause permanent damage to a person's youth mind and seriously ruin his life.

For example, Zhang Xiaohui and Lan Jieying, two women born in the same city in the same year, came from different families, which led to two extreme fates.

1, invincible rose: Zhang Xiaohui.

Zhang Xiaohui, 1963 was born in a big house in Kowloon Tong, Hong Kong. He was once a senior official who loved poetry and profound family culture.

My father, Zhang Jianguo, was the editor-in-chief of Wen Wei Po, and later founded the first Canadian Chinese TV station in 1984, which is also the first Chinese TV station in North America.

Mother's family is good, and when she got married, she was served by a servant girl.

Zhang Xiaohui was born in such a prominent family, with a good family background and superior material conditions effortlessly. She grew up in a honey pot and is a model of wealth.

When I was four years old, I was still a little girl who was not sensible. I followed my mother to Meimei Department Store and Lane Crawford to choose clothes.

When I was twelve years old, I not only started to wear famous brand clothes such as Chanel, but also played games with my friends to discuss how clothes and luxury goods match.

I was tired of Lane Crawford before I graduated from primary school. At the bar mitzvah of 18, she wore an evening dress specially made by a famous fashion designer.

My father was born in a scholarly family and was very strict with Zhang Xiaohui when he was a child. Even when he took his daughter out to play, he did not forget to cultivate her learning ability. He not only instructed her to pack her own bags, but also urged her to bring literature books and magazines and keep studying anytime and anywhere.

After graduating from maryknoll convent school, a famous traditional school in Hong Kong, I paid more attention to her personal interests and sent her to Canada to major in art history, English literature and aesthetics in philosophy. When I was studying for a master's degree, I defined my life accurately: studying fashion design and museum management.

This series of education is constantly enriching the vitality of Zhang Xiaohui. Her family background and her own knowledge have enabled her to form her own distinct philosophy of doing things, so that when she faces changes in her life in the future, she can stay calm and solve problems calmly.

Parents from such families are basically from the upper class. In front of children, they themselves are models of successful careers and rich and happy lives, and they bring children far more than material things.

At a deeper level, what they bring to their children is a subtle positive attitude towards life and the determination and pattern to deal with life problems.

Therefore, children who grow up in such a family not only have a good aesthetic concept, but also have a clear direction in life, knowing what they like best, what they are good at, what they pursue in life, and how to live in order to make themselves happiest.

Even if they encounter inevitable setbacks in life, they can learn from their parents' experiences and make up their minds to make a comeback.

1997 When the Asian financial crisis broke out, the real estate project invested by Zhang Xiaohui and her husband Zhong Zhentao failed.

1998, because of loans overdue, Yutaihang Finance Company not only confiscated their five luxury houses as collateral, but also left them a debt of 250 million yuan, with principal and interest to be paid off.

Chen Yaomin, the original guarantor and Zhang Xiaohui's confidante at that time, also quietly left Hong Kong for France at the moment.

In order to get rid of the couple's debts of more than 200 million yuan, Zhong Zhentao formally filed for bankruptcy with the Hong Kong court, and pushed all the debts to Zhang Xiaohui, and soon divorced Zhang Xiaohui.

At this time, Zhang Xiaohui is well known at home and abroad. Her ex-husband not only left her with huge debts, but also wrote songs to satirize her in front of the media, so she became his disaster, the prodigal daughter, and the singer.

The outside media even stepped on one foot with glee, so names such as "Three Eyes", "Fu Kexiang" and "Buying a shirt to buy a husband's bankruptcy" began to resound through Xiangjiang.

For a time, the whole world was waiting to see her jokes, but to the disappointment of the whole world, Zhang Xiaohui had no time to explain and complain about the two men she had relied on before, but she resolutely refused to declare bankruptcy.

She always keeps a cool head and arranges her work in an orderly way with a wise mind.

After the divorce, she resolutely found a job writing a column with a monthly salary of 50,000 Hong Kong dollars.

With her unique aesthetic taste and good writing style, she can fill the column 19 day and night in a month, and use the money she earned to support herself and her children, and still maintain a high standard of living.

Not only that, she also actively opened second-hand clothing stores, helped radio programs, helped celebrities buy clothes to earn the difference, and used the money she earned to go to court. She bravely swallowed her sadness and pressure and died. After losing the lawsuit, she insisted on appealing, survived all the way with an indestructible energy, and finally won the case, confirming that her debt was reduced from 250 million to 65.438+0.3 billion.

Even in the most difficult time of her life, the media never photographed her panicking. On the contrary, she always dresses appropriately and looks confident. My heart can be so strong that as soon as I stepped out of court, I stepped into a high-end flower shop and picked a bunch of blooming roses to take home.

In the face of her ex-husband's endless accusations, she always leaves a noble person for herself and disdains to respond. "I really don't like memories. I like to look forward." She is as optimistic as ever.

