My husband doesn't agree to give out red envelopes. What should I do?

1, be sure to communicate with your husband first.

Living with your in-laws, you are grateful for your in-laws' efforts. You want to give them a red envelope during the Mid-Autumn Festival, or you may want to have a harmonious home. Unexpectedly, I told my husband that he didn't need it. This will really make people a little confused. Every couple may have encountered similar communication. Because two people may not express the same thing. Therefore, communication is always an important lesson for us.

The first and most important thing is to respect each other. For example, when you put forward a suggestion or idea, you always ask your husband's opinion instead of telling him a decision. I often see such communication between husband and wife: what should I do? This is to tell each other a decision. And another more effective way is: I want to do this, don't you think? Why do you have these feelings for your husband? You can ask slowly. Because every family is different, and everyone has different ideas.

2. Proceed from your own needs.

When we encounter contradictions or conflicts, we often think of direct solutions. We forget that sometimes we only pay attention to the surface of things and forget the deep needs. For example, why do you give red envelopes or gifts to your in-laws during the Mid-Autumn Festival? Do you want them to be happy? Do you want them to think that you are a very sensible daughter-in-law to express your gratitude to them? After expressing your thoughts in this way, do you feel more at ease to enjoy their care in the future?

So what does a husband need? Do you want to understand and respect each other with you? In-laws, what are their needs? This explains why the same behavior sometimes produces different effects. For example, for parents-in-law who like their children to buy gifts, they will feel satisfied and happy to see their sons and daughters-in-law buy gifts on holidays. Some in-laws want their children to help them. They cook, and the children can help clean and do other housework. Everyone has different needs or values. So we can find each other's needs by observing or chatting, which is often more effective.

3, love, need to learn.

Living with in-laws, what is your husband's relationship with his parents? Is it close? Is he satisfied with the current family model? How satisfied are his parents? What about your own feelings? After marriage, you and your husband are the nuclear family. Therefore, your relationship needs to be put first. Then, it is your husband and wife who stand together and face their respective families. They should have borders with their respective family of origin.

Some people compare our partner, who comes from a family, to our most important big customer, and it is a lifetime. When there are conceptual differences between husband and wife, how to deal with them is very important. Accept that he is different from us. As for the Mid-Autumn Festival, whether you want to buy something or not is no big deal. Through this matter, how to communicate with your husband and let him know what you think is more important.