Zhiwa's Six Assets

Emotional assets, will assets, joy assets, time assets, cognitive assets, relationship assets.

Emotional assets

Close partner

1. Who took him when he was a child? Who is the main attachment object? How is the relationship with the object? Is there conflict and separation?

Let the children know that I am welcome and loved.

This is my child, and the child will think this is my mother. My mother belongs to herself, and both sides have a sense of belonging. But there is a control in this relationship. If you listen to me, it will infringe on your child's growth, lose the feeling that you are the subject, and grow into your mother's partner. This is not a * * * relationship, so you need to pay attention. Of course, some mothers are controlled by their children. We belong to each other and are independent of each other. It is necessary to analyze your thoughts and behaviors towards your children, whether you respect them, make them feel safe, and have something to say to your mother.

Loving your mother is not only talking to your mother on holidays, but also thanking your mother for her contribution in daily life. I like it very much. I am positive and benign. My heart is rich. I can boldly pursue what I like. I didn't linger on the lack for long. I have been begging for it. Some children are always pestering their mother. They are 7-8 years old. They are poor and beg for hugs. You can't mix with your friends. When you enter adolescence, you will establish a particularly dependent relationship with your friends, and putting your emotions on your partner will have some negative effects. Did not get emotional satisfaction.

Did my family follow my children? Will I be noticed when I need it? Will my children adjust their expectations, and will they adjust their small expectations more flexibly and flexibly? Being able to contact others and make concessions can satisfy his life and diet, but at the same time, he is not particularly greedy and enough is enough. Also be cautious about language.

Family members will also have contradictions, and trust relationships will also have contradictions. Seeking common ground while reserving differences can be reconciled after a conflict and can withstand the conflict like a thunderstorm. Children's emotional adaptability is stronger. Can withstand the fight, and the emotional assets reserve is particularly good. What about the rebuilt trust?

28.30 points

Second, testamentary assets.

Now children are fragile and can't resist things. Everyone has their own comfort zone. As he grew up, he had his own stretch zone, stretch zone and panic zone. Actively exploring willpower in the stretching area will establish a new comfort zone and good willpower. Confucius said that the three armed forces can win the handsome, but ordinary people can't win the ambition. For a person, ambition is a personal will, almost a reason to be yourself. Will is the closest to action. That's easy to say. There are many ways to adjust your body in action. Will is the commander in chief of the operation. It is difficult to leave your comfort zone and try new things. On second thought, it's too difficult. You gave up at the first step, and so did your homework. You gave up before you started. Has the child ever had this situation? I didn't want to go at all, but I beat myself. Children should often have this experience. You write it down in his notebook. Today, his willpower was tested.

Did the child believe in himself and say, "mom, I'm sure I can do it. I'm absolutely sure I can do it." Psychological suggestion is very important. You believe in yourself and give yourself positive and optimistic hints. Similarly, if I am not satisfied at first, I will try to draw it again. This is how to overcome yourself, how to experience difficulties in the process, and how to command yourself. Especially when my enthusiasm is exhausted, can I have new ideas to support my will?

What are the successful experiences? Some children succeed once. Keep trying these things and don't want to surpass yourself. Did he break through himself, overcome his inertia, overcome his shortcomings and correct himself in this process? Have our children ever had one? I have it since I was 3-4 years old. How many testamentary assets have you observed children storing? Don't be afraid to experience difficulties. Children must be encouraged to be cheerleaders for their children.

Three. Huanle assets

Happiness is the starting point of all abilities.

Let the action soar. Purely attracted by action.

Children are happiest when they are creative. Write a poem, create a story and make up a joke. Tell a lie to others, and you will be particularly happy. Completing a deep thinking will also make us feel deeply happy.

The duke said: I think, therefore I am.

Imagination also makes us happy. Children will have all kinds of strange ideas, monsters with nine heads/ten legs/ten thousand tails. It is free and accessible in the imaginary space. Get the same happiness as God created the world. Everyone is his own king. Full of joy ~

Help the child find the direction of interest ~ find a place that is easy to please him, which may be his talent. For example, he is good at observing and feels that he may be talented in literature and art; He runs fast and likes sports. He may have a talent for sports. He likes philosophical questions. Why do horses run faster than people? What is the relationship between man and animals? He may think rationally and philosophically.

So is creativity ~ when he sees a pencil, he can think of sticks ~ build a house ~ be creative ~ become an architect and so on.

Joy's assets hide all his directions.

Fourth, time assets.

Children nowadays are all poor in time. There is no time at your disposal. It is occupied by schools and training. The country is also reducing the burden and upgrading the level. Children should have free time. Let him have his own intelligence, emotion and time for action. For example, emotionally, the child wants to celebrate his mother's birthday. He doesn't have time to paint ~ make crafts ~ order cakes, and he won't express his feelings. It takes time to brew, secretly design and implement. If you don't have these, please seek quick results. The ability system of emotional action is not harmonious.

I took many courses at school. Go home and do exercises. No time to digest, take time to think. The spring poems in the book have nothing to do with the observation of the outside world.

