What did your parents do that unintentionally hurt you?

Xiao Leng felt that she was not happy at all, because some of the things her parents did always hurt her unintentionally.

Parents always compare themselves with other people’s children. When they fail in an exam, they will always say: Look, where did so-and-so’s child get in the exam? Can you please give me some advice? It’s really troublesome to have an unmotivated child like you. Maybe Xiao Leng's parents just said it casually. Their purpose was just to let Xiao Leng study hard and get better grades. However, what they didn't know was that their words left the seeds of inferiority in Xiao Leng's heart. .

My parents always think they are doing the best for Xiao Leng. Xiao Leng doesn't have to do any work at home. When Xiao Leng wants to do some work within his ability, his parents always say: Come on, come on, I will do all the work. You just read your book and think about what to do. Learning well is the right thing to do. Xiao Leng couldn't do anything well at school and was ridiculed by her classmates. Xiao Leng felt aggrieved. Her parents did everything for her and didn't let her get involved. Now she has become a complete incompetent.

Xiao Leng likes to doodle and draw, and her parents always say: I want you to study hard, not to doodle. Xiao Leng thinks that painting is also her hobby. The teacher in art class even praised her. Why did her parents turn her into criticism? Xiao Leng felt aggrieved. Parents believed that playing the piano was a hobby that girls should cultivate, so they enrolled Xiao Leng in interest classes and hired tutors, but Xiao Leng didn't like playing the piano. Xiao Leng feels that she is not her parents' doll, and she wants her parents to have their own interests and hobbies.

My parents always criticize me in crowded places. Xiao Leng feels that although she is a child, her parents criticize her in front of so many people, which makes her very embarrassed. "Why can't we go home and criticize again?" She thought, Mom and Dad are always like this, I don't like them at all.

Xiao Leng had several good friends at school. During the holidays, they came to Xiao Leng’s home to play with her. When their parents found out that there were male classmates at home, they scolded Xiao Leng afterwards, thinking that Xiao Leng should not treat her The male classmates brought him home to play and said, "The neighbors will laugh when they see her. How unbecoming it is to hang out with male classmates at such a young age. You are not allowed to associate with male classmates in the future. You must put your studies first." Xiao Leng's eyes were red. Why did her parents say this to her? She was just a normal classmate. Xiao Leng was very sad. Why are her parents always so self-righteous and only believe in their own judgment? Why can't they believe in themselves?

Xiao Leng wants to talk to his parents and express his inner feelings. Because some of their unintentional actions always hurt her. She wanted to tell her parents: Don't always hurt me in the name of love. Although I know you love me, your unintentional actions and words have planted seeds of inferiority and sadness in my heart. We are equal subjects. I have independent thoughts. I hope my parents will respect me and we can have equal conversations.