Why should Anjie in "Parents' Love" be more elegant and happy than "Golden Wedding"?

"Parental Love" and "Golden Wedding" are two of my favorite period dramas. Although they were broadcast seven or eight years apart, because they are the same genre, they both tell the story of the love of parents in the last century. and married life, so it seems to have a lasting feeling.

The heroines of both dramas were beautiful young artistic women before marriage, innocent and full of fantasies about love. Although they all came to the end with their significant other, behind their consummation of "holding hands and growing old together" are two completely different kinds of happiness: Anjie is the happiness of fusion, and Wenli is the happiness of surrender. of happiness. The happiness of integration is far higher than the happiness of compromise, so Anjie is much happier than Wenli.

In fact, An Jie and Wen Li started from the same place. Both were educated, knowledgeable and cultured, and were full of beautiful longings for love and marriage. An Jie had just started to contact Jiang Defu. Although he felt a little clinging to him, he was still in love, and he developed love through constant contact. From the very beginning, Wen Li and Tong Zhi were in love with each other, and the concubine was interested in them. In the end, things came naturally and they got married.

Two women who are married for love, two marriages with the same starting point, because they meet different men, meet different husbands and wives, and have different economic conditions, which leads to Anjie and Wenli in their respective relationships. The situations in marriage are also very different, and the states of two people are also completely different.

Why is this? In fact, there are mainly three differences.

A different man

Naval officer Jiang Defubi Machinery Factory technician Tong Zhi is not only capable and able to make money, but also particularly dedicated to feelings.

Let’s first focus on the difference in social status between Jiang Defu and Tong Zhi. In terms of the two men’s feelings and attitudes towards their wives, Jiang Defu did much better than Tong Zhi.

Although Jiang Defu had been married once, ever since he fell in love with An Jie, he has been the only woman in his heart. In order to marry An Jie, he ignored his career and had the aura of "wanting beauty rather than power". In this regard, it was better than Tong Zhi blamed Wen Li for dragging his family and begging the leader to transfer him back, thus blocking his official career. , I don’t know how many times better. Not to mention, Tong Zhi also had an ambiguous emotional entanglement with Li Tianjiao, which caused Wen Li to suffer mental torture.

When Anjie first came to the island, he was not used to the public dry toilets that everyone in the countryside used. Jiang Defu said: "If I had known you had so many problems, I would have been a bachelor for the rest of my life." I won’t marry you.” But he turned around and built a toilet in his yard. Tong Zhi, however, chose to leave his family in a world where he had an old man and a young man. On the surface, it was official business, but it was not without suspicion of escaping.

Jiang Defu bought Anjie a lifetime of coffee. Even though he was not used to it, he respected Anjie's life of "drinking water from a cup, drinking tea from a teacup, and drinking coffee from a coffee cup." But Tong Zhi regards Wen Li's high-minded literary and artistic skills as hypocrisy, and even hopes that she will become the vulgar Mrs. Zhuang next door.

Perhaps, because of Jiang Defu's smooth career, in the Jiang family, even if children were born one after another, there were never any quarrels over money. Due to various ties, Tong Zhi's career development was not very smooth. In addition, children were born one after another, and the couple often had troubles over money.

A man determines 70% of whether a woman is happy in a marriage. Marrying a man like Jiang Defu, who is capable, dedicated and doting on his wife, would make it difficult for An Jie to be unhappy. Most women want to marry Jiang Defu, but the man they end up marrying is Tong Zhi.

A different kind of mother-in-law's family

Anjie has a sister-in-law who does her best to help, but Wenli faces the dislike of her "natural enemy" mother-in-law every day.

Although Anjie has given birth to 5 children, he has almost never experienced the trivial life of raising children, living a life burdened by life, and managing the trivial life of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. All of this has been borne and replaced by my sister-in-law Jiang Dehua, who has not remarried since she became a widow for decades.

Anjie is the eldest daughter of a capitalist, knowledgeable, etiquette, and a lady, while her sister-in-law is a widow from the countryside with no knowledge or culture. Although the two of them had many conflicts at the beginning, and they were not interested in each other. However, through the running-in and mutual adaptation between Jiang Defu's He Xini and his sister-in-law, in the end, unknowingly, the two sisters-in-law regarded each other as the most important people in their lives.

Wenli's mother-in-law disliked Wenli as her daughter-in-law from the beginning, and used various means to embarrass Wenli and establish her prestige as a mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law brainwashed and transformed Wenli many times to teach her to be man-centered and to serve her husband. Tong Zhi had to go to work just like Wenli. After get off work, Wenli was asked by her mother-in-law to cook and do housework. Zhi Ze became a hands-off shopkeeper.

As for the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Tong Zhi, as a son and a husband, never took the initiative to solve the problem and passively avoided it every time. This made Wenli gradually become an unpopular tomboy and an unpopular woman. Resentful woman.

No matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, they can’t stand a mother-in-law who makes troubles and behaves. This is not unreasonable at all. The quality of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law directly affects the happiness index of a woman and even a family.

Different personalities

Anjie has a sense of life and knows how to be grateful, while Wenli only knows how to quarrel and complain.

The fact that Anjie, a bourgeois lady, was able to live so smoothly in that era was the biggest reward for her marrying Jiang Defu. However, she did not act as if she was being sheltered and was obedient. Her nature was not suppressed. She still had her temper, likes and dislikes, willfulness and freedom.

Jiang Defu is recognized by everyone as "hepecked" and Anjie always tries to coax her when she is acting petty, but in fact, afterward, she will do self-reflection and sincerely apologize. When Jiang Defu is in need, An Jie will become a docile and obedient little daughter-in-law, giving her husband enough face.

Ke Wenli often lost control of her mind when things happened after her marriage. She disliked the child in her belly, so she jumped around in an attempt to miscarry; after giving birth to three daughters in a row, she even refused to watch her. One glance at her newborn; after discovering that her husband was cheating on her, she ran away from home like crazy, regardless of the child's pleading.

I rarely see Anjie acting aggressively in the drama, but Wenli has a lot of them. Not to mention their different family upbringings, they were all innocent ladies before marriage. In addition to the different attitudes of the male protagonists, another big difference is that Anjie's interest in married life has always been there. When fetching water on the island, he has to wear skirts and high heels. He feels that doing housework should also be aesthetically pleasing, which has caused many jokes. . The island is remote, but you can also plant flowers and drink coffee comfortably in the yard, always with a sweet smile on your face.

After getting married, Wenli became more and more pragmatic, and her literary and artistic talents were exhausted in the busy work of making firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. Sometimes I wonder, if Wen Li agrees to go to the concert with Tong Zhi and regains the beautiful feeling when she was in love, Li Tianjiao's situation will not be the same.

A woman’s state in marriage is 50% her husband and 50% herself. A woman’s happiness actually depends on herself in the end. You will find that women who live happily after marriage , no matter who you marry will be happy; a woman who is unhappy after marriage will be unhappy no matter who she marries.

The above are the three reasons why An Jie in "Parents' Love" is happier than Wen Li in "Golden Wedding".

Some people say that "Parental Love" is a fairy tale of marriage and love for adults, while "Golden Wedding" is the reality of marriage. No matter what, I hope that women all over the world can have a stable and practical happiness like Anjie.

True love and a good marriage include the beauty of first meeting, but also the cruelty of life. What’s more, they are still each other’s best choice and dependence when we meet again, and we are still willing to hold hands for the rest of our lives. I hope we can all meet such love and marriage!