This is when I wake up easily in the spring morning? He just recited poems and moved the hard disk. Putting poetry and one's own experience together with the experience of the ancients is not a living child. How terrible

I need my children to know that I have autonomy over time ~ I am not passively waiting for the arrangement ~ I am actively making my own arrangements. Some people say that he just wants to play electronic products ~ If he had blank space when he was a child, he would have a variety of ways to play. A way to kill time. If not, he must have nothing to experience. When he has a short time, he only plays electronic products. This embodiment is the most direct and abundant. The beautiful and profound experience in real life is very slow, and it takes time to feel and experience physically and mentally.

Let the child know that when he has time, he may make a small plan, a clay doll, a small house, and want to make a whole set of designs, which will let him know that time is gradually passing and can be accumulated bit by bit, such as the power of dripping stones. Adults may not know that time is like this. You can stay in good shape for a period of time, but it's not always good. This is not forever, it will fall down after a while. There is a cycle. For example, we divide the week into seven days and there are 52 cycles in a year. The use of time is such a cycle. Children will have a good arrangement if they understand their biological psychological cycle. He needs time to understand all this. He can't do it if he has a time difference. Time is the price of growth. if

Young, leave him blank, don't coax him, he won't look for you, just let him see where it is used. If you are 8*9 years old and keep asking your mother, it will be boring. I don't know what to do. He used to be poor in time, but now it's time for him to have the initiative in his own time.

If you can find pleasure in wasting time, you are not wasting time. For example, he plays with water and rice, having a good time, observing and experiencing. Those entomologists, whose interests are really different, have helped mankind discover many species. Of course, this is the pre-Internet era. If the child gives him electronic products now and he keeps playing, it is necessary to re-measure whether the body and nerves can stand it. Wasting time in the real world. No, this is not a waste.

Without too much participation, I will master my own rhythm. Learning how to manage children from children, I have very little time, and I am my own poor. Only the time for eating is their own, and they are all working. They feel that there is not enough time. Arranging your free time and having time to study is another level of time management for yourself.

He doesn't like doing homework because he is not interested, doesn't want to start, and plays unsteadily. Have some fun before we start Mom is always controlling. Arrange your own time. The enhancement of willpower.

When I was in the first grade, I began to feel anxious after 9 o'clock when I couldn't finish writing. Go back in the afternoon to practice the piano and eat the board first, and then do your homework first. At that time, I also made a weekly plan time management table. Punch management. I didn't go to bed until 10. I finished my homework at school every day this year. When I get home, I am free to study for 40 minutes, and I have to make my own piano for 20 minutes. Take the book to the toilet. Go downstairs to play after 8 o'clock. Thank you for five days at home. I don't want to do an examination paper, I just want him to play ball in the afternoon. Kobe, I have seen Bianjing City at 3 o'clock. I talked about Kobe many times at once. I have my own management. Leave blank. Through studying, I don't care so much about my grades, as long as I can. My mind is not nervous, nor is he.

Own time management, list management. All the cards are played.

5. Cognitive assets

Whatever books you have read, a set of methodology is born in your mind. Like a hungry caterpillar. For example, spring devours all the cold, which will produce all kinds of associations.

Have you ever talked about the news, what is carbon neutrality, what is a trade war, what is an epidemic, how humans faced the plague in history, and whether children have the ability to think? What have old friends, new friends and friends gained? Do you know their occupations and their parents' trades and occupations? In the industrial division of labor, which side does human society belong to, what value it has to human beings, and what children have in mind. Today, there is a book full of news, but you can't see the changes outside, but what your parents need to explore and understand inside.

6. Relationship assets

The relationship among human beings, history, cultural relics, life, Internet and nature.

What does it have to do with nature? Childhood homeland. Changing houses has lost the concept of hometown. Go to the valley to see the four seasons naturally, and the place that will not change when you grow up. When a child grows up, seeing these childhood homeland will nourish him, and he can understand this when he is young. When he grows up and walks in the sun, he will be nourished. Do you like sunshine, experience the wind, and build relationships with everything? Grass had a relationship with flowers, and when he grew up, his compressive index was high.

What does it have to do with history, humanities, museums, artificial rules and plate making? Have you ever experienced it? Can you find the good side and the challenging side? How many experiences and contacts do you have? I only know a few historical figures, namely Zhuge Liang, Jiang Taiweng, Nezha and the Monkey King.

Soul ocean

Openness, relationship? Time? Cognition? happy

Rigid? Cognition? Will. Relationship? time

Extroverts? Cognition? Relationship? Will. time

Friendly sex? Time? Emotion? happy

Sensitive, emotionally stable? Will. Relationship? Joy？ mood

Have a spiritual ocean, return to the sea, spiritual ocean.

1 10,000-year-old Huoan people lived in Xihe.

Daytime conversation is a functional conversation.

Talk around the fire, tell stories, dance and hold ceremonies. The resulting humanity, happiness, telling stories to each other and telling stories of the day. Separation joy. Strengthen our relationship

Each of our families is such a tribe that we can't talk only during the day. Our six advantages in facing the future are story power. We can make good use of our symphony design.

10 The most important year in the course is the first year.

Help children to build a growth resource pool. Don't forget that you used to be a child. Don't forget your initial heart, especially your understanding of the power of the story. What is the driving force and energy support? How to plan time?

How to plan in the middle:

1. Help children build a growth resource pool.

2. Establish six major efforts, time planning and specific plans. How do we start? The third lecture.