Is it useful to see a psychiatrist if there is a problem in your marriage?

For marital disharmony caused by psychological reasons, seeing a psychologist can promote marital harmony to a certain extent.

In the field of psychology, there is a joke: There is a man called Xiaofan who pees his pants nervously every time he encounters something. This moment left him devastated and ashamed.

Later, Xiaofan’s friends suggested that he see a psychiatrist. Two months later, when my friend met Xiaofan again, he asked him if he had gotten better after seeing a psychiatrist.

Xiao Fan happily told his friend, "I am much better now." His friend asked him doubtfully, "You mean it was cured in such a short time?"

Xiaofan said: "No, no, I no longer feel ashamed after peeing my pants."

This joke can probably illustrate the role of psychological counseling.

To illustrate this problem, let me give a real case. Dr. Tang once had a client. Let’s call this client Ms. Lin. Recently, Ms. Lin's marital life has not been harmonious. So she found Dr. Tang's psychological clinic.

It turns out that Ms. Lin’s husband often failed in his marital life. Premature ejaculation occurred every time at critical moments. This made Ms. Lin lose confidence in her marital life.

At Dr. Tang’s suggestion, Ms. Lin asked her husband, Mr. Zhou, to do family consultation together.

During the consultation, Mr. Zhou vented the pain and depression in his heart over the past six months. It turned out that his premature ejaculation was mental. During one marriage, Ms. Lin said to him, "Why are you so useless?"

Mr. Zhou has memorized this sentence since then. Every time he is married, he will subconsciously think of his lover's complaint. The more anxious he gets, the less he can do it.

Later, after Dr. Tang’s psychological consultation, Mr. Zhou regained his confidence as a husband, and his married life returned to normal.