Showing off the wealth of a female lawyer, in fact, you don't know how hard she is behind it!

These two days, a female lawyer was furious overnight.

Zhang Qing is a lawyer of Beijing Yingke (Shenzhen) Law Firm. The incident originated from a case transfer letter:

According to the contents of the letter, the information posted on the Internet by Zhang Qing, a female lawyer of Yingke, is suspected of false propaganda. Since then, after being exposed by netizens, Zhang Qing's large circle of friends and Weibo's content have gone viral online. Among them, many remarks were accused of "vanity", "money worship" and "showing off wealth".

Moreover, with the continuous fermentation of the incident, one keyword poked the excitement of many people, and many netizens began to kill the female lawyer herself in waves.

Some netizens broke the news that Zhang Qing, a female lawyer, mentioned that she graduated from Peking University and was full of water. Actually, it is a correspondence course in Changping Campus of Peking University, not a full-time undergraduate course graduation.

As well as Zhang Qing's self-proclaimed law firm partner, there are also problems: the law requires law firm partners to have more than three years of practice experience, and Zhang Qing obviously does not meet the requirements.

Soon, the clothes she bought, what she said and what she said were awesome, which became the laughing stock of everyone.

Everyone rose up and attacked him, ridiculing his gorgeous words of "focusing on RMB" with ecstasy, such as "the most beautiful Beijing M. Guo Fan" and "Burberry lover whose creative talent was delayed by flaunting wealth".

However, due to the condemnation of public opinion and the internal pressure of the company, Zhang Qing deleted all social networks, and even attracted the attention of the Guangdong Lawyers Association on false information propaganda, which calmed the storm a little.

10/2 at noon, 65438+65438, I finally apologized in Weibo: I was young and not sensible.

Alexei Wiener incident

Looking at such a growing online carnival, I can't help but think of an incident that happened in the United States.

It happened to this guy. His name is Alexei Weiner and he graduated from Yale University. He is a real ambitious man.

Yale has a bright future after graduation and looks handsome and elegant, but it is such a young man who seems to have unlimited potential, but because of his bragging skills and the ridicule of netizens, he ended his young life early at the age of 29.

Why is this happening?

It all started on June 5438+ 10, 2006.

In June 5438+that year 10, Weiner, who graduated from Yale University, applied for a job at UBS, a Swiss banking group.

UBS Group AG is one of the largest Swiss banks and the largest private wealth management institution in the world.

Probably in Vayner's eyes, he graduated from Yale with unlimited talents, and only a place like UBS is worthy of his ideal job.

Most people apply for a job with a written resume, but Vayner thinks how one page can show how good he is? How do you show your desire for this job? !

After careful consideration, my buddy made a video resume called "Impossible is Nothing" and delivered it to the recruitment department of UBS.

He hopes that this video can have a refreshing effect, let the interviewer see his infinite potential and make everything impossible!

Well, actually this video is really refreshing and refreshing. ...

In this video, Vayner praises himself from head to toe, with unparalleled intelligence and physical strength, as well as various fantastic black skills. There are all kinds of photos of him,

Feel the weight ...

And his outstanding performance in the skiing competition.

Beautiful dance

Split seven bricks by hand.

The video is also full of various chicken blood quotations, such as:

"Stay away from people who hold you back, because their negative energy will affect your success; If someone throws cold water on you, let him roll ... "

"Stay away from losers, stay motivated, stick to it, and you will succeed."

Perhaps this video is so exaggerated and funny that an employee of UBS can't help sharing it with friends of other investment banks by email.

Word of mouth, this video was soon spread to various social networking sites. This video spread quickly on the oil pipeline, and the number of hits kept rising. "It's impossible to be nothing" has become a hot word in everyone's crazy search.

Everything he said, blew and did was turned out. Netizen Qi Xin worked together to clean him up.

