Is a person who can think of the worst in everything good or too pessimistic?

I feel that I sometimes have this emotional tendency, so I pay more attention to this problem. Today, I take this opportunity to talk about whether people who like to prepare for the worst first are too strong or too pessimistic. This problem can be divided into several parts.

First of all, there are several psychological reasons for pessimism.

First, I am not confident in doing things caused by inner anxiety, and I always worry that I can't do well, which will lead to bad consequences. This is the most popular idea. When people do things, especially things that are not sure or important, they are always worried and afraid of not doing well, which will lead to anxiety and worry before doing things.

Dahui, a colleague in the office, is young, that is, in his early forties, but he is always preoccupied, his hair has become scarce, he talks a lot every day, and he is extremely responsible for his work.

Sometimes there are many people coming in and out of our office, and there are many people from other departments to do things. Seeing that there are no lesbians in the office, I smoke unscrupulously. Dahui likes smoking, too, but there is always an ashtray on his desk, which will go out after smoking. However, when others come, they don't pay so much attention. Some people throw cigarette butts into the wastebasket, and some people throw cigarette butts into the dustpan, which can hurt Dahui. Sometimes after work, he doesn't know what to think and runs to the office. Several times, I worked overtime and left late, and suddenly I saw Dahui come back in a hurry. He took a long breath when I asked him what was wrong. He said that he forgot to read the newspaper after work. Da Hui's idea is right, but sometimes he really thinks too much about the bad side and feels like anxiety.

Secondly, because I have failed and learned a lesson, when I do another thing, I will inevitably be timid, afraid of wolves before and tigers after, afraid to make up my mind, afraid of doing something wrong, afraid of being laughed at or bearing bad consequences.

I have a friend named Xiao Zhi who was once rejected by a girl because she liked one of her neighbors. He is a little persistent and thinks this is a failed life experience. Since then, great changes have taken place in his personality. He became insecure and timid about everything. For example, he no longer trusts anyone and feels that others are cheating him, so he only intersects with people around him who make him feel trusted.

The third situation may be rare, but I think it is possible. This happens to people who feel that their position is higher or their officials are bigger. That is the heart of preparedness, always worried that subordinates can't do their jobs well, which will bring trouble to themselves, or officials are afraid that someone will frame them, and they always have the psychology of dikes. In this case, no matter what happens, he may involuntarily think the worst, which may be a sense of self-protection.

I analyzed the above three situations. Before doing something, people always think the worst and are afraid that things will not be done well. From a negative perspective, this psychological reason still has a good situation. Next, I want to talk to you.

There is another kind of people in this world, that is, thoughtful people who plan ahead. Before doing something, such a person will analyze it clearly and think of countermeasures for every ending. Only then will he operate it. This kind of person has a greater chance of success and is easy to do things well, because he is considerate and will try to avoid unfavorable factors in doing things. So, sometimes some people prepare for the worst, but they don't.

So let me sum up, if you are trapped by an unsafe anxiety, how to build information, grasp the key and get rid of this unfavorable emotion?

Now medicine shows that our unhealthy psychology may directly lead to our body suffering from high-risk diseases such as cancer. In our traditional culture, debauchery and wealth are also defined as "Qi is a steel knife to kill people". Refers to the state of mind, emotions, especially restless and restless emotions, that is, arrogance. Together with alcoholism, lust and greed, it is the root of disaster. According to the poem "Sound and wealth" of Suoguo Temple in the Northern Song Dynasty: Sound and wealth are surrounded by walls, and everyone hides in them; Who can jump out of the circle and live to be a hundred years old?

Sometimes in life, we will encounter many things beyond our control, or many unfair things, so we will get through it. Since it can't be changed, don't think about it. You really can't let go. Then talk to someone you trust or an elder. Don't take things to heart, because it will make you depressed for a long time.

We should learn to praise others from the heart, not envy and curse each other, so that we can have a healthy psychology and live a good life actively. Jealousy itself is not a good quality, and we should stay away from it.

To tell the truth, I am also a realist. But sometimes it is not good to be too realistic. Everyone has fantasies in their hearts. When something is not finalized, don't be too pessimistic about it. Leave yourself a little hope, and you will feel that you are brave enough to face it and have a little support in your heart.

Record every bit of your life. Maybe one day, when you look through your records, you will find that what you were worried about didn't happen at that time, and you are really worried, so you won't think about it again over time.

Maybe sunshine can really make people strong and confident, because when it shines on you, you will feel the beauty of the world, you will cherish the truth of life more, you will become unwilling to see the dark place inside you again, let yourself shine and overcome evil, and you will be the savior.

Write at the end:

There are flowers in spring, moons in autumn, cool breeze in summer and snow in winter. If there is nothing to worry about, it will be a good time on earth. This poem is for everyone. The world is beautiful, but it needs to be discovered with your kind and intelligent eyes. If life throws you a difficult problem, you should learn to look at it from another angle, so maybe life will become interesting.

Where does pessimism begin? Just prepare for the worst, without hesitation, without distractions and worries, and reduce the bandwidth burden, just like a computer cpu only runs one program, which is of course a good thing.