Should I talk to my friends or bear it alone when I encounter sad things?

In my opinion, when you encounter something sad, you still need to support yourself in most cases.

Take myself for example, in my daily life, I will inevitably encounter some sad things about learning and falling in love, such as how my academic performance is not as good as others, and there are often various contradictions between myself and my object. For these things, I think talking to friends or parents only provides you with a window to vent, and at most gives you some advice, but how to solve it really depends on you.

Some things, others may not feel the same way with you, and can only help you see the status quo clearly.

There is a saying that all happy lives are the same, and all unhappy lives have their own misfortunes, so others may not understand what you are thinking. Of course, when we are unhappy or happy, we always hope that someone can understand and tell us. It is also rare to have a friend who is willing to listen to you and comfort you.

But in the final analysis, what really relieves sadness is not that others help you separate a part, but that when you talk to your friends, sadness comes from your imagination of reality. It reduces the anxiety in your imagination through the understanding and judgment of others, so you will feel a little comfortable.

In other words, talking with friends or family can help you see your current situation and solutions.

But it's still you who plays the role. You must be able to get out.

That's why I sometimes don't want to talk to others. Even if others give me some advice, but I have no intention to alleviate or solve it myself, then I will continue to be sad.

When I am sad, I usually choose to go out for a walk alone to broaden my horizons. When the heart is big, things are small. You can also go home and see your family, so you may not feel so helpless. I sometimes go to see a movie late at night, and it is best to watch a movie in the cinema of Nuoda alone at night and think about it.

And to some extent, I feel a little grown up on my own. It's like changing from a child who depends on his parents for everything to an adult who can bear it independently. Even if some situations are worse and I feel sad, I can get through it, and sometimes I can feel a kind of self-strength.

To sum up, for me, I think it is best to carry a sad thing alone. After all, friends and family can only give you some advice and a window to vent. It depends on whether we really face it.