Why are many children afraid of going to school?

Stories around me prefer to stay at home alone * Tintin's mother said: In September this year, Tintin entered the first grade of primary school, thinking that she would be very happy. But she doesn't fall in love with school like other children, and prefers to stay at home alone. I told her father to send her to school, which always made her cry. A mother told me about her son's change;

I have a good son, Xiao Tong, who is the leader of the Young Pioneers. He is excellent in character and learning, and his academic performance is among the best. He has been rated as "three good students" year after year. Who knows that the good times will not last long, and everything will disappear so quickly. It was a sultry morning. It was time for my son to get up for school, but he was uncharacteristically unwilling to get up with a quilt and was indifferent to his parents' attention. He just said, "Don't bother me." He didn't get up until around nine o'clock and said seriously, "I'm not going to study." Speaking of school, I feel worse than death. " Since then, whenever it is time to go to school, he always turns pale with nervousness, either running to the toilet or vomiting or going to the emergency department with a stomachache. All the examination results were normal, and all the symptoms disappeared by themselves in the afternoon. Finally, the psychologist diagnosed his son as "school phobia". Serious mental illness of children in psychological teahouse: why does an excellent student feel so nervous and scared when he regards school as a battlefield? The main reasons are too serious, timid, sensitive, and parents, teachers or their own high expectations, which make them in a state of tension for a long time. Once an academic failure, it will become a fuse, causing school phobia. The child has been ranked first in the class for a long time and has never been frustrated in his studies. What is the trigger of his school phobia? If you don't ask, you will be shocked when you ask. It turns out that the total score of the second place in the mid-term exam is only half a point less than that of my son. Therefore, I am extremely nervous, and I feel that my first place is faltering, which makes me feel uneasy. I don't want to attend classes and do my homework, and my academic performance has plummeted. He realized that the end was coming, so he committed suicide many times. Every time, he hesitated at the thought of his parents' expectations. Finally, he simply deserted and refused to go to school.

When people feel some kind of threat or pressure and are unable to cope, they will be in a state of mental tension. Stress can also lead to a series of physiological changes: increased secretion of adrenaline and norepinephrine, autonomic nervous dysfunction, increased heart rate, pale skin, frequent urination, gastrointestinal dysfunction (nausea, vomiting, abdominal pain), sweating, headache, shaking hands and so on. This is a group of physical symptoms accompanied by fear. Fear is the cause, and physical symptoms are the result. When the fear is relieved, the physical symptoms disappear. Fear caused by study or school situation is called "school phobia", which is a kind of phobia.

School phobia is a serious psychological disease of children. It is more common in pupils aged 7- 12. Because of various bad psychological factors, students are afraid of going to school and studying, so they have a horrible psychology, so they are also called "phobia".

