Dating strategies of women with high emotional intelligence

First, the sense of participation In fact, the key to dating is that both people can participate. Therefore, as a woman with high emotional intelligence, you should understand that the process of dating allows him to let go, which is not only an opportunity for him to show, but also a respect for his performance. But sometimes, the other party wants you to take the initiative to participate, then you have to know how to cooperate in a timely manner. For example, if a man asks you what you want to eat, you should listen to his arrangement, so that he will think that you are considerate and he has done his duty as a gentleman. But when a man asks you for the second time, you shouldn't refuse, because the other person really wants you to eat him, so you shouldn't be timid. You should boldly put forward your own ideas. Therefore, the first date must be clear, not everything is for men to make up their minds. You will be more attractive if you have your own opinions while keeping a sense of proportion. Second, create a tacit understanding and interact appropriately. How do you want to attract a man, then the best way is to constantly give him steps and release usability. Here is a dating principle, I hope everyone will remember that it is to avoid embarrassment as much as possible, because embarrassment can't make you attractive in dating. Therefore, you need to interact with him more than hiding in the corner like a shy kitten, waiting for the other person to tease you. The principle of interaction, as long as you remember one thing, is to know how to establish a tacit understanding with each other. For example, he said he liked it. If you like it, then why do you even have the same taste as me? Or maybe he is telling his story, even if you don't understand or feel bored, you need to listen carefully. After all, men are straight-line thinking and boring to talk, but you still have to tell him that you have ideas, so that the other party will think that you are listening, and he will be more available and naturally willing to pay more for you. Women should learn to listen and command men with sweet words. In fact, men are stupid. What they need is such an illusory sense of accomplishment. With dessert, you won't be short of a piece of meat, will you? On the other hand, according to the performance of men, they are appropriately allowed to get close. This way, men will feel that they have an opportunity with you when they go back, and they will be more active on their next date. Third, agree with his positive performance after dating. Dating is not determinism. Don't let him succeed on one and a half dates, but you need as many dates as possible to gradually acquiesce in this relationship. Otherwise, men will only find it too easy to get and will not cherish you. So you need to be a crazy goblin. You know how to provoke him, but you won't let him have you. In this way, a man will rationalize, catch you is the result of his efforts, and will cherish you more in the future. The next step is to be clear and know how to establish emotional connection after dating. Some girls are interested in their date, or even if they don't know whether they like each other or not, at least they want to keep him under observation for a while. What you must never forget at this time is that you should leave some signals for him! For example, when you were chatting after you went back, you said that you liked the restaurant he took you to, which was very stylish. Or I think you make me feel a little different from other men. In this way, the man will receive your signal and think that you have affirmed his performance, and then pursue you more actively on the second date. Dating strategies for women with high emotional intelligence 2. Pre-dating preparation mentality: Don't expect too much. For women who love fantasy, this is really not easy to do. However, high expectations are likely to lead to great disappointment. Imagine, if you are shocked at the first meeting, how can you still be in the mood to continue dating? Don't think of him as your prince charming, and don't think of him as a frog. Once we made an appointment to meet, we naturally began to imagine each other's voice and appearance. In fact, thinking about how to spend a harmonious and happy time is a preparation measure with higher coefficient. Plan: draw a blueprint in advance and have a general consideration of all aspects of the date in advance. When planning, your basic idea should be like this: we are only going out to play once, no matter what the outcome, it is always fresh and exciting to know more people. Don't be the kind of person who "do whatever you want" when the other person calls and asks you what project you want to carry out. Although this shows your easygoing, it also makes people feel that you are too passive. So, think about what you want to do and then discuss with each other. Wear: clothes that show curves and are not exposed. Be careful not to wear too revealing clothes. One is to avoid catching cold, and the other is to prevent men from asking for the price directly when they see you. Besides, you should never wear clothes that are too loose and fat, such as hip-hop street clothes that are twice your size. You feel very comfortable and real, but when men can't figure out the difference between your waist and chest, they are basically not interested in you. It is recommended to wear soft-colored clothes that don't expose your figure lines, such as tailored shirts or sweaters with a good texture, as long as they can show your beautiful figure. Time of appointment: it is best to choose 2-4 pm, and the first meeting time should be controlled at about two hours, and it is best to choose 2-4 pm. After lunch, girls are generally reluctant to eat in front of unfamiliar men. Secondly, it won't cost too much to have afternoon tea at this time. Don't arrive early and don't be late. Being early will