About etiquette

Etiquette is based on people's life and social interaction. People can correctly grasp the scale of communication with others and the outside world, and reasonably handle the relationship between good people according to various etiquette norms. Without these etiquette norms, people will often be at a loss in communication, and even be rude to others and make jokes. Therefore, if you are familiar with and master the etiquette, you can draw inferences from others and treat people just right. Etiquette is an important means to shape the image. In social activities, paying attention to etiquette in conversation can become civilized; Manners and manners can become elegant; Dress appropriately and be polite, and you will become generous; If you pay attention to manners, you can become beautiful ... as long as you pay attention to manners, everything will be done just right. In a word, a person can become attractive if he pays attention to etiquette. Etiquette is etiquette and ceremony. In ancient China, there was a saying of "Five Rites", in which the sacrificial ceremony was auspicious, the wedding ceremony was a ceremony, the guest ceremony was a guest ceremony, the military ceremony was a military ceremony, and the funeral ceremony was a fierce ceremony. The content of the Five Rites is quite extensive, from the sacrificial ceremony reflecting the relationship between man and heaven, earth and ghosts and gods to the communication ceremony reflecting the interpersonal relationship between family, relatives and friends, monarch and ministers. From the coronation, marriage, funeral and burial ceremonies that show the course of life, to the celebrations, disasters and funerals, people express their congratulations, condolences, condolences and pensions, which can be said to be all-encompassing, fully embodying the ancient spirit of courtesy and justice of the Chinese nation. Li Ji is the hand of Five Rites, which are mainly sacrificial ceremonies for gods, earthly gods and ghosts. Its main contents can include three aspects. The first is to worship the gods, that is, worship the gods; Sacrifice the sun, moon and stars; Sacrifice middle school, life, teacher Feng, teacher Yu, etc. The second is land worship, that is, the worship of the country, the five emperors and the five mountains; Sacrifice to the mountains and rivers; Sacrifice everything and so on. Third, offering sacrifices to people and ghosts, mainly to enjoy the sacrifices to the ancestors and ancestors in spring, summer, autumn and winter. Fierce rites are ceremonies of mourning, condolence and worry. Its main contents are: mourning, mourning ceremony, mourning disaster, mourning defeat and confusion. Among them, funeral is the etiquette of various relationships.

People's death expresses different degrees of sadness through the mourning process at a specific time; Famine ceremony is an unfortunate experience of famine and plague in a certain region or country. The king and his ministers took measures such as reducing meals and stopping entertainment to express sympathy. Hanging ceremony is a kind of etiquette to express condolences to allies or friends in the event of death or fire and water disasters. These three manners can be served by nobles at all levels. The ceremony was that one of the allies was invaded by the enemy and the urban and rural areas were broken. Allies should work with other countries to raise funds and materials to compensate their losses. Compassion means that a country suffers from foreign aggression or civil strife, and neighboring countries should give assistance and support. Guest gift is a gift for receiving guests. It mainly includes worship, religion, pilgrimage, meeting, meeting, agreement, questioning and appreciation. During the military ceremony, the division and brigade performed conquest, and the military ceremony mainly included the ceremony of the commander, the ceremony, the ceremony, the big battle ceremony and the big seal ceremony. The master's ceremony is the ceremony of army conquest; The ceremony of "Dapingization" was a military review held by the king and vassals when they shared the land equally and collected taxes to appease the people. The ceremony in Daejeon was that the emperor regularly hunted and practiced fighting and reviewed the military horses; The ceremony of the great battle is a team review during large-scale civil engineering such as building cities, palaces, rivers and dikes initiated by the state; The ceremony of sealing the country is an activity of surveying the boundaries between the state, private fiefs and fiefs and setting up boundary markers. Gifts are the etiquette of interpersonal relationship, communication and contact feelings. The main contents of gifts include eating and drinking gifts, wedding gifts, shooting gifts (later derived from "Throwing Pots"), helping the elderly gifts, He Qingzhi gifts, and caring for the elderly gifts. respect the elders

According to folklore, etiquette includes four kinds of life etiquette: birth, coronation, wedding and funeral. Actually, etiquette can be divided into politics and life. Politics includes offering sacrifices to heaven, land, ancestral temples, sages of teachers, drinking ceremony in the hometown of respecting teachers, meeting ceremony, military ceremony and so on. Xunzi believes that the origin of life etiquette is "three books", that is, "the foundation of heaven and earth", "the foundation of ancestors" and "the root cause of teachers" In etiquette, the funeral is the earliest. Funeral for the dead is to appease their ghosts, and for the living, respecting the old and loving the young, filial piety and virtue have become a kind of etiquette. In the process of the establishment and implementation of etiquette, the patriarchal clan system in China (see the patriarchal clan system in China) was born. The essence of etiquette is the way to govern people, and it is a derivative of the belief in ghosts and gods. People think that everything is manipulated by invisible ghosts and gods, and performing etiquette is to please ghosts and gods to get happiness. Therefore, etiquette originated from the belief in ghosts and gods, and it is also a special embodiment of the belief in ghosts and gods. The appearance of "Three Rites" (Yili, Li Ji and Zhou Li) marks the mature stage of etiquette development. In the Song Dynasty, etiquette was combined with feudal ethics and moral preaching, that is, etiquette and ethics were confused and became one of the effective tools to promote ethics. Salute serves to persuade morality, and red tape makes full use of it. It was not until modern times that the etiquette was truly reformed. Whether it is the etiquette of the country's political life or the etiquette of the people's life, it has become a new content of the theory of no ghosts, thus becoming a civilized etiquette. Etiquette is a code of conduct that originates from human nature and meets the needs of life. Why do you say that? Etiquette is the difference between human beings and animals (due to human nature), and it is also the basis of peace in human society. Looking at today, few people talk about and understand the ceremony, social disorder is widespread, and various frictions and conflicts occur frequently. People not only feel insecure when they get along, but also have a sense of crisis when they are enemies. In a crowd, etiquette is absolutely indispensable. People exchange feelings, things keep order, and the country keeps normal, all of which are the power of etiquette. The function of etiquette cannot be ignored. How can we modern people not take it seriously and study? Otherwise, it is inevitable that you will suffer losses everywhere in society, and it will be too late to regret it. Because we believe that no one wants rude behavior to be triggered by gossip and ridicule: "Some people are outrageous, uneducated, ignorant, rude, inhuman, have never seen the scene, really annoying, ridiculous, far away from him, and rarely touch …" What impact will this series of nouns have on your future and everything? Etiquette is the virtue of not interfering with others, respecting people's good deeds, and it is also a passport to do everything by yourself, which is a necessary condition to achieve perfection. If we can do more "self-denial", start from our own responsibilities and start from our families, I firmly believe that society will be more peaceful and polite. This is our expectation. Etiquette propaganda

