What are the words and deeds that reflect low emotional intelligence?

This sentence can be used as a joke, but if someone really says this at dinner, I can't laugh it off. Perhaps combined with the background of this meal, he came to a moment when he had to open his mouth or tear his face. At this time, even if people around him secretly kicked him under the table, he should clearly let everyone know that today is not a fool. At this time, if you don't listen carefully to what he has to say next, you will be stupid.

"I don't feel well" in exchange for "drink more water"

This can of course be understood as low emotional intelligence in love. But it may be that the other party has long wanted to leave, and a thousand words are stuck in his heart and he can't say it. In the end, he can only escape by drinking more water. Do you think he really doesn't care about people? Do you think he really doesn't know that what women need most is to appear at the door at once? He knows everything. He just doesn't want to keep investing for an illusion.

Is "lack of group consciousness" a low emotional intelligence?

Maybe. But you're not him. From his point of view, how do you know whether his personal interests and team interests are consistent? When the interests of the individual and the team have drifted away, he just reminds others with his own behavior. You can't receive this message because you are too slow.

Is "talking without thinking" a low emotional intelligence?

The phrase "I am happy here and don't think about Shu" is a living method under the sword. I don't think the questioner knows that the respondent is playing dumb. He just wants to make a public statement. Everyone knows it's a play, competing for acting skills. Later, the phrase "my ancestral grave is far away in Ganchuan, my heart is sad in the west, and I don't think about it every day" was straightforward and deliberate, suggesting that the other party "this is obviously not what I would say." Sure enough, Si Mazhao mentioned a point, and Liu Chan immediately betrayed the little people who were cheated around him. No matter how smart people are, they are stupid.

So don't be confused by the simple logical relationship in history books. The real logical chain behind the story will not be written into the history books. Many people say that Xiang Yu's phrase "what Sakima and Cao Wushang said" is a sign of low emotional intelligence. In fact, it's just that those in high positions don't care about sacrificing a little undercover as a gift. Can a chess piece understand the opening and closing of the emperor?

Is "picking on anyone" a low emotional intelligence?

Most people who have strict memories of their parents' childhood can hardly get rid of the habit of pleasing others all their lives. This weakness in character falls into the hands of those who infringe on your interests, and it is hard not to take advantage of you. Dare to make trouble with whom, dare to turn against whom, in fact, is a very rare ability, which is of great use at a critical moment. You may not have this ability yet.

Is "taking human feelings as your own responsibility" a low emotional intelligence?

There are indeed many boundaries between people. But it is not necessarily the low emotional intelligence that crosses the line, but after weighing the human feelings and interests, he feels that it is more cost-effective to realize human feelings with you immediately. Those who have not yet reached the realization stage have never crossed the line.

Is "too much emphasis on self-feeling" in love a ridiculously low emotional intelligence?

Yes or no, most of the time, it's not that he doesn't care about your feelings, nor that he doesn't have empathy. It's just that he really needs you to feel bad at this moment. You feel uncomfortable, even painful, which is exactly his goal at the moment. As for why he is like this and why he needs it, please open the floodgate of memory and think for yourself.

These subtle things can't be keenly observed, but they laugh at each other's low emotional intelligence. What's more, simply taking "can you make yourself happy" as a yardstick to measure others' EQ is the most typical low EQ performance I know.