What does the psychological "dart effect" mean?

In social psychology, people call the phenomenon that the result of behavior measures is completely opposite to the expected goal "dart effect". It's like throwing a dart net in one direction and flying in the opposite direction.

Every day, the "dart effect" can be seen everywhere. For example, in order to improve their academic performance, some students work overtime and burn the midnight oil desperately, which makes them dizzy all day and inefficient. How can you make them shine when they are in a daze? For example, some men and women in love are always afraid of being belittled in each other's minds, so they often use various means to suppress each other in order to improve their "relative status." As a result, they love someone as much as they hate someone. Finally, love blows out the lamp and pulls out the wax.

The fundamental reason for the "dart effect" is that the parties concerned have made simplistic and one-sided mistakes when considering the problem. Some focus on the goal to be achieved, completely ignoring the choice of the best means. The mismatch between the means and the goal has triggered a series of reactions, but in fact it has a strong interference effect on the realization of the goal.

In fact, the process of aggravating many psychological problems is the process of "dart effect". Because the parties are trying to overcome psychological barriers without knowing the causes of their own problems, they are actually "consolidating and strengthening" their own problems. For example.

There is a girl in middle school who has a very thin face. She is always worried that she will do something wrong and make others laugh. One day a boy in the front row asked her a question, and she began to get nervous after answering it. She thought to herself, "Will others think that he and I are interesting ..." At this thought, she suddenly became flustered and felt her face turn red. As soon as she realized that her face had turned red, she immediately thought, "Doesn't this make people think that he and I are ghosts?" So my heart is more flustered and my face is redder. The "blushing maniac" has since forged an indissoluble bond with her. In fact, her blushing is caused by her constant fear of others' "opinions" and "ideas", and her strong psychological motivation to overcome blushing is also her fear of others' "opinions" and "ideas". Do you think her blushing can be overcome by this?

Therefore, those friends with mental illness, when you are struggling with your own psychological problems, you should carefully reflect on whether all your efforts are in the right direction and whether it will produce a "dart effect".