Should women be forgiven for cheating?

Although my colleague Lao Li's wife is nearly 50 years old, she is still beautiful and well maintained, and looks like 30 years old.

However, Lao Li found that his wife had frequent contacts with other men in the past two years, often went out to eat and drink together, and repeatedly contacted by phone, so he kept a close watch.

One night, when Lao Li saw his wife chatting with another man on WeChat, he grabbed the mobile phone and pretended to be his wife to chat with each other. The other person's words are ambiguous and full of ridicule. It's all sentences like "wife" and "I miss you". Lao Li pressed the video chat and the other party accepted. It was indeed a strange man, but when the man saw it was Lao Li, he immediately hung up the video.

Now Lao Li is angry. He left home with his wife's cell phone. In the next few days, he investigated all his wife's phone records, information records, WeChat records, room opening records, etc., and found nothing new except frequent phone calls with men.

After the incident, Lao Li's wife felt guilty at first and called Lao Li several times, but Lao Li didn't answer. Later, she found Lao Li and begged him to go home. Lao Li said that seeing her made him sick and refused to go home.

Because I am their friend, I began to mediate after I learned about it, and Lao Li's wife told me her experience.

They have been married for 26 years. More than ten years ago, Lao Li made a windfall, and his family lived a rich and happy life. A few years ago, Lao Li's wife's eldest brother was sentenced for corruption and bribery (her eldest brother was originally the only pride of the whole family). From then on, Lao Li began to look down on his in-laws and often attacked his wife with some scandals in their family. Of course, his wife was angry and their feelings began to drift apart.

Later, Lao Li looked at his wife wrongly, saying that she was vain and showed off her wealth, and because her wife was beautiful, Lao Li was not at ease where to go. Lao Li is particularly opposed to his wife going out to travel and go to the gym. She is afraid of having an affair with other men and has cuckolded herself.

But contrary to expectations, the more Lao Li refused to let his wife do anything, the more she insisted on doing it, so that this ended in the end.

Cheating is divided into' emotional cheating' and' physical cheating', and its essence is infidelity to marriage.

According to the development process, emotional derailment is the preparation stage and physical derailment is the implementation stage, and its nature and consequences are different.

In my opinion: physical infidelity is unforgivable. Emotional infidelity should be traced back to the source and treated differently.

The situation of Lao Li's wife is a typical emotional affair, but it's not her fault. Therefore, if they want to maintain a complete family and continue to live, not only Lao Li's wife needs to repent, but Lao Li also needs to reflect. And Lao Li's wife has always regretted and felt guilty. From this perspective, Lao Li's wife should be forgiven.

In any case. It is unforgivable for a woman to cheat. You can buy a used car. But never buy a car. I wonder if anyone else has a key.

Generally, women don't cheat, and women who cheat are basically in these situations:

1. After losing confidence in my man and having no hope, I chose another one to rely on.

I don't want my married life to be dull, so I go outside to find excitement.

3. Women in easy virtue are women who travel between men, and only when they are noticed by men can they have a sense of existence.

I still do my duty, but I can't help seducing a man, a woman who made a mistake at the moment.

From the above reasons, for women, derailment can basically form inertia, that is, once it is inevitable, there will be a second time. I think forgiving a cheating woman is not tolerance and kindness, but a kind of harm, to myself and to a cheating woman.

There are two possibilities for a woman to cheat. One is a happy marriage and a stable family. Second, the family is unhappy and the marriage breaks down.

Women who cheat happily in marriage generally feel guilty and feel sorry for their husbands, but they can't stand the temptation of the outside world. It can also be said that they are not determined, their hearts have long been derailed, and their bodies will be derailed.

However, this kind of woman will be especially kind to her husband and children because of her guilt after cheating, and will be particularly gentle and considerate. At this time, if a smart husband can detect, not show, but warm with love, it will resolve the crisis and reassure women.

Another kind of woman cheated because her family was unhappy and felt that her marriage was unfortunate and painful. At this time, once someone takes advantage of it, it is easy to release herself. She begins to hate her lover and her family. She always thought that she would be happy if she broke through the cage.

But she didn't know that waiting for her might be worse. The woman in a man's subconscious is his private property, and once he cheats, he will generally not forgive.

So the topic we are discussing now, will women lie to men?

First of all, two people must sit down and have a good talk, and have a good reflection and exchange. If the wife only slips for a moment, if she admits her mistake and promises to live a good life in the future, and her husband still loves her so much, then face is not so important, so we might as well give her a chance to forgive her for making mistakes.