The three characteristics of school phobia are fear of going to school, and even openly refusing to go to school. During the onset, if parents force their children to go to school, their anxiety will increase. If parents agree not to go to school for the time being, their anxiety will be relieved immediately. The symptoms of anxiety disorder are: fidgeting, anxiety, pallor, cold sweat, rapid heart rate, shortness of breath, and even vomiting, abdominal pain, frequent urination and urgency. For students who are relatively strong, confident, cheerful or have low expectations of themselves, learning pressure will not cause psychological threat or tension. If you are too strict with yourself, force yourself to complete the learning goals that you can't achieve, and pay too much attention to scores and rankings, you will inevitably fall into an extremely anxious, worried and nervous emotional experience. Without a good mood, you often can't concentrate on your studies, and it is inevitable that your grades will drop. Only when people are in a happy emotional state can their attention, memory and thinking ability be at their best. Moderate pressure is motivation, and excessive pressure will become resistance. Excellent psychological quality is more important than excellent academic performance. The reasons for parents' internet phobia are very complicated, such as congenital quality, improper home-school education and bad social environment. As far as family education is concerned, both parents want to have a successful child. This beautiful expectation from relatives will inspire children to keep forging ahead and make unremitting efforts. However, when this expectation far exceeds the child's ability, this kind desire will be transformed into the child's psychological burden. In particular, if parents are too strict and anxious, they will reprimand, satirize or beat and scold if their academic performance is slightly poor, which will make children too nervous and become a negative factor affecting their study. In terms of children's own quality, some children can't keep up with their studies. Although they have psychological pressure, they don't all have school phobia. Most children with this disease are withdrawn, timid, passive and dependent. When they are young, they are often stimulated by some fears. For example, if they refuse to sleep because they are naughty, their parents turn off the lights and lead to darkness. At the same time, they use wolves, tigers and even monsters to scare children into going to bed early, which will affect their psychological endurance. The pressure of studying was too great, and I felt a little unbearable, so I skipped school to escape the pressure. For example, some children's grades are not very good. Instead of trying to help him catch up, his parents kept putting pressure on him and demanding and restraining him with a severe punishment system. It is easy for children to lose confidence in learning and take evasive behavior. In school, some teachers can't adopt the correct education methods for their children, but treat them with punishment, reprimand and severe criticism in front of their classmates. These practices are also easy to make children feel afraid of school life. One of my students is timid, afraid to speak in public, and always flinches when encountering things. According to the mother, the child was lively and outgoing before going to kindergarten, and he smiled happily when he met people. At the age of two, I went to a kindergarten for two days. I was scared by my aunt in kindergarten and cried for two days. On the third day, on her way to the kindergarten by bike, the child kept saying "no, no". They were getting closer and closer to the kindergarten, and the child became more and more anxious and cried. Finally, they wanted to jump off the bike, which forced the mother to take the child back. After a long time, children often wake up from their dreams and shout "Don't go to kindergarten, auntie-fight", which has caused deep harm to children and even affected their future personality development. The mother regretted afterwards that she shouldn't have sent her child to this kindergarten and made her cry for so long, which became a heart disease from then on. When children are timid, they feel guilty inside. She tried many methods, but she couldn't make the child bold. Instigation and intimidation by some bad elements in society, robbing money halfway, make children embark on the road of weariness and fear of learning. There are several things parents can do to teach their children wonderful ways. After finding out the reasons, parents can take corresponding measures to correct their children's unhealthy psychology. According to the reasons listed above, parents can mainly do the following: stimulate their children's interest in campus life. You can tell children some interesting knowledge or jokes. These anecdotes are most related to school life. Children will feel the happiness of campus life from the stories told, so they yearn for school life. Change children's old lifestyle. After all, family life cannot be equated with school life. Comparatively speaking, family life is more free and there is no need for strict regulations. At school, the time requirements for class, class and school are very strong, which may make children uncomfortable. Listen to the child's inner thoughts. When parents find that their children have resistance to teachers, they should listen carefully to their children's voices and take appropriate solutions. If it is a child's extreme understanding or behavioral mistakes, parents should actively guide them; If the teacher's handling of the problem is one-sided or wrong, parents should actively exchange views with the teacher to resolve the child's resistance. Cultivate children's ability to get along with other children, and don't develop the bad habit that children only have their own eyes. In this way, children will gradually adapt to group life, become generous and cheerful, and love to contact people. Guide children to put themselves in other people's shoes, let them learn to consider and deal with problems from the perspective of others, create situations for children to experience the difficulties of teachers personally, improve the relationship between teachers and students in the process, and reduce or avoid children's resistance to teachers. Never criticize children or express dissatisfaction with teachers simply and rudely before finding out the truth. This will not allow children to get education from it, nor will it ease the contradiction between teachers and students, and it will also increase children's dislike of teachers. Get in touch with the child's teacher and change the child's resistance to school through the teacher's assistance. Parents should know their children's performance at school, and teachers should also know their children's performance at home, which is extremely important for parents and teachers to educate their children and avoid their resistance to school. Ask a psychological professional for psychotherapy. Relaxation therapy is an effective way to help these children overcome fear and relieve anxiety symptoms.