make you bored and daydream. Being late is obviously insincere. If you miss a good husband just because you are a few minutes late, it is not worth it at all. Location: It is best not to meet in the coffee shop or tea room near the company. Choosing the entrance of any company is a psychological burden to the other party. No one wants to expose his meeting experience to the public for people to comment on. You can choose a coffee shop or a tea room. The environment there is good and the price is not too high. Just order two cups of coffee and a little snack, 100 yuan will get it. In addition, the appointment place must not be noisy and the seats should not be too close. For example, when you are talking, everyone around you can hear you, which is silly. It's best to keep your distance, girls will feel natural. Manner: generous, kind and interesting. Greet him with a kind smile and warm and friendly words. Don't act like "I'd rather wash dirty socks at home if I didn't give the matchmaker face". The other person can easily detect your little emotions, so the whole date may be ruined. Listen-when dating, listen carefully to what he says. Ask him some questions and show interest in his answers. Listening is by no means "wait until he has finished." Keep your distance-don't ask him too personal questions. Similarly, don't tell him how much your last love experience hurt you. You don't want to expose each other at the first meeting. Say-try to talk less about your parents when dating, so as not to make the other person think that you are still a child. In addition, the speech should not be too superficial or too "brainless". If at the first meeting, you know that the other person likes cheerful people, and you happen to be this type, then don't care too much. If you are too lively, you must restrain yourself and never export "dirty". In order to avoid silence, it is suggested to prepare a few health jokes in advance to ease the embarrassing atmosphere of the first meeting, but remember to be funny, if not funny, it will only make the atmosphere more embarrassing. If you still feel there is nothing to say, don't forget the matchmaker. This is the most obvious similarity between you-the people who connect you together. Might as well use it. In any case, don't speak ill of him or her, and don't expose his or her shortcomings. If you can't talk any more, talk about what you are doing or what you are going to do during the date, which is related to your past experience. If you go skating, tell him about your last fall ... the follow-up work of the date ... if you are interested in him-if you like him very much, you want to call. Great! You can give a hint: "I had a good time this afternoon!" " "If you give a man a clear signal of love, he is likely to have the confidence to date you again. If he takes you home, you should express your sincere thanks when you say goodbye. Then take the opportunity to say to him, to show gratitude, invite him to dinner next time. In this way, cleverly and actively win the opportunity of the next date. When you go upstairs and go home, send a message saying "Be careful on the road". The other person will definitely think that you are a very sweet and caring woman. If you are not interested in him-after the date, if you feel that the two people are not so congenial, don't be rude. You should reply to the text messages sent by boys politely, whether you like it or not. Generally speaking, I reply at regular intervals, such as every half an hour. If he asks you directly what you mean, you can tell him directly. Hesitation will only confuse others. Dating Bible-What you should do is to date on time at your best. Be sure to liven up the dating atmosphere. Be sure to compliment each other on their appearance and clothes. People always work hard to prepare for a date, so telling him that he looks fine will make him happy. No matter what your friends say, be sure to date someone who attracts you. People who have no opinions will not have good results. Even if the date is not successful, you must keep a positive attitude. To be sure, you will date some frogs before you meet the prince. By the way, it's good to know some people with good personalities as friends. Dating is a kind of creative behavior, which requires your concentration and energy. So when dating, you should have a plan, and it is best to let the other person take you to the place you want to play in the city. You must not have the mentality of waiting for him. People won't come or call you. Dating requires positive behavior, so go out and meet others, and the more you know, the better. Be sure to actively associate with people who look positive. Think about how the girls in Sex and the City help each other on a date. Negative friends who don't know how to date will lower your expectations and make you negative. Dating Bible-Never call the other person twice in one day unless he calls back. Despair and instability are always boring. Don't date bad people. You are generally attracted to bad people, but they will only hurt you. Never go out at once. This means that you are making yourself more and more boring. Maybe you are still a doormat. Act busy and keep yourself interesting. First of all, don't expose all your property. People like mysterious things. Telling each other the most intimate secret from the beginning will definitely ruin the date. A little at a time. Don't be rude or drunk on a date. Polite people are welcome everywhere. Don't neglect your personal safety when dating. Charge your mobile phone, tell your family or friends where you are going, and be safe. The first date should be in a crowded public place. Don't go where you don't want to go. Don't give personal information such as home phone number to others on the first date. Give it when you are sure that the other party can. If you want to see your date again, don't have sex on the first date. If you like him and are interested in him, the first date will ruin everything.