As Vayner became more and more popular, some of his former Yale alumni stood up and said that they were not surprised to see this video. In his freshman year, he became famous for being too narcissistic. This time, he just got angry again ... His high school classmates also ran out and said that he had been blowing these awesome things since high school. Haven't he blown enough?

For a time, Vayner became the object of ridicule of the whole network.

Not only did he not get the coveted job at UBS, but he may also be unable to find a job on Wall Street or even the entire financial industry because of the spread of this video.

All this, like a stone, hit Weiner's heart. He was proud and confident, and his heart was completely destroyed ... So, in order to alleviate his pain, he began to take drugs, trying to paralyze himself with drugs and escape from reality. ...

In an interview with The New York Times, he said gloomily, "I feel like a victim …". Everyone poked him with a keyboard, laughing and cursing. When the hot spots receded, netizens and news media looked away, leaving Voyner alone to face his ruined absurd life and feel at a loss.

In these six years, he never appeared anywhere again.

Voyner, once proud, vain, exaggerated and superior, lived as a mouse in a dark corner, drugged himself and tried to avoid all the lights and attention.

April 20 12, maybe it was pressure, maybe it was ridicule from outside, maybe it was the role of drugs, and Weiner was finally crushed.

That night, his friends found out that he had taken an overdose of drugs and committed suicide at home, ending his 29-year-old life …

After the news was exposed, the American media expressed regret, and many netizens expressed shock, wondering whether the ridicule and cyber violence they had participated in had pushed a young man with little knowledge to such a desperate situation.

Vanity is the original sin of human beings, and showing off wealth is considered by thousands of netizens in Qian Qian as something worthy of being laughed at in person.

Improper comments, netizens who eat melons, and the media that add fuel to the fire, such a wave of internet interwoven with personal privacy and professional ethics, pushed everyone to an uncontrollable ending.

But where is the boundary of carnival?

? When friends are no longer safe

In high-privacy communication channels such as friends circle and private letters, it is easy for people to relax their vigilance and stop paying so much attention to whether their words are flawed, problematic, boastful or even politically inaccurate. When an opinion expressed in a small range is taken to the public platform, the taste of many things will become completely different.

Do we have the right to spread an ordinary person's small-scale self-entertainment to the laughing stock of the whole network, and are we qualified to examine people's vanity and absurdity in their own small world with a magnifying glass?

Nowadays, various network platforms give people the right to express themselves freely. Any sound has the opportunity to be infinitely amplified, and any mistake will be multiplied.

We haven't enough ability to draw a conclusion about whether such communication is good or bad, and we haven't enough ability to protect ourselves from being the next victim submerged in the whirlpool of public opinion in such a media environment.

This woman lawyer who shows off her wealth, whether she forged her academic qualifications or her partner status, really provoked the integrity system of the whole society. But a tolerant, flexible and fault-tolerant public opinion field is the proper meaning under the clear sky of the rule of law.

No matter whether the Lawyers Association finally finds Zhang suspected of false propaganda or what kind of punishment she finally finds, it must be admitted that she has borne more adverse consequences than she should have.

? If she can be honest?

There is no one in this world who is not vain at all. If we open this case in different ways, the result may be different:

If she generously admitted that she was admitted to Peking University on her own and became a partner of the largest law firm in Asia by virtue of her business ability, would the public's evaluation be completely different?

If she tells you that she is a foreigner and graduated from a second-rate college, but she can buy a house in Shenzhen in a short time, and she still practices English hard in her spare time and becomes fluent in English, will the public give a completely different evaluation?

If she told you that this law firm, which is extremely unreliable in your mouth, worked hard for more than two years when the market was in a downturn, made a lot of money, satisfied her desire not to be lowered to the bottom, and relied on her own ability to buy a lot of luxury goods that vain women could only buy by selling their bodies for money, which satisfied her middle-class vanity, would the public have different comments?

If she told you that she had the courage to reject the pursuit of lawyers from other big law firms and wait for her love independently, would the public's evaluation be completely different?