I believe that women who return to their families will cherish the recovered marriage and family more. So I think it depends on the reasons and motives of cheating. If you still love and care about your family, then it is forgivable to cheat occasionally!

Who can guarantee that no one in this world will make mistakes?

Vincent is a science and engineering student, working on the Internet, writing code day and night, making a lot of money, and investing all of it in a house to get married. I met his girlfriend once, Vincent company front desk, lively personality, love to take pictures.

At that time, they were going to get married. Vincent and I have been good friends for many years, and we want to talk about how to plan the wedding together.

Vincent and I never met again, and then I went to work in Huawei and was sent overseas. Usually only through WeChat contact, because of the time difference, rarely speak.

It wasn't until last week that Vincent and I met and chatted that we realized that Linda had cheated on her during a trip to go to dali before he got married, by looking through his girlfriend's QQ space. There are many descriptions of this man in the space, not a simple one-night stand.

Marriage naturally did not form. Before he left, Vincent threw me a question. Can a woman love two men at the same time?

I couldn't give Vincent any answers at that time because I had no similar experience.

I also participated in one of the performances at the company's Christmas annual meeting last two months. During rehearsal, someone patted me on the shoulder from behind.

Turning around, it turned out to be a beautiful woman with an advertising company badge around her neck, which looked a little familiar.

Eric, it's really you. That beautiful woman is greeting me.

I'm a little surprised. I can't remember the correct number.

This is Linda from Oracle Bone Inscriptions Company.

Oh, oh, oh, I'm surprised that I can't keep my mouth shut for a long time. What a coincidence.

Linda told me that she is now working in a home advertising company, in charge of program planning. Their company took over the business of our company's Christmas annual meeting. She is the director of this party and saw my name on the program.

Linda smiled and said to me, genius, I have been paying attention to your article, knowing that you work in this company, and I happened to meet you today, so I came to say hello.

Oh, thank you, Linda. It's getting better and better I really didn't come out just now. What a coincidence! I only met Vincent last month. I haven't seen you for years, but we all met this month.

I quickly said here, a little slip of the tongue, with an unnatural expression on my face.

Really? Vincent, is he okay?

Everything is fine, but I'm still busy.

Eric, let's find a place to have a cup of coffee after the rehearsal. My treat.

Because there were too many programs, it was very late when the rehearsal ended. I want to make another appointment with Linda.

No, just tonight. There is something I want to talk to you about.

We took a taxi to the bar street in the shopping park and ordered a glass of red wine after taking a seat.

Vincent told you a lot about me. While speaking, Linda gently turned a red wine glass, and the blurred lights in the bar made her more charming.

For the first time in so many years, I knew that Vincent could write poetry, so I quickly changed the subject.

Linda looked me in the eye and said that he actually had many advantages. I really intend to marry him.

What Linda said next touched my heart.

Linda used to be an executive in the company. She has a lot of time. She loves beauty and food, and doesn't want to lose weight by dieting, so she chooses to learn Latin dance to shape her beautiful figure. She wants to be the most beautiful bride on the wedding day.

Originally, Vincent was dragged to learn to dance together, but Vincent was catching up with a product version and writing source code every day, so he couldn't leave. Ask him about his wedding plans, wedding photos and where to spend his honeymoon. He says it's up to you.

In that training class, the training teacher arranged a date for Linda. His name is Stanley.

Coincidentally, Stanley used to work in the entertainment section of another Internet company, taking charge of photography. He is very enthusiastic and has endless jokes and stories every day.

In the training class, they come to training every day. They all came first and left last. At the end of class, they are the best couple.

Class is over. Do you know if we will meet again in the future? On the night of graduation, Stanley invited Linda to dinner. At the end, Stan looked at her with deep eyes and melancholy eyes.

Linda doesn't talk. Seriously, she's still a little sad.

Don't you like taking pictures? I am in charge of the entertainment section, and there will be a party in Dali next month. Why don't you come along?

Dali Erhai Lake, she really wants to go. Although rocking chairs by Erhai Lake have been flooded on the Internet, linda still wants to sit in a white rocking chair under the pure blue sky and take the most beautiful pictures with love.

In this way, they came to Dali. Erhai Lake is so beautiful that they forget everything about Shenzhen and let go of their work fatigue, as if they were frozen.