20 18 65438+ 10/6, vowing to carry her aesthetic career to the end, she opened the official account of wechat, returned to domineering, and continued to write the invincible legend of roses.

2. Dying actress: Lan Jieying.

1963, also in Hong Kong, a beautiful little girl was born. The difference is that Lan Jieying came to a patriarchal city and an ordinary family.

The endless quarrel between her parents made her childhood extremely depressed.

More unfortunately, after being abandoned by her biological father, she followed her mother and remarried to a man who runs a barbecue shop in Sham Shui Po.

Although the stepfather has a small business to make a living, he has a bad temper and often punches and kicks her and her mother because of a trivial matter.

At home, going to the barbecue shop to help is not much better. Sham Shui Po is a mixed bag of fish and dragons and often meets unreasonable customers. It is also common to be beaten and scolded.

This childhood experience not only failed to add vitality to Lan Jieying's life, but also deprived her of her original self-confidence.

From the initial stage of her life, she did not have excellent parents to do psychological counseling, and negative psychological pressure and emotions were constantly superimposed from the beginning, and there was no outlet for venting.

Lan Jieying's family from the bottom society gradually showed the personality characteristics of being competitive, stubborn, withdrawn, pessimistic, indifferent and sensitive. These personality factors laid the groundwork for her tragic life ending in the future.

After graduating from high school, Lan Jieying, who was eager to change his destiny, pursued the grandiose star-making atmosphere in society and attended the artist training class of wireless TV station at that time at a young age.

Lan Jieying, who is outstanding in appearance and gifted, successfully started her acting career after graduation. She is full of spirituality and has mastered all kinds of roles, so she was successfully appointed as the heroine. According to normal logic, life seems to be just around the corner.

However, due to the lack of family education and systematic higher education, her personality shaping is flawed.

But this kind of defect is hidden and not obvious in her learning stage. Once she enters the society independently and faces major issues such as career development and life choice alone, the drawbacks of this personality defect will gradually emerge, and her career and life will be hit bit by bit, dragging her into the abyss of tragic fate step by step.

The good start of her career didn't bring her a good ending.

Due to the lack of responsibility of family background, Lan Jieying, a promising young man with a successful career, faced with a good career start, not only didn't know how to be grateful, but lost her sense of normality.

She doesn't have a clear career plan, and she can't distinguish between priorities. She doesn't cherish the only deductive career that can settle down. She is extravagant, often late to play big cards, and her work attitude is unprofessional.

So that she was banned three times by TVB, which praised her before. Her career, which should have been smooth sailing, was hit hard.

After unhappy cooperation with TVB, Lan Jieying moved to Taiwan Province Province for development, but because of her own personality and quality, she got along well with the staff in Taiwan Province Province.

But to be fair, TVB must have been a talented person at the beginning, especially a talented actor like Lan Jieying, who gave her many opportunities again and again.

But she still doesn't know what the core competitiveness of her life is, and how to turn her destiny around with her unique competitiveness.

She wasted her advantage again and again without knowing it.

Just imagine, if the parents around her are also knowledgeable people and guide her in time, maybe she will do something else in the future.

Unfortunately, this assumption will not happen.

Thus, due to the influence of childhood family environment, Lan Jieying is extremely insecure and lacks emotional communication and trust with outsiders. So she is always stubborn and withdrawn and won't get along with others.

In the 1990s, Lan Jieying, who returned to TVB, starred in the classic drama "The Great Times", and gave full play to his deductive talent, even shining.

However, Lan Jieying still doesn't know how to use his brilliant talents to pave the way for his career, and he doesn't know how to get the maximum material return for himself. She was insecure since she was a child, but when she grew up, she didn't know how to work hard to make money and consolidate her life.

She always lacks a clear understanding of herself. She doesn't know what she is good at and what her shortcomings are.

So that her later fate became even more bleak: first, she blindly invested in real estate and lost all her savings, and then she lost her beauty and income. Finally, she was insulted by two bosses in the industry and went insane. She died alone at home at the age of 55. ...

A generation of famous actresses died tragically in people's sighs, and there was not even a relative around them when they died. So sad!

It can be seen that being born in a family can really dominate a person's fate, which determines whether a person is full of vitality at the beginning of his fate and whether he has enough confidence to embark on the road of life.

There is no denying that everyone wants to be an expert in reincarnation, to be born in a relatively rich and perfect family, to absorb enough energy for a lifetime and to walk through life smoothly.

But unfortunately, none of us can choose our birth, let alone our biological parents. But in life, in addition to the vitality that can be given by the family.

We can choose too many things, such as courage, strength, work, study and so on. These are the qualities and opportunities that God gives to everyone equally, and they can also supplement the vitality of our lives and help us overcome the rough life.

I believe that as long as we have firm faith and unyielding spirit, a kind heart, work hard and do our own life support machine, everyone can break through the shackles of family background and live a unique life of high.