When people reach middle age, they have to be "cowardly"

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Some people say that adults collapse silently. Sometimes they have already cried heartbreakingly in their hearts while pretending to be calm and calm on the outside.

When people reach middle age, their lives have long been put into silent mode.

Introduction: Some people say, "As people reach middle age, they become more and more timid as they live. They are afraid that the elderly will get sick, their children will get into trouble, and they will lose their jobs." What do you think of this?

When people reach middle age, they no longer have the frivolity of youth and cannot enjoy the happiness of family. They are still burdened by the family burden of "the elder and the younger" and the anxiety of housing and car loans. They dare not offend easily. The boss's concerns about changing jobs...

Therefore, when encountering setbacks, we no longer stubbornly face the difficulties and fight to the death, but gradually learn to reconcile with life.

To be willing to give in to life is not to admit defeat, but to learn that preserving yourself is more important than competing for fame and fortune. To be willing to give in to others is not to admit that you are weak, but to learn to let yourself go and let others go. .

Middle-aged people in their thirties and forties, some old and some young, have mortgages, car loans, medical expenses for the elderly, tutoring fees for children... In their world, in addition to getting fat and Nothing about growing old is easy.

I saw this joke on the Internet: Don’t scold young people casually, because they may resign immediately without any scruples; but you can blame a middle-aged man.

This sentence may be considered a joke to many young people, but it hits the pain point of many middle-aged people.

Young people, young and energetic, can give up their jobs at any time and take a trip at any time.

But as we enter middle age, we have many more constraints. One salary is the source of expenditure for the family. We have to rely on this salary to support the family and rely on the salary to pay off the mortgage and car loans. We no longer have the same financial resources as before. The courage to leave immediately was replaced by worries again and again.

In the lives of middle-aged people, their body and life no longer belong only to themselves. There are parents, wives and children who look forward to them at home. Starting from a certain age, we no longer want to go to the end of the world with our swords, but we have to go home no matter how late we are; we no longer pursue exciting adventures, but become cautious and cherish our lives.

Because living is not just for yourself, but for more meaning.

Remember "Get Out!" In "Tumor King", the heroine Xiong Dun, who is always positive and optimistic in the face of terminal illness, cried until she collapsed in front of her mother for the first time.

Before she died, she hugged her mother and said in a low but firm voice: "Mom, I know this is difficult for you and it is also difficult for me. I am really sorry."

In fact, Xiong Dun is not afraid of death, but really worried. She couldn't bear to let her grey-haired parents experience the pain of a white-haired person giving away a black-haired person; she couldn't bear to let her favorite lover experience the despair of longing for her to the extreme; and she couldn't bear to let her young children endure the world alone. of absurdity and nothingness.

When she was desperate, a colleague introduced her to a job where she could earn 300,000 yuan:

Writing a biography for a boss’s father. However, this boss was the person Sheng Nan looked down upon the most, so when they were discussing cooperation, they had a disagreement and Sheng Nan tore up the contract on the spot.

But later, she had to lower her head, apologize, and go to Yunshan to write a book. Because the other party holds his life-saving money in his hand.

Giving up does not mean admitting that you have lost, nor does it mean giving up the morality you insist on, but it is something you do as a last resort because of the pressure of life.

In order to survive and for the future of oneself and others, one has no choice but to do things against one's own wishes and has to bow to life and compromise.

When people reach middle age, they can no longer act like children and have a temper, nor can they do whatever they want.

I have gained a lot of life experience, and after being beaten by society, I have become more and more aware of what is most precious, so I am willing to give up some of my pride, and even my freedom and dignity, and Make peace with yourself and compromise with life.

When a person reaches middle age, he is like a stone that has been polished. The edges and corners have been smoothed, and the sharp edges are not revealed. He remains calm and does not lose his temper. Especially when encountering "the tip of the needle against the wheat awn", learn to If you "give in", retreat.

Get rid of your bad temper and learn to "submit weakness". After experiencing a lot of things, I gradually understood that I don’t always have to compete for the limelight, and I also gradually understood the benefits and necessity of forbearance.

So in the bumps and bumps, in the strong winds and waves, I learned to handle interpersonal relationships well. Even if the world is drifting, I still know how to stand on my toes.

Jiang Wen said in "The Dog Days of Middle Age": Middle-aged people are constantly dealing with livelihood, face, house, car, and money. Later, they found that passion is a waste for middle-aged people, and dreams are a waste for middle-aged people. Nian is a memorial arch. To be loyal and loyal, you must also be a good bitch.

The original dependence and sustenance suddenly turned into a burden. Parents grew old overnight, and children grew up overnight... When people reach middle age, stand up straight, don’t lie down. . We can't fall, we can't give up, we can't even die. ”

When people reach middle age, they often cannot help themselves. However, after so many years of hard work in the workplace, we are better able to distinguish what is precious, what can be discarded and what must be held firmly.

So, later on, we learned to admit our defeat, and we worked harder not only for ourselves but also for our families.

Written by Lao Xia Analyst

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