Others cannot empathize with you

Sometimes, when I feel depressed, I will go to others to express my feelings, but after talking for a long time, the other person will just say "uh, oh, um" or send a few expressions to deal with it. At this time, I discovered that only you can feel your grievances, unhappiness, and depression, and others will always be just listeners. My friend, Little A, has always been very honest during college. The only time I was impulsive was when I helped someone else write an English composition during the final exam of my freshman year, and I happened to be caught by the teacher. The outcome was miserable: a serious warning, severe punishment, and no chance to retake the exam. In this way, the student who was helped to write the essay failed to change his major. Maybe you all think that you are stupid enough to be caught cheating on exams. However, that was the first time in Xiao A’s life that he helped others cheat, and it was also the first time that he was punished by the school. Little A was very scared, but he still told his parents truthfully. Their parents were also very angry after hearing this, but later they felt that being angry could not change anything, so they told Little A to pay attention in the future and avoid causing trouble. Little A did the same thing.

? Later, the school had a subway to recruit students (Little A is a junior college student). Little A felt that it was quite close to her hometown, so she signed up with the mentality of giving it a try. She did not expect that she would be able to enroll in the school. I was called for an interview and was filled with joy. But later, her punishment and grades caused her to be rejected during the interview. She would be lying if she said she wasn't sad, but she still pretended not to care with a smile on her face. I asked her: "Why don't you find someone to talk to?" She said: "It's useless. When I cheated and received punishment, everyone in the dormitory took it as a joke and kept talking in front of me, and I I can only echo it, because even if I say it, they can't understand it, because I am the one who is arrested, and I am the one who is punished. They are just spectators, and they cannot understand my feelings without my situation. And sometimes, they are even more Many times I feel that I am the one who brought it on myself. Do I need to talk about it? It only adds to their after-dinner entertainment topics. I admit that I am the one who brought it on myself. I wanted to seek comfort from others, but in the end I found out that I could. The only one who comforts herself is that there is really no need to tell others about some things." Since Xiao A was dismissed, she felt that she could no longer make such mistakes, so she began to set new goals for herself and move towards herself step by step. of the future. But when you chat with her, you won't hear a single complaint.

?Don’t talk about empathy. There is really no such thing in the world. The person who had the accident is you and not someone else. How can they empathize? Do you want them to make the same mistakes as you? That's useless, people are different, their moods are different, and their feelings are naturally different. Don't tell others about your grievances and dissatisfaction. Others will not be able to give you the comfort you want, and they may even think that you deserve it. We should learn to digest those bad things and emotions by ourselves, and learn to understand ourselves.