What is it like to be given birth to a second child at a relative’s banquet? How to "fight" back?

No matter what others say, whether it is because of preference for boys over girls, always answer with "Yeah, you're right", that is, agree sincerely, or smile on the surface. This is the principle of reaching out and not hitting the smiling person. Realistic version: "It's not that I don't want to have children, the key is that I don't have money." Euphemistic version: "I listen to my husband." Perverse version: "Yeah, you're right." It's true that young people nowadays have a lot of pressure in their lives. There is pressure from society and pressure from their high demands, so please give them more independent space and the right to choose. Relatives are only relatives if they do what they should do.

The reason why young people now do not have a second child is simply because of the high cost of raising children. Kindergartens costing two to three thousand a month, plus various tutoring classes, have overwhelmed young people who rely on work for a living. Not to mention the labor cost of taking care of a second child, it is said that the monetary cost of having a second child can affect the quality of life of almost all young people, and even greatly reduce Dabao's original comfortable material foundation. This is absolutely unacceptable to young people who pursue quality of life. In fact, for single-child families, having a second child does have some benefits. For example, two children can be together and not be so lonely. From my personal perspective, this is the only advantage.

As for the future, when we get old and sick, we expect more children to take care of us, share the burden, and even discuss whether to extubate. I feel like this is bullshit. Who can guarantee that all children are so filial? Who can guarantee that children have the ability or time to share? Giving birth is a matter between husband and wife, and no matter how much others promise to help them, they may not be able to refer to it. With a strong heart, you won’t worry about anything others say. Generally speaking, the elderly do not meet each other a few times a year to cope with childbirth. In fact, the old people have good intentions. They are afraid that when we get old, our children will be too few and no one will take care of them. Be careful not to break the old man's heart with your words.

In fact, whether to have a second child has always been a controversial topic. Some people say: "The first child is a daughter, and having a son can prevent aging." This is the most superficial reason for having a second child. For those parents who have a second child, I don’t think it’s because they have money or time, or because they want to raise a son and a daughter. More importantly, they want to keep a partner and a close relative for their children in this era of competitive pressure. Parents who are willing to have a second child must have made a lot of determination in their hearts. Parents who don’t want to have a second child don’t care what others say. After all, caring for a child wholeheartedly is an amazing thing! Education is the most important when you have few children. I advise those who are urging you to have a second child to take care of yourself. Papa Bao and Ma Bao know what they are.