I'm not very good at talking, so shut up

01

Cai Kangyong said: What kind of words you say is what kind of person you are.

Xiao Ming likes basketball games and the Lakers very much. When he was watching the game, Xiao Gang came over and said: The Lakers are not good this season. They are too bad at playing. I bet they will lose. . At this time, Xiao Ming turned off the computer and felt confident.

Xiaomei has been losing weight recently and even skipped lunch. Everyone in the company admired Xiaomei’s perseverance. But Eggplant came over and said: Xiaomei, why do you feel fatter recently? You look like a pig. ? Xiaomei rolled her eyes at Eggplant in her mind, thinking it was none of your business.

Summer is here, and everyone is worried about what to eat for lunch. A finally got interested in eating a bowl of cold noodles. Not two minutes after sitting down, B came and took a look at A’s cold noodles. Mian said: I have eaten his food, but it tastes terrible. It is so disgusting, how can you eat it? A was ready to put the bowl on his face.

02

A friend once said that her colleague, the bosses and colleagues thought he was very eloquent, but after being in contact with him for a long time, he found that his staff was not very good, because He is always aggressive when he talks. No matter if it is a small mistake on your part or a point of view that is different from his, he will always make you speechless. As time goes by, no one wants to talk to him. Work together.

You are very strong and capable, but you must allow others to have different opinions than you. The way you speak always wants to win, and gradually no one is willing to cooperate with you. They feel that you Only one person can do it, so it seems that he is unable to do his job.

Being able to speak persuasively is your advantage, but being aggressive is rude.

03

There is only a thin line between what you think is being yourself and being rude. Sometimes you think that you are being yourself when you speak straightforwardly, and you are expressing your lack of politeness. You are straightforward, but my dear, sometimes what you say and think is harsh in the eyes of others.

Some people attribute their inability to speak to the fact that they are a straight person, but I have found that after entering the workplace, people increasingly dislike straight people.

Instead of saying that people hate people who speak straightforwardly, it is better to say that people hate people who speak impolitely and without education. The thing is, you didn’t think about anything when you said it. After you said it, you were happy and happy. , but the words are unintentional, and the listener is intentional. Have you considered what the person you are speaking to wants to hear, and is he in a good mood?

Generally we will hear something like this: I speak straightforwardly, don’t mind it, and don’t take it to heart, or: I just said casually, why are you so sensitive, you can’t afford to play! If someone gets angry because of something you said or a joke you made, don't you think you should apologize? Don't put the blame on others for speaking out and being too sensitive.

04

Learning to speak is a very important thing. The premise for you to speak straightforwardly is to respect others so that they will not feel uncomfortable.

Say something that people can accept. For example, if you start a conversation with someone on a topic that you are not familiar with, and you find it boring, you might as well lead the conversation elsewhere and talk about something you can continue talking about first. Sudden silence can sometimes be really embarrassing.

Find out what the other person wants to hear. The other person is obviously losing weight, but you say he is fat. The other person wants you to compliment her new bag, but you say, oh, I know the one in another place is cheaper and better-looking. Believe me, you will die chatting to death.

Say it in a humorous way, not as a joke. A humorous way of speaking may make people feel relaxed, but sometimes if the joke is not told well, it will get cold.

Never say you can’t speak again. If you really can’t speak, then please shut up!