When I’m sad, just leave me alone丨Adult’s self-salvation

Hello everyone~

This is the rise of the bottom~

I am Erdu~

I am crossing others and crossing myself~

"I am sorry for being born as a human being." "I will never trouble others during the spring, summer, autumn and winter that I can spend alone."

I always think about how to comfort myself in 2020 .

After thinking about it for a long time, there is still no result.

I don’t know if you have encountered such a situation in your life. We live very hard and persevere, but occasionally we still feel like we are out of control and can’t sleep. Even if you try very hard, you still won't be able to sleep, and it will be accompanied by sadness.

Eat alone, sleep alone, live well alone, go to work alone, get off work alone, digest the criticism of the leader alone, walk alone on the road without street lights in the early morning.

In 2020, most of us have found that we have done a lot of things alone this year.

But the saddest thing is that the sadness is still like a cold when the seasons change. You are obviously prepared, but you are still caught off guard.

It is never easy to spend time alone.

My friend Xiao Yang will contact everyone around him. As a girl, Xiaotian can only dress up beautifully and go shopping alone, never eating hot pot.

It seems that lonely people have various ways to cope with their sadness.

I also cherish my own space.

A 23-year-old girl has just graduated and is working in a new first-tier city like Xi'an. In addition to solving her own life difficulties, she has to try her best to deal with the relationships with everyone around her, because the newly graduated At that time, her first master told her: "People are the most difficult to serve. Sometimes you should never lose your temper at anyone."

This simple girl followed the motto of her predecessors. But what is the reality? To please everyone, you have to accommodate everyone. It is too difficult for a young girl to let her own sense of existence dim when others shine.

2020 will be difficult for her. Because she owed Huabei 2,000 yuan to prepare a birthday gift for her boyfriend. Maybe it was this simple love that made her have a headache over the 2,000 yuan.

Occasionally, she worked overtime until everyone got off work before she finished her work. It was already eleven o'clock when I got home. In order to take care of her stomach, she has to cook for herself. But the roommate who shared the house did not take care of the girl at all. Halfway through the meal, she had no choice but to eat instant noodles.

After eating instant noodles, she called her boyfriend to talk, but her boyfriend was very perfunctory. Just get some sleep as usual.

But she cried all night. The next day she went to work and lived as if nothing had happened.

A friend I met in Shanghai posted on WeChat Moments on Christmas Eve that he had broken up.

It seems that life is like this. Some people have it, and some people lose it, just like the stars in the sky will light up when they dim.

The reason turned out to be a small thing, something too small to care about.

"Other people have girlfriends" is just a simple sentence.

Zhang Long, who had planned to spend Christmas with his girlfriend after working overtime in a hurry, lost his confidence. The two people who had already settled down began to deal with the relationship that they had finally built up with each other.

Zhang Long suddenly became sad because of his girlfriend's words. But the girlfriend didn't notice it, let alone how to detect such emotions?

There was no time to calm down. Zhang Long quit his job the next day, packed his luggage and returned to Xi'an without saying anything.

And of course, in order to get off work early, he was interviewed by his boss.

Almost no one in the company left. It's not that the boss is unreasonable, but it's that the company doesn't have much business at the end of the year, and after finally getting it, everyone still puts making money first.

Zhang Long, who felt aggrieved, originally thought that if things went wrong at work, he could always make up for it emotionally. However, he hurried home without even buying a bouquet of flowers, which made his girlfriend feel emotional.

It was just a moment of sadness that Zhang Long lost his job years ago. And her girlfriend just lost someone who really loved her.

Zhang Long didn't even know when this sadness appeared. Maybe it was the pressure at the end of the year, or maybe it was the pressure from his girlfriend. Anyway. He couldn't explain clearly.

Liu Hong, who has been unemployed for four months this year, has finally become the bad boy in the eyes of her parents.

I don’t wake up until ten o’clock in the morning, and the biggest workload every day is to check my mobile phone. For the person introduced by the parents, it is just to meet and have some delicious food. I was even scolded by other parents for treating their children as meal tickets.

After 4 months, Liu Hong is no longer the sensible and well-behaved daughter in the eyes of her parents. Sometimes she even quarrels with her brother over a piece of chocolate.

Liu Hong had no choice anyway. She was unemployed and finding work was not easy.

One day while eating, my father and mother had a serious chat about the past with this 26-year-old girl.

"The tuition fee is 200,000, the house is 60,000, and the cost from childhood to adulthood is 30,000."

The reality that Liu Hong escaped was finally put in front of her by those closest to her. Liu Hong, who didn't know how to answer, burst into tears. The sadness that suddenly surged into her heart made her uncontrollable tears turn cold.

I closed the door and slept straight for three days. When her parents really had no other choice, Liu Hong packed her luggage. I left home with red and swollen eyes.

She bought a bus ticket and arrived in Shanghai. Unaccompanied and sad, she had her first job interview since graduation. She failed. again and again. Within a week, she found a studio filled with young people. After a simple interview, she was successfully admitted. The salary was pitiful, but there was one condition that she couldn't refuse: control.

After working for a month. She finally got through the phone call.

"I found a job, everything is fine."

Dududu~~~~

After hanging up the phone, she looked at the Shanghai night Wiped away tears. It seems that the huge city and the cold wind blowing in her face have made this girl more aware of the importance of independence.

Perhaps, there is really no such thing as empathy in this world. Occasionally a little luck will make us work harder, but occasional little emotions will also make us do something that affects us.

In fact, there is really no good or effective comfort in this world. Occasionally, I will be laughed at when I talk to my friends about my concerns. Occasionally, I will cry suddenly when I look at the light sign on the roadside.

In short, most of the time in life we ??face it alone.

So at the beginning of the new year, I hope that each of us will be prepared. Be ready to redeem yourself at any time who is working so hard to live a good life.

Come on. 2021!

Come on. Everyone!

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Thanks for reading.

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