Clever use of small humor to solve big embarrassment

Humor plays a very important role in daily communication. Proper use can not only adjust the atmosphere, but also greatly reduce conflicts and contradictions between people.

As a part of communication between people, chatting up is naturally inseparable from humor. Or we can say that chatting up people needs humor more than daily communication. Imagine that daily communication is mostly with acquaintances, and humor will not have an immediate effect on your relationship; It is different to strike up a conversation, because your image in the other person's mind is largely established through these short minutes and ten minutes of communication. People who speak humorously will definitely have a better image, and the success rate of hitting on people is obviously higher.

1; Humor is the embodiment of cultivation.

Humor seems to have nothing to do with self-cultivation, but careful observation will reveal that those who have an optimistic life, a good family education and a high level of knowledge have a higher sense of humor than ordinary people. This is not an accident, but an oral expression of self-cultivation.

On an ordinary working day, Zhang Yong takes a bus to a law firm that has business dealings with his company to deliver materials. Because it was hot, he bought a cold drink before getting on the bus. After getting on the bus, he found that there were too many passengers on the bus to drink the cold drink in his hand. The car has just started a few steps. Because of the red light, the driver suddenly braked, causing the cold drink in Zhang Yong's cup to splash on the arm of a man next to him. Before Zhang Yong could apologize, a lady next to her quickly took out a paper towel to wipe it. As a result, the man smiled and said, "Baby, don't wipe it in a hurry. In fact, this cooling method is quite good. " In this way, the man's humor immediately resolved Zhang Yong's embarrassment.

On the surface, the other party is just humorous, but if it is not the inner cultivation that plays a role, this kind of thing may develop into a quarrel.

Humor is the product of wisdom.

Shakespeare said, "Humor is the flash of wisdom." Therefore, people who know humor and know humor are often full of wisdom. Those ignorant people can only tell vulgar jokes at best and don't know what real humor is. Throughout ancient and modern times, many literary masters not only show their refined ideas in their works, but also show their unique humorous wisdom in their daily life.

Goethe, a German writer, once walked in the park and met a politician who had verbally attacked him on a narrow path. I saw the other person say, "I never give way to fools." Goethe also said: "I am just the opposite." Say that finish, Goethe stood aside and let the other side go. Goethe's humor not only reflects his mind and demeanor, but also reflects his alertness and wisdom.

Humor is the language of art.

Language is not the only carrier of humor, but humor is one of the most artistic forms of language. Sometimes, you just need to change the original way of thinking, or set a clever "trap" for the language, and it will present a very different feeling.

There was once a bridge in a foreign TV series:

The heroine went to a bar and waited for her drink at the bar. Then the handsome bartender accosted him and said, "There is something wrong with my mobile phone. Can you help me? "

The girl looked at each other, then at his cell phone and asked, "What's the problem?"

The handsome bartender said, "there is no your number in it."

I have to admire this handsome bartender's ability to strike up a conversation, guide the other person to ask questions with an extremely common and common question, and then express his acquaintance thoughts with a very humorous answer. This way of hitting on people is not rude or vulgar. The key is humor. In this case, I believe that there should not be many people who refuse to strike up a conversation.

Humor is the bane of embarrassment.

Whether chatting up beautiful women in the street or selling products in the office building, you will inevitably encounter some unexpected events or embarrassing situations. Although there are many ways to solve the embarrassment, some of them will leave scars on the embarrassment. Solving the embarrassment with humor will magically reverse the embarrassing situation.

Zhang Hang is a salesman in an office supplies company. He is not only eloquent, but also quick in thinking. Once he went to an advertising company to promote a "folding" T-shaped drawing ruler. As he introduced it, he said, "Look at this drawing ruler. It is very strong and can be folded all the time." In order to prove what he said is true, he also bent the ruler hard in front of two managers and several supervisors. As a result, the ruler broke in two with a bang. Everyone was stunned by the scene in front of him, and a supervisor secretly covered his mouth and laughed. I see Zhang Hang is unusually calm. He didn't explain why the ruler was broken. Instead, I lifted the ruler that was broken into two pieces and said to everyone, "Look, this is the internal structure of the ruler."

The embarrassment originally caused by operational mistakes was easily resolved by humorous Zhang Hang. People may remember Zhang Xing's "big talk" just now, but they admire his ability to improvise and the level of resolving embarrassment.

Laugh at yourself, gain sympathy and enliven the atmosphere.

People often say: "The stock market is risky, so you need to be cautious in investing." It is also applicable to apply this sentence to the field of chatting up, such as "chatting up is risky, so be careful when opening your mouth".

So, what are the risks of hitting on people? For example, if you strike up a conversation, the other person will see that you are short and ugly and ignore you at all. For example, because of your slip of the tongue, the other person looks embarrassed. In fact, these two situations are often encountered in the process of chatting up, and they are also very likely risks. So, how to face it? Self-mockery is undoubtedly a good way to solve the risk, and it is also a wise way.

There is an article that tells such a story:

At a dance, a short man invited a tall and beautiful woman to dance. As a result, the woman said coldly, "I never dance with men shorter than me." The man didn't get angry when he heard this, but just smiled and said wryly, "I really opened a shop in Wu Dalang and got the wrong helper!" When the lady heard this, she suddenly turned red and looked unnatural. The arrogant expression just now disappeared without a trace. It is because they are good at self-mockery that men can easily get out of trouble and maintain a balanced mentality. The last embarrassment is the lady.

In the process of chatting up, if you encounter cold eyes or difficulties, don't spend too much time thinking about the other person's psychology, thinking about the other person's purpose of treating yourself, and assuming that there is any hatred between you. In fact, the other person may just be in a bad mood at that time, such as being criticized by the leader or catching a cold, which has nothing to do with you at all.

Self-mockery is not only the skill to solve embarrassing problems in the process of chatting up people, but also the wisdom to behave. In this regard, former US President Lincoln is a good example.

Once, Lincoln was invited by a newspaper to speak at its editorial meeting, but Lincoln felt that he was neither an editor nor experienced in publishing, so he was not suitable for such a meeting. In order to find an excuse not to attend the meeting, he told the following story:

"On one occasion, I met a woman riding a horse in the forest, and then I stopped to make way for each other. As a result, the other person stared at me intently and said,' I feel that you are really the ugliest person I have ever seen!'

"I said,' Maybe you are right, but what can I do?'

"The lady on horseback said,' Of course you can't change your ugliness, but you can stay at home and don't come out!' "

Everyone was amused by Lincoln's clever self-mockery, and the newspaper later gave up the plan to invite Lincoln. In this story, Lincoln expressed his intention to refuse in a self-deprecating way, which neither embarrassed anyone, but also made everyone understand his intention in a pleasant atmosphere.

As the saying goes, "It's meaningless to go straight and never tire of it", and people who strike up a conversation should also learn to "detour". Sometimes it's easy to avoid the heavy, and it's empty to avoid the real. Taking a detour strategy may save yourself a lot of unnecessary trouble.

Some people regard self-mockery as exposing shortcomings, but this is actually a more one-sided understanding. Since you want to laugh at yourself, you should expose your shortcomings, otherwise the fun and purpose of self-mockery will be weakened. But even if you expose your weaknesses, you don't tell others everything without reservation, nor do you choose the worst side of yourself, but you should "laugh without laughing." The so-called ridicule means that everyone knows one of your shortcomings, and deliberately covering it up will appear hypocritical. At this time, you may wish to take the initiative to let everyone "see" the truth; The so-called don't laugh, it involves personal privacy, so don't "show off" it, because it won't let everyone see your sincerity, but will think you are naive.