Do you want the person who stabbed you in the workplace?

This question is actually very difficult to answer, but I can't help but express my feelings when I see it.

It's hard to answer because the concept of "being stabbed" in the workplace is very broad! For example, your privacy is leaked, which leads to frustration in the workplace; For another example, you were accused of doing evil and attracted criticism from leaders; Another example is being cheated in the workplace, doing a thankless thing, losing the chance of promotion, and so on. , are "stabbed". Whether to stab back or not really depends on the specific situation and the degree of injury.

If a colleague is stabbed just because he is outspoken, or the other person is an annoying "Lickitung", there is no need to pay too much attention. Otherwise, revenge will be paid, and people will not feel bullied.

I'll tell you how to stab the knife back unnoticed!

The first is to build a firewall. Remember the wise man's famous saying "just say three words, don't throw away all my heart", listen to the backstabbing villain, always update the firewall in your heart, always remind yourself not to expose your true thoughts easily, especially your views on leaders or friends, and never let this scumbag know and gossip.

The second is to choose the right time. For the villain who is reused by the leader, you must not directly say his meanness in front of the leader, but choose the right opportunity to help the leader analyze the reasons why something is not done well, and vaguely tell the leader his behavior in the unit, such as why he can't get help from his colleagues and so on. , will subtly affect the trust of leaders.

The third is to take the initiative. Mainly to confront something face to face and stink up your living environment. Finding the right opportunity made him embarrassed, made him feel extremely embarrassed, let people know that he was gossiping, and made the villain look dirtier. Often this despicable person will learn from you and dare not provoke you easily.

Evaluate your strength. If you are obviously better than him, you can suppress him in your way. If the strength is equal and you are not sure to win, then stay put and improve yourself. It's never too late for a gentleman to take revenge for ten years. Besides, when you really get to another level, look at him. He's just a clown. You really won't bother to lift a finger to him. Therefore, this is a unique advantage.

I once had a colleague who always led me to dig holes for me. At first, I was very painful. He is a typical villain, I can't compete with him. I tried to fight him back countless times, but I couldn't do what he could. If he can say it, so can I. I have to put up with such a shameless villain.

I can only continue to do my job well, and I don't care so much about the misunderstanding of the leaders, because I can't change it. After a long time, the leaders also know who they are, and what they say has no attack power. Later, I got a promotion. At this time, when I look at him again, to be honest, I'm really too lazy to look at him, let alone clean him up. If I really answer blows with blows, I will feel a little fall in price.

Therefore, the best way to deal with it is to let yourself go to the next dimension as soon as possible. At that time, some things were not things!

Author: "Remember the workplace"-65438+2008 management experience of the world's top 500 state-owned enterprises.

Remember the workplace, I only tell the truth! Welcome attention.

Whether to stab back is divided into two situations.

In the first case, if the person who stabbed you is your boss or a colleague at the same level, you must stab it back. Whether you win or lose, you have to spill blood on the spot. Don't let bullying become a habit, don't let him have a second chance.

In the second case, if the person who stabbed you is your subordinate, there is no need to stab you, just walk away coldly. It's beneath your dignity not to confront a low-ranking person. You will have plenty of time and methods to "pay him back" in the future. There's no need to rush.

I was stabbed once. More than ten years have passed, and the details are still fresh in my memory. At that time, I was responsible for the material procurement and material audit of the project. When I measured the decoration materials on the spot, I found that many materials were lost. I didn't hide the situation and reported it to my boss. The boss asked captain Huang, who is in charge of the project, to pay the money.

A few months after this incident, one day, my boss talked to me and asked about the criteria for selecting material suppliers and the payment situation. I gave a clear answer. Finally, the boss said thoughtfully that I was reported to have taken kickbacks when purchasing materials. Some of them were very cheap but not expensive in buy buy. I saw myself whispering with a supplier's accountant in a back corner. Is this happening?

The boss's words made my blood boil and I was filled with emotion. I asked the boss to report the case immediately and let the economic criminal police file an investigation. I was honest and accepted the investigation. Because I stubbornly asked the boss to produce evidence to report the case, the boss told me who reported it, saying that he was just asking and didn't believe his report.

The whistleblower is this surnamed Huang. When I came out of the boss's office, I was bent on finding Mr. Huang to show him the evidence of a dirty lie in person, but when I walked to the door of the workshop, I felt it was unnecessary. If I confiscate the kickback from the supplier, he naturally has no evidence. When I went to see him, I just spat and quarreled in front of the workers, which was useless except damaging my dignity.

Later, when dealing with him, he had a serious business face and was unsmiling. Two years later, I heard from my boss that Huang had told him wrong, and I was not that kind of person.

My understanding: human nature is very complicated. In the workplace, this invisible battlefield, there are your nobles and your enemies. You must be kind, honest, completely honest, and work hard, and don't leave a handle for sinister people to attack you. At the same time, your kindness should also have a sharp edge, so that your enemies dare not attack easily.

Contradictory questions.

If you don't give him a knife back, he will think you are easy to bully and may get worse.

If you poke it back, you may think of a series of unpredictable troubles.

I think that if you put things on the table, you can suffer a loss, but you can't always suffer a loss. There is a limit to your patience. You can't help others. There are too many successful things for little people these days, which are nothing more than excessive tolerance. What I used to say is now on stage. Now, it's time for truly capable people to stand on the stage. Everyone was silent, and what was wrong became right. Over time, what is wrong really becomes right. There must be principles, and the bottom line cannot be touched! For yourself and seeking truth from facts, don't fight too hard!