If she can be honest with herself and everyone, she may be a more likable and successful young lawyer. At the very least, she is more progressive than most people in her life.

Age saturated with desire

Last year, when the Japanese TV series "Tokyo Women's Picture Book" was broadcast, it caused many women in China to sing bad songs. Come to think of it, Zhang Qing, a female lawyer who shows off her wealth with a monthly income of millions, has many similarities with Aya in Tokyo.

Miss Zhang, like Aya who lives in the countryside and yearns for Tokyo, is full of yearning for the description of white-collar life in the bustling city in Jing M Guo's Tiny Times. She still cares about what she bought and used, and attaches great importance to labels that can show her identity. She registered online with her position+real name.

In our opinion, these are all the reasons why she works hard in big cities. The motivation that motivates her to climb up is not noble, but just this pure desire can sometimes be really fierce.

▲ I also said in Weibo that I have been paying attention to what M. Guo bought in Beijing.

What you wear and what you use.

We admire seeing Ling in Tokyo leave, move and get promoted in TV series, and gradually become an elite in the workplace. We regret to see that Ling paid in installments and bought a dress at the expense of usury.

We regret to see that Miss Zhang finally got a lawyer's license after four years of correspondence and self-study in this farce. Seeing Miss Zhang buying and selling luxury goods in the circle of friends of second-hand websites, we were silent.

Ling said that she didn't want to stay in Akita Prefecture all her life, but wanted to be a fashionable woman in a metropolis. Miss Zhang said that in 2008, she killed Matt in the countryside and only knew Lu. Later, she went to Tokyo to buy a limited edition, and then went to Paris to buy Chanel.

In the chain of contempt in modern society, people establish value identification based on consumption symbols, and realize self-identification and identity construction. However, beyond the play, consumerism is inevitably pessimistic in the end.

Ling can't break the class barrier with her rich second-generation boyfriend through a sky-high dress. For material enjoyment, she let three unreliable men chew too much time, and when clothes and bags were available, she really became a luxury. As for Miss Zhang, she is tall and hard-working, and now she has become the joke of the whole network. What's more, as a lawyer, this slip may ruin her career.

▲ "Tokyo Women's Picture Book" stills

Looking through Miss Zhang's Weibo, in fact, this girl is ostentatious on the surface, but she is not annoying in essence (how bad can such an offline girl be? ). She will miss her ex-boyfriend who looks like a "local dog" while spitting; Copy the heart sutra for the death of crayfish; There is also a "overbearing president is me" that made me laugh for half a night:

"I dreamed of falling in love with a prince and helping him ascend to the throne. Later, he was captured by the Turks and I established a new king. When he was put back, he didn't ask if he could be reset, just asked me if I still loved him. "

Many embarrassed netizens also found some * * * songs:

"After laughing a little sad. This girl reminds people of herself. In our unbearable QQ space, isn't it the same second grade, wonderful and vain? "

When I was young and ignorant, everyone believed in the identity and psychological comfort brought by luxury goods to a certain extent. With the increase of experience, some people have fled the world and are cautious, while others are still deeply involved and opinionated.

Zhang Qing's interpretation of this life is particularly like 130 years ago, Mo Bosang's novel The Necklace. Mathilde, the heroine, is a beautiful girl who is eager to enter the upper class. She once said:

The most shameful thing in the world is to show your poverty among many rich women.

In the end, she paid a half-life price for a diamond necklace that didn't lose face.

Life is a kind of practice. Everyone may get lost, but it doesn't matter, as long as they can find themselves in the end. Looking at the experience of Zhang Qing, a female lawyer, it is actually a very inspirational struggle story. However, after the success of the class leap, her way of dealing with real anxiety is too inappropriate: too high-profile and too impatient.

The inner wealth is the real wealth. No need to advertise, still water is deep, and this is exactly what you and I deserve most.

Hard life depends on the sun? It doesn't exist.