A joker at work.

Let me say my opinion first: it is foolish to turn against others because of work.

First, don't be unreasonable. I have a colleague who was complained and reported some time ago.

Said she had some problems.

Although it was found out later, it was just a few minor problems.

But her future has collapsed.

Later, I heard that it was because at work, she was often arrogant and arrogant.

Everyone who sees her is afraid of her.

If everything she does is fair and just, everyone will still respect her.

However, people who can't be completely selfless still have to forgive others.

Second, no matter how high the position, there are times when I leave. One day, I went on a business trip by company car.

On the way, I saw the retired old leader waiting for the bus.

I'll immediately remind the driver whether to stop for a while.

However, the driver got a foot full of oil and drove away quickly.

Later, the driver told me

In the past, the old leader had a bad temper, and he scolded anyone he caught. It was hard to swear.

Sometimes you have to call the driver to pick him up after drinking privately until the early morning.

No one in the company has not been scolded, and no one likes him.

Now that he's retired, who cares?

I've heard of it. How realistic. When people stay away from tea, that's all.

However, when the position gives you rights, don't forget Ben, there is no such thing as a person.

Third, making too many enemies is not good for our company. One of them has been deputy director for nearly 20 years.

His colleagues at the same time have already been promoted to a very high position.

According to the truth, his ability is not bad, and a post will not be delayed for 20 years.

Later, I learned that his mouth was too smelly and arrogant, which offended many people.

Every time he is elected, he can't get the votes.

In this way, it will drag on for 20 years.

Now he has lost all his hair and his wife is divorced.

I'm still a little nervous all day, and I'm always mumbling.

Last year, the leader approved early retirement and went home.

Let me give two examples first. One is that I have offended others, and the other is that others have offended me. Two consequences, both serious. Therefore, both positive and negative examples can confirm this sentence, "Because turning against others at work is the stupidest and most regrettable thing." Then, let's talk about how to solve contradictions and combine principle with flexibility.

The first example is that I offended others. At that time, I was young, energetic and competitive, with special emphasis on "principles". Of course, because I am not deeply involved in the world, the principle in my eyes is "the terms on the document", which is implemented mechanically and never gives in. I also call myself "King Kong", just and upright.

Once our department issued a bonus, and the leader asked me to take a plan. According to the terms of the document, I carefully made a list: the reward does not allow egalitarianism and leans towards the advanced. Those employees who I don't think do well have no money, and those who do well are broken down according to their grades.

The leader read my plan and patiently communicated with me: if you don't do this, it will cause internal contradictions. One is that people who don't get bonuses have a problem with me, and the other is that employees will hate each other.

My neck is honest, it won't work. I did it in strict accordance with the document requirements, and no one could say anything. The leader said, I am your boss, can't I say? I said, you are the leader, and you have to implement the document.

I'll just talk about how to deal with such problems after I become a leader. )

I turned against the leader on the spot and many colleagues saw it. Since then, the rumor that I am stupid, rigid, self-righteous, unruly and disobedient to the leadership has been circulating for a long time. I changed leaders twice, and both of them stayed away from me.

Later, I had to take the initiative to transfer from that unit and come to Beijing all the way. I hope the stranger the unit, the better, and eliminate my negative label. From then on, I tried to change myself. After a few years, I became a small leader.

The second example is that my subordinates turned against me. After I became a small leader, I found out what kind of state my subordinates opposed me. To tell the truth, small leaders are not easy to do, because their human resources are limited, and some things must be tolerated. Therefore, after becoming a small leader, I deeply realized that managers should first cultivate their own mentality, otherwise, they are wasting their emotions and energy.

A new employee, a famous student, is as stubborn as an ox and as rigid as death. Once, an old employee was ill, so I went to see him and asked him to buy condolences. He asked for the hospitalization certificate, otherwise, he couldn't do it. I said, he is ill. I know, he is not pretending to be ill. It is human nature and the system allows him to buy some condolences.

He has a neck, just like me. "In the way of condolence, it is written that there must be a hospitalization certificate." Many employees looked at me and didn't give me any face, as if the system belonged to his family. I opened this mountain and planted this tree, so I had to pass by here, leaving the appearance of buying money for the road.

So many people read my jokes that I have to look at the faces of new employees when I visit old employees? I turned against him on the spot. "The last article of this system also said that if necessary, the department head can do it." You can buy it if you are willing to do it. You can sit still if you want to do it.