The physical contact of Latin dance class for several months, the fiery communication on WeChat and the beautiful scenery in front of us naturally happened a lot during this journey.

When she came back, Linda took the initiative to end the relationship. She really wants to be Vincent's bride. Only in the dead of night, she still remembers the rocking chair, blue sky and flying seagulls in Erhai Lake.

Later Vincent got to know her, and her diary was written on the QQ space opened on the computer screen. She didn't give any explanation, so they separated.

Just remembering the question Vincent asked me before, I said, I take the liberty to ask, can a woman fall in love with two men at the same time?

Linda shook her head and said, I think a woman may be with two men at the same time, but the position will be different. A woman's heart is very small, and the weakest place can accommodate a man.

Vincent and your partner are two people you have loved at the same time. Who do you want to leave the place you mentioned?

Actually, you know what? I haven't spoken to Stanley since Vincent and I broke up. He's not the right person for me.

When I left the bar, Shenzhen was already lonely and deserted in the early morning.

I think I can send Vincent a WeChat. I already know the answer he wants.

Should women be forgiven for cheating?

Should a daughter-in-law be forgiven for cheating after marriage? Only you have the final say, others just suggest, make up your mind whether to adopt it or not.

A very good friend of mine also asked me such a question, and he told me the whole story! Because of the alleged invasion of friends' privacy, I will briefly say. My friend is a farmer like me. With a few acres of land to support the family, life is also relatively tight! A few years ago, it was popular to work abroad to earn money. A friend went to work in Africa through an intermediary company for two or three years, and the days suddenly flourished, which made his peers envious. But not long after I came back, suddenly one day another friend of mine mentioned that he had called his wife back to her parents' house and was going to leave for a while. I'm a little confused. I'll call him right away and ask him to come over. When I met him, I started drinking. After drinking for a while, my friend became incoherent. Then I burst into tears. I took the opportunity to scold him. I just left my good wife at home and hit her ... The second half of the sentence, he interrupted me to mention these words. He was as drunk as a fiddler that day and didn't go back to live in my house that night.

The next day, he woke up and began to talk intermittently about the cause and effect of fighting with his wife. I see, after my friend went abroad to work, a year later, my wife met a net friend. They didn't interact for a long time and kept going back and forth until my friend came home. After the friend found out, he beat his wife after drinking, and her wife apologized to him and promised never to see him again. My friend couldn't face this angry thing, and then his wife was driven away by his friend. Friends now feel particularly regretful and want to forgive each other, but they can't swallow this tone. Do not forgive each other. After all, children are teenagers. Sighed for a long time … finally asked me what to do, should I forgive each other? Then I talked with him all morning. Not long after, my friend took my wife home, and her wife completely broke off relations with each other. Then my friend and wife live happily and harmoniously together.

The exact words I said to my friend that day were like this. Since you still like each other, try your best to save it! It is human nature to make mistakes! Daughter-in-law's cheating may also be a moment of confusion, and I believe she doesn't want to leave this home either. If I forgive her, I will never mention my wife's cheating again. Turn the page! Not to mention your wife's unruly side, even hitting her after drinking. A man should be able to take it up and put it down. If you really don't want to forgive each other, then make up your mind and get a divorce. Personally, no matter who cheats, it will hurt each other. This is irreversible. Life is too short to cherish. Don't regret it too late when you get married …

Many women can't stand the temptation, or they are mysterious for a while, or their curiosity is inadvertently derailed. This is an unintentional person. Others are really lonely, empty, indifferent, suppressing guilt and cheating. Others are pretentious and take cheating for granted.

It's another thing to say forgive or not. Man's spiritual world is an abstract world, invisible and intangible, with ever-changing thoughts and behaviors. Once a woman has an affair, the mental burden is an inevitable result. After most women are cheated by their spouses, their married life will no longer be peaceful, and some will be beyond redemption. Even if the marriage doesn't break up, they will stumble and talk for life. Why? It is caused by national cultural traditions.

Before liberation, China was a feudal social tradition in which men were superior to women. After liberation, it advocated equality between men and women. Today, it has done the best in the cause of equal rights for men and women, and it is also the best in China in the world. However, it is impossible to eradicate the dross of traditional culture in just a few decades. Among the men in China, there are many people with virgin complex, and the proportion is very high. No matter what he says, it is exclusively for women in his bones. Back to women's affairs, there are some pure needs and some emotions. In either case, a woman will never have two minds again, and no one can say clearly about the sensory world and the spiritual world.

