What should I do if online dating feels very flustered?

Most of the time, what bothers us about online dating is not the distance, but the situation in from ruin when we meet in a hurry. After all, we haven't really contacted the other half in the online dating stage, so there will be some deviations between our understanding of each other and the real person, which will lead to the discovery that the other party is not their ideal type after meeting.

Therefore, even if the previous love is inseparable, once it is found that the other person is not the type he wants at all, most people still can't accept this relationship, which leads to the breakdown of the relationship.

In fact, it's not that terrible to see death. The core reason for seeing death is that expectations are not met, and either party of two people finds that the other party is not ideal enough. So to solve it, we just need to do these three things well before meeting.

1. The displayed image must be consistent with your real image.

Therefore, if your face value is not ideal, it's best to take a good picture of the girl first, and try to choose the photo closest to me, so that the girl's expectation of you is consistent with your real score, effectively avoiding the sense of loss after the girl meets.

Honesty is the key to the success of online dating. If we give a girl an inconsistent feeling, she will have a serious discomfort to you, and even wonder if the man in front of her is the lover who has been waiting for her for a long time.

2. Confirm whether the three views fit.

Things that have different views will seriously affect feelings. If you don't communicate these problems well in online dating, you will find that there are so many contradictions when you arrive at the scene, so it is inevitable that from ruin will come.

So, if you are going to run with a girl, you must discuss the three views with her. Only by understanding this can you run in, bring the opposite direction closer to the type that the other party wants, or accept the part that the other party does not meet your ideal.

If the three views can be well integrated in the online dating stage, then this relationship can continue to develop. If online dating really can't run in, it's time to stop, otherwise the probability of death is high.

3. Set a low expectation before meeting.

When people are in online dating, they actually fantasize about each other as their ideal partner and impose many beautiful expectations and fantasies on that person.

In fact, the other person can't completely meet your expectations of your ideal partner, and it's not as perfect as the impression you formed through the Internet.

This is also the most troublesome point of online dating. When online dating, our impressions and cognition of lovers are basically based on perception. Sometimes an expression, a sentence, it is very likely that what she wants to express is different from what you understand. What you know about her comes from your imagination, and because you have a strong affection for her, your brain will subconsciously beautify her.

Many deviations often lead us to expect too much from online dating objects, and many people actually die of such high expectations.