As the saying goes, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. Facing the person who stabbed you in the workplace, the best way is not to return it, but to continue to do the essential work and be yourself. After all, you can sail carefully for thousands of years.

But a knife next to it is not for everyone to bear. If the impact of this knife is devastating, or it is a great blow, and you have done nothing wrong, you might as well return this knife and hit it with a knife, leaving no room for the other party, so that the other party has no power to fight back at all.

Of course, if you go back, you must first know why you have this knife. If you don't understand this, it is the most terrible. If you figure it out, you can be targeted, get up where you fall, and put an end to secondary injuries.

So to avoid being stabbed in the back, I think it is very important to do the following work well.

Don't associate with people who break their promises. The most taboo in the workplace is people who are unreliable and full of unknown addresses. In this world, the greatest wealth is credit, which is an essential quality for successful people and the most effective rule in the workplace.

Ignore those who talk about right and wrong behind their backs, sit and think about yourself and talk about right and wrong. There is never a shortage of people who tell right and wrong. Talking about wages, talking about leadership and complaining about work are all taboo things in the workplace.

In the workplace, there is an old saying that "a gentleman talks but doesn't do it." People are kind, so do good things.

It is the most comfortable way to get along at any time. Don't be too enthusiastic and rash.

Some people say that there are no eternal friends in the workplace. Never treat colleagues as friends. Today's colleagues may become tomorrow's opponents.

In interpersonal communication, I can't eat a big fat man in one bite, and my heart is too anxious. Speaking freely as soon as you meet will only expose your inner weakness.

Confucius said, "If you don't talk about it, you will make a slip of the tongue." It means that if the other person doesn't know you very well, you can speak freely, and then the gaffes begin.

Don't think that you have weight in the leader's heart just because the leader praised you a few words, and the leader also has weight in others' hearts. Don't tell the leader without reservation when he asks about your home.

There is no real empathy in the world, and your sincere conversation may be regarded as a complaint by the leader, which will not help your future development.

You should live up to your conscience. If someone stabs you, you should smile at him and believe that good and evil will be rewarded.

Tell a true story. Master is a director and chief financial officer of the Group. Now it seems that the scenery is infinite, but the experience can be described as twists and turns. I entered the present company as soon as I graduated in the early 1990s, and was assigned to the "front" as soon as I graduated. Later, I used this time to take the CPA exam. Two years later, because the project failed, he was transferred back to the company as a cashier. As a foreigner, his ability is particularly outstanding, so he was turned away by the finance section chief at that time and often suppressed him with the accountant. He said that he really didn't want to do it for a while. Fortunately, he was transferred to a subsidiary as a financial manager and left the group.

Later, because the finance section chief and those accountants changed careers. The financial section chief went to be the manager of the asset department, specializing in collecting rent. According to master, the city asked that guy to be a civil servant, but he didn't even go. At this time, Master had a chance to be promoted to CFO step by step.

However, a few years ago, the company's capital chain was broken. There are many contradictions within the company at this time. The asset manager often stabbed in the back. As soon as the company's capital chain broke, he stabbed the bank and said that the company had no money. Then it happened that the senior manager of the bank was the husband of a colleague in the department, so he told his colleague about it, and his colleague quickly told Master.

Later, the asset manager was a big moth, stopped the rent increase for so many years, intercepted all the price increases, and dragged the later chairman into the water. One day, they were both handcuffed away at the same time. To make matters worse, the most beautiful young woman in this group turned out to be his lover.

Therefore, through this incident, it is also to let everyone know that others will stab you, ninja, and sooner or later someone will pick him up.

Many people will advise: take a step back, and enemies should make peace; Can only say that your tolerance is used in the wrong place, and your generosity is used by the wrong person!

Many people disagree with the statement that the workplace is a battlefield. They always feel that it is not a life-and-death situation in the workplace, but a choice! If you realize the freedom of wealth, your spirit can choose independently; If you only care about spiritual freedom, you don't care about whether wealth is free; It's a joke to have both wealth and spiritual freedom!

Just like being stabbed in the workplace, wealth and interests are damaged, generous self-comfort, forget it! This is your own choice, don't blame others for stabbing the second time and the third time! That is the reality. Not resisting is giving up. You think that your giving up is tolerance, and others will only think that it is cowardice and deception!

What do we do? A gentleman should not stand on a dangerous wall, but must ensure his own safety, analyze different situations and adopt different methods! Wear "body armor" to reduce injuries: as the saying goes, there is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people! The reason why I was stabbed must be that I didn't pay attention to being used or my weakness. This is my own reason, I want to solve it myself! Pay attention to your usual words and deeds, have a heart-to-heart conversation with seven or eight points, and leave two or three points for yourself!

If you can report it, don't leave resentment: some things are effective. Don't delay if you can report it on the spot. Expired is invalid! For example, if someone tells you that you are here and you are there, go straight to fight. When the rumor spreads, it will be too late to solve it!

The opportunity has passed, save your strength: in the case of insufficient ability or conditions, you should do a good job of saving your strength. This savings is not hatred, not resentment, but our own efforts, our own competition, our own ability and our own strength, so that others can catch up and look forward to it. This is the best revenge!

In the workplace, it is normal to be stabbed, and it is always stabbed if it is abnormal! Prevention first, report if you can, wait if you can't! Don't forget, it's not a grudge, it's an incentive! On the premise of not violating morality and your principle of being a man. If such a knife wound hurts him and is good for you, you can stab him. If hurting him is not good for you, it is unnecessary.

Normally, you will stab back, but it depends on how you choose and how much you lose. If so,