The following is an overview of Chang Li by Professor Li Bingnan for your reference. (1) Home | (2) School | (3) Health | (4) Meal | (5) Out | (6) Visiting people | (7) Meeting people | (8) Line | (9) Giving to the public | (1 1) Second, friends of relatives and family members should be commensurate with their birthright. Ordinary people call themselves husbands or brothers and call themselves brothers. The elder is called Laojun, claiming to be a post-school student, or his own name. Third, a person's father calls you father and his mother calls you mother. People call themselves parents, saying they are strict and kind. When you meet a friend's father, you call him an old man, your mother an aunt, and you call yourself a junior or nephew. Fourth, call people's ancestors, call them Gong Zu, and grandma calls them Zutai. People call themselves ancestors and call themselves family ancestors. Grandma called her grandma. People are called grandparents, too old and too aunt. Just call yourself by your own name. 5. Call a person's brother, your brother, your brother. People call themselves brothers and say they are brothers and sisters. Call a person's sister, call your sister your sister. People call themselves sisters, saying that they are sisters at home. When you meet someone's brother, his name is Mr. Ji, or his brother, who calls himself brother. Sisters who meet people are collectively called sisters, and they call themselves brothers. (the book is called stone) 6. Call a person's wife, a wife or a wife, a wife, a modest gentleman or a wife. I saw a man's wife calling her sister-in-law and calling herself her first name. A woman can call herself a sister. A woman is called a man's husband, and a gentleman in a respectful husband is called a husband and wife. When you meet your husband, you should call him Mr, so it's better to avoid calling him. Call him personally if necessary. Eight, say a man's son, say your son or childe, say a woman call your lover, or microscope. People call themselves sons and children, while women call them daughters. When they saw that the son of man was called Shi Xiong, they called themselves brothers and women Shi Jie, but they didn't call themselves Shi Jie. Nine, according to people's children and grandchildren, Sun Yue made a daughter and grandson. People call themselves grandsons and granddaughters. They are called little grandsons and granddaughters. When you meet someone's grandson, you call them sons and daughters. Ten, according to people or from the younger generation, add a word. If you call a person's deceased parents, you should order your wife to be respected first; Call yourself a parent, be strict first and then be good. There is no need to add another word to refer to the next generation of the deceased, just say "a brother in the past", but words such as "dead" or "a brother in the past" can be added. Eleven, say uncle and aunt, say uncle and aunt. People call themselves uncles and aunts. They call themselves uncles and aunts. Meet people's uncles and aunts and call them old ladies and gentlemen; Those who make good friends can be called old men and old aunts. 12. Call a person's uncle and aunt, and your mother's uncle and aunt. People call themselves uncles and aunts. They call them my mother's uncle's aunts. Seeing people's uncles and aunts, the title is as before. Thirteen, said the father-in-law, Yue Ling Yue Ling mother-in-law. People are called parents-in-law, and mother-in-law is called family. See in-laws, the title is as before. Fourteen, according to people's nephew, it is called nephew. Call people nephews, and call them nephews. Call a man's son-in-law a son-in-law. People call themselves my nephew, nephew and son-in-law. They call me nephew, nephew and little son-in-law. 15. Call people relatives and friends, call people relatives and friends. People call themselves relatives and friends and say that they will give up their relatives and friends. Sixteen, called the teacher, named the teacher, born named Gaojiao. People call themselves teachers and they call us teachers. Call yourself a disciple. Call yourself a teacher and say master or my teacher. Call yourself an apprentice or protege. Seventeen, said Sir, said one of your long (hospital and other departments. A person's subordinates are called your subordinates or your subordinates. People call themselves officers, say we are a leader, say we are members, say we are colleagues or family members, and call them a surname or a post. Eighteen, said the Lord of man, yue expensive, said the servant of man, yue respect discipline. Call it an autonomous person, I am on it; Calling yourself a servant is a small price to pay. Attached first, the address, this is very complicated, local customs, the name of the direct meeting, especially different, so it is difficult to prepare. This series only records ordinary users who communicate with other countries. Second, between relatives, the address is very subtle, and every time a typo is made, people laugh. This version is a summary and is designed for general use, so it is not included.