Be measured when joking.

Joke is a double-edged sword. If used well, it can adjust our life. If we lose proper limit, it will be counterproductive and self-defeating.

As the saying goes, everything is moderate, moderately beneficial and excessively harmful. In interpersonal communication, an appropriate joke can relax the nerves, activate the atmosphere and create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere suitable for communication, so humorous people can often be welcomed and loved by people. But if the joke is not good, it will backfire and hurt feelings, so we should master the discretion of joking.

People who like to joke are generally well-intentioned, and sometimes all they want to do is to add more happiness to others. But in any case, jokes can hurt people, and the boundaries are hard to distinguish. Just kidding, you must always remember this, that is, enough is enough, otherwise one wrong step will be self-defeating and not worth the candle.

One day, several colleagues were chatting in the office. Zhang Ninggang has a pair of glasses, so she takes them out for everyone to see if they look good on her. Everyone didn't want to spoil her fun, saying it was great. This incident reminds Hu Weiwei of a joke about a nearsighted old lady. Then there was a burst of laughter. Unexpectedly, Zhang Ning never wore glasses or greeted Hu Wei again.

The reason is not difficult to understand. The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. In Hu Weiwei's view, this is just a joke about myopia. However, Zhang Ning may think like this: "It doesn't matter if you make fun of me for wearing glasses, but you also insinuate that I am an old lady. Am I old? I am only 26 years old! "

A joke hurt others' hearts and made the original smooth interpersonal relationship go wrong. Isn't it not worth the loss? There are too many such examples, telling us not to joke for a moment's quick talk. A disproportionate joke is bound to cause trouble, and we should take a warning.

If there is no joke in life, it must be too tired to live. However, joking is also a kind of wisdom, an art, a realm of life and a temperament. Not everyone can use this weapon with ease. People who don't know how to joke are sad, and too many jokes are sad!

Don't squander jokes at will, otherwise it will turn jade into dirt; Jokes are not baskets. You can't put everything in.

People have different tempers, personalities and hobbies, and jokes vary from person to person. Pay attention to the relationship between young and old when joking. The elder plays jokes on the younger generation in order to maintain the solemn position of the elder and make the younger generation respect the elder; Young people joke with the old, and respecting the old is the premise. Pay attention to the difference between men and women when joking. Men have a strong tolerance for language situations, and general jokes will not lead to embarrassment for men; Women's tolerance for language situations is weak, and inappropriate jokes will make women embarrassed or even "humiliated". Pay attention to the difference between relatives and friends when joking. In general, joking with people you are close and familiar with, even if it is heavy, will not affect friendly relations. But when you are with strangers, don't make jokes, because you don't know their personality, experience, interests and privacy. Your jokes may offend others and arouse their disgust, which is not conducive to mutual understanding and friendship development in the future.

Jokes vary from place to place. Generally speaking, you should not joke in solemn occasions and during working hours, and try not to joke in public places and public places. Don't joke about unusual things in unusual times, and be careful when joking in public media.

Pay attention to the healthy content when joking. Making fun of other people's physical defects is a deliberate "scar"; Catch shadows and treat gossip as a joke, which is irresponsible and low-level taste; Making dirty and disgusting jokes as fun is to seek sensory stimulation. These should be resolutely avoided.

In short, only if you have a good sense of humor can you joke confidently and become a truly humorous person.