This new employee quarreled with me, and I didn't stick an invoice when others bought it. What he means is: "If you quarrel with me, I must win." How else am I supposed to get around? "I really can't take him.

Since then, I have grown a mind's eye, and I will not give him any important and key tasks that require emotional intelligence. I can do a lot of things because of fighting with him. I really can't waste time. Slowly, he was naturally marginalized. Who is the loser? Still him.

The third is the example I give now. Later, when I became a middle level, my mentality changed even more. First, let yourself not be angry. This is the first. Second, try not to make others angry. Third, when I have to make others angry, I will never be angry. In principle, don't turn against others for work. After falling out, the obstacles caused later, this marginal loss, is huge.

For example, not long ago, the unit issued a bonus. How should I distribute it? I remembered the scene of being angry with my boss and regretted it very much. A leader has a consideration, a team has a team, but human nature has never changed.

I'm calm now. Even if I hate you very much, I won't quarrel with you directly. Without hard work, there is no need to make yourself unhappy all day.

The incremental reform I adopted, the first choice, everyone has a share, even if you are poor, there is still a bonus. Then, the outstanding person wins more prizes, followed by the outstanding person. Everyone is satisfied and there is no contradiction. If the employees with poor performance I hate have no money, they will turn against you on the spot, even shameless, so that I can't step down. What do my superiors think of me? My superiors will only think that I can't control the team. What do colleagues think of me? They'll think I exacerbated the conflict.

I can better imagine what moths these poor employees will make and make a mess of the whole team atmosphere. This approach is not unprincipled, nor is it a compromise with others. Instead, it adopts an incremental reform to digest contradictions to the maximum extent and carry on the most important things.

When I became a manager above the middle level, I deeply realized that the higher the position, the better the temper. It is not that they are born perfect, but they are summed up from practice and lessons, and they are also self-cultivated. Because they understand what is primary and what is secondary. There is really no need to turn against others for work. The marginal loss is getting bigger and bigger, and it is not worth the loss. Smart people understand.

I think this is very reasonable. This is a fact. Tell me a true story.

When I first joined the company, a related department was responsible for checking the hygiene of each department and included it in the daily assessment. In fact, many times it's just a formality. After all, no one wants to leave money here.

However, there is a new female employee in the inspection department with a more "real" personality. Right is right, wrong is wrong.

On a routine inspection, I met the department head in the office and was deducted two points in front of the department head.

Director: "We'll clean it later. See if you can't deduct it. "

Female employee: "That won't do. This is my job and my responsibility. See where it is. "

The last two people also had a war of words because of this. After this time, I offended the head of the department and spread a lot of negative remarks through the "strong" behavior of employees.

Coupled with her personality, people in this department don't like her very much, and they are directly isolated, which leads to few dowry gifts when she gets married.

It is not a problem for employees to work hard, but do sinners who always rob their jobs think it is worth it?

1, young people should not take "reason" as the basis for their own debate. Educated people often don't like unreasonable troubles, but don't be aggressive when reasoning.

As the old saying goes, it is easy to meet each other in the future if you stay out of it. Many times, people come into contact with each other because of work.

It is inevitable that there will be miscellaneous things at work, and others' mistakes will be caught. At this time, people can remedy it in time. I suggest that we should forgive others as well. This is a kind of wisdom.

2, many units, the promotion of work depends on human feelings, there are many enterprises, they have a very complete management system, in many cases can be implemented in accordance with the system.

But to be honest, how many such companies are there around?

Few people, especially those around us, pay attention to interpersonal relationships. If you want to do a good job, you need people to cooperate. How can someone help you with such a strong personality?

In the long run, this will only make you helpless and isolated.

3. The unit is a platform for you to make friends, not a stage to show your personality. It's not that I'm ugly, but that many young people who have just entered the workplace "hold chicken feathers like arrows", regardless of the occasion, some of them are around and die unsatisfied.

In the end, people were offended, and the leaders had to clean up. This is a sign of incompetence.

On the stage of the company, we should use the platform to better express our ability, not our personality.

The boss asked you to work on the platform to make a difference, not to cause public outrage.

4, everything is not torn, everything has room for manoeuvre. Interpersonal relationships in the workplace are very subtle. Many times, as long as you don't tear your face in public, you may become a comrade-in-arms in the next second.

But if you are torn in public, the probability of recovery becomes very small, which means that to a large extent, you have been hostile in this circle, which is very inappropriate.

I'm Zi Ling Jr.