Why do 50-year-old men frequently have extramarital affairs?

Lao Chen is 50 years old this year. He did engineering work more than ten years ago and has a little money. He feels that he is a rich man in a small county. He likes to show off wherever he goes, and gradually his heart has changed. Wild.

Once I had a meal with a friend and met a young woman. Lao Chen was obsessed with her from then on. He never returned home, ignored his wife and children, and lived a small life outside.

Once the child was sick, and his wife called him to go to the hospital. He said that he was on a business trip and could not go back. In fact, his wife bought food for his son at the restaurant where he ate, and his car was parked. Outside the hotel, he was answering the phone on the second floor, and his wife could see clearly.

My wife is completely disappointed with Lao Chen and wants to divorce Lao Chen, but Lao Chen refuses to divorce her. He has heard old people say that it is bad luck for a man to divorce his wife and destroy the land. He is very superstitious. This statement is because I am afraid that I will be punished if I get divorced.

In other words, this is also a deception. Except that there are no divorce procedures, what is the difference between it and divorce.

When Lao Chen’s wife saw him like this, she made a fuss for a while, but no one came back. She simply gave up and started a small business with a friend. Unexpectedly, her life got better. .

God took care of mother and son. She supported her son in school by herself without much difficulty. Later, when her son was admitted to university, she followed her son to live in a new city.

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She used her savings to open a small supermarket, providing food and accommodation in the store. Her son also helped her when he was not in class. Unexpectedly, the business would still be successful. Not bad. When her son graduated from college, she bought him a house, and the couple settled down.

They don’t go back to their hometown very much. We can also hear some news about Lao Chen from their former relatives and friends. His life is not very good, and it has been difficult to do projects in the past few years. It's not easy to live in debt if you owe others and others owe you.

Last winter, Lao Chen’s mother passed away. The old man waited until the couple came back before closing her eyes. She was disappointed in her son and felt extremely sorry for her daughter-in-law and grandson. Always thinking about it.

Lao Chen’s eyes lit up when he saw the two of them. He did not expect that his wife had not aged at all, and that his son was still so promising, tall and handsome. He was secretly glad that he had not divorced. Right.

But his wife ignored him at all, and did not even look at him. They left as soon as the funeral was over, and Lao Chen had no chance to say a few words to his son.

Later, everyone left, and Lao Chen stayed in the old house by himself. Thinking back to when his son was young, he suddenly felt that he was a fool, and a good home made it difficult for him to behave like himself. .

His business has not been very good in the past few years, and he is getting older and is a little unable to do what he wants. The woman next to him has long been dissatisfied. She is gibbering all day long and has a bad face.

He suddenly felt that his life had become a joke in the eyes of others. How proud he felt before, he felt so embarrassed now.

Recently, he discovered that the woman was chatting on the mobile phone, and she was secretive. It was not a good thing at first glance, so he didn't bother to care about it. He just lived in a muddle and took it one day at a time.

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About a month later, Lao Chen went home at night and found that all the valuables and people were gone. He called and turned off the phone. He knew that woman Ran away.

At this time, Lao Chen thought about it carefully. After fooling around together for 10 years, he didn’t even know where this woman’s hometown was. He believed whatever she said. Only now did he feel that he was a god. The most stupid fool down there.

Lao Chen didn't feel too sad. He felt that this day was coming to an end, but he just didn't expect it to end so soon or in this way.

Lao Chen thought he still had a family that would take him in, so he went to the city where his wife and son lived. What he didn’t expect was that his wife and son didn’t see him at all, and he came back in despair.

After Lao Chen came back, he received a notice that his wife was going to sue him for divorce. He also guessed that the reason why his wife had not divorced all these years was because she was still alive. With her gone, divorce was inevitable.

Lao Chen never dreamed that he would block his own escape route. He was helpless when he was angry. He also reflected on himself when nothing happened. It was all his own fault. He could not blame his son or his wife. I deserve what I have today.

In addition to love, marriage is also a contractual relationship. If one party does not abide by it, it will lose its meaning.

Husbands and wives cannot share joys and sorrows, and the outcome is destined to be no better. No one will always wait for you to change your mind. If you make a mistake, you are wrong. You have to pay for your own behavior. .

Whether it’s husband and wife, father and son, family, friendship, and love are all mutual. Don’t try to let one side give unconditionally. People’s hearts are full of flesh. If long-term efforts are not responded to, feelings will be lost. It will fade until it disappears.

That sentence makes sense. If you love me, please love me deeply. If you don’t love me, please leave me!