A bloody man will never forgive his spouse for cheating. Even if he forgives, he hates it in his bones. In this case, a woman who cheats will be born to die if she doesn't leave for the rest of her life. In front of a weak man, forgiveness is just a blank check. From the moment you know that your spouse is cheating, it is doomed that the future will not be calm. For women, no matter what the reason is, cheating means betrayal, dishonesty and disloyalty. Although this situation is more serious among men, it should be equally morally condemned in theory, in real life, the vast majority of men are the strong side, and women have no advantage at all. The stability of sexual behavior is the only basis to maintain the emotional stability of married couples. The so-called forgiveness is just a cover-up, and it is just empty talk for women.

Smart men will never tolerate their spouses cheating, and smart women will never cheat in marriage. Forgiveness is superficial and has no real meaning. That's why all men don't want to marry a fireworks girl who they know very well.

Is it worth forgiving for a woman to cheat?

After reading many netizens' answers, they all insisted that it was not worth forgiving. I think these people all have a sense of male chauvinism. If a woman asks questions, is it worth forgiving for a man to cheat? What's your answer? Therefore, whether it is a man or a woman, we must first find out why she cheated. Is it all women's fault? In fact, sometimes women cheat and men are also responsible. And you don't need a man's forgiveness, she will leave you by herself.

Why do you say that? Women's infidelity is nothing more than these situations:

1, this woman is often abused by a man, and another man comes to care for her and take care of her, never getting warm, as if seeing the dawn of hope again. This kind of woman doesn't need a man's forgiveness and will naturally leave you.

2, because of work reasons, husband and wife can not live together for a long time, women can not stand the inner loneliness, and other men chop and change. I don't think it's worth forgiving this kind of woman for cheating.

3, a woman with strong vanity, cheating is not worthy of men's forgiveness, because she always thinks that her man is incompetent and can't give her more material satisfaction, and she never works, only knows that buy buy buys and keeps up with others.

Should women be forgiven for cheating?

This requires specific analysis of specific situations. First of all, we must find out why women cheat.

I think this kind of cheating woman can be forgiven!

The derailed woman who knows how to turn back and really wants to turn over a new leaf is worthy of forgiveness!

We often say that the sea of suffering is endless, and turning back is the shore. Admitting a mistake is half corrected.

Maybe they made mistakes, but who can live without making mistakes? If love still exists, be tolerant and give her a chance to turn over a new leaf. And she also knew that she was wrong and was willing to turn back, so she forgave her once, only once.

Because of men's infidelity, women should take extreme revenge.

When men cheat, women don't want to endure all this silently, but take some extreme measures. Answer each other tit for tat, because the other party cheated, so I cheated. In fact, you should forgive!

Because women don't want to cheat on their own initiative, they want to retaliate in this way and seek psychological balance. But more is thinking about saving men in this extreme way.

What kind of woman should not be forgiven for cheating!

Women don't want to look back after cheating, and their behavior is extremely bad, regardless of their previous feelings.

There is no need to forgive such a woman.

Don't you think so?

Men cheat on their kidneys and women cheat on their hearts.

Once a woman has an affair, nine cows can't be pulled out.

Even if she asks you for forgiveness, such a woman is still divorced. She is in Cao Cao's heart and in Han's heart, and her heart is gone. What is the point of people coming back?

A woman's infidelity has her own reasons as well as her own reasons.

A traitor is a traitor, and surrender will not change the reputation of a traitor. Besides, there will be a second betrayal at a time, which is impossible to prevent.

It's no use forgiving or not forgiving a woman who is unfaithful to her. Forget it.

It is said that both persuasion and non-persuasion are good, but according to my years of experience, leaving is good for both sides.

I won't forgive my woman if she cheats. Even if two people don't get along, I don't want her to have an affair It doesn't matter if no one knows. When I know that I have a green hat on my head, I will be very uncomfortable. A few men will feel better. If the same man is cheating, women will feel uncomfortable when they know. Some women will make a mountain out of a molehill, and some will even file for divorce. Emotional infidelity can forgive, physical infidelity can be made. Men and women are all the same, so men should resist temptation, women should resist loneliness, and men and women should pay attention to discretion. Each of us should keep our position, don't do anything that hurts our lover, and don't think that the other party won't know. Once it happens, it will happen twice or even many times. Paper can't wrap the fire, you will know sooner or later.