Why am I single?

Hello, the following five reasons why you are still single now:

Reason 1: You always look down on the people around you

Whether it is a boy or a Girls, probably starting in middle school, will often complain that their peers are too naive; when they grow up, they will complain that the opposite sex in their social circle is not good enough.

You don’t like ordinary people of the opposite sex, they don’t have cool work experience, they don’t make enough money, and their families are too mediocre; you don’t think they are rich enough, gentle enough, considerate enough, virtuous and interesting enough.

When you look up, you will find that there is a group of good enough people, 99.9% of them will meet your needs for mate selection, but it is basically impossible for them to regard you as a real dating partner. Those goddesses and male gods not only inherited good genes, but also spent a lot of time to become relatively perfect people; even if they have good intentions, compassion, and understanding of the sufferings of the people, it does not mean that they will be with you. .

At this time, you have two choices: 1. Make up your mind and change yourself, just to find the best; 2. Accept the reality, start to feel the advantages of the people around you, and choose the one who resonates with you the most. .

I don’t know how many people would choose one. Please don’t make decisions impulsively, keep learning to expand your horizons, lose weight, whiten your skin and stay healthy. Nothing is easy. If you can't do it, then choose the second path. This path may not be bad. Maybe when you turn around, there will be a shy, kind and upright young man waiting for you there.

Of course, the further you go up, the broader the scenery. Being afraid of being tired and unwilling to move up is not necessarily a mistake. Living in peace with the status quo is also a life choice. Of course, you can also choose to stay single.

You just need to remember that no matter how good you want something, you have to pay a high price.

Reason 2: Your fanaticism scares everyone away

A friend met a boy at an event. The boy grew up to be gentle and gentle, but before the two of them chatted for a few words, the boy immediately began to compliment the girl wildly and said many sensational and disgusting words. My friend was frightened to death and wanted to run away on the spot.

Don’t think that only boys can do such things, girls can do it too.

Caught a boy and harassed him crazily for 24★ days. As long as the other party said a slight slight (the two obviously have no special relationship), the girl would start to feel wronged and awkward, making everything awkward and awkward. baffling.

Although there are perfect endings in movies and TV dramas, in real life, you are generally regarded as crazy. This is why we often see that many fanatical and vigorous love always end in breakup? Because life or death, fanaticism, is a self-performance in itself and has little to do with "love".

You can chase the opposite sex, it is a very interesting thing, but you can't be so fanatical that you exaggerate it. At least you should first understand what kind of person the other person is before expressing your good feelings.

Most of the overly fanatical emotions are caused by imagination, self-fantasy, and excessive lack of love. Fanaticism will only make the other person feel scared and run away, and then you won't be able to find your partner. Staying rational, staying logical, and maintaining a normal posture will make you look more attractive.

Reason 3: Not enough looks, not enough heart

When I went to dinner at noon, my friend said, "There is no aesthetic education in our education." "The only discussion of beauty is how many aunts sweep the floor." How noble and beautiful.” Not to mention that we admire “ugliness” to a crazy degree.

We believe that the soul is noble, so the appearance does not need to be beautiful. Wearing makeup and dressing up is superficial; we like to buy good-looking brand names, and beautiful and high-quality things are even more worship of money; we must like to eat skewers and roadside stalls. Wearing clothes that cost 30 yuan a piece is politically correct.

I have met many talented people, and they are not ugly.

Those men and women who are clever and have professional functions often have good looks. Although there is no objective data statistics, it is still believed that a person's appearance can reflect your social level and mental state; appearance and spiritual level are positively correlated.

When you are clean and good-looking, the good impression others will have on you when they see you for the first time is already an advantage. No matter how miserable your living situation is, please try your best to make yourself look better.

Girls will not be attracted to boys whose hair looks like they haven’t had a haircut in half a year, whose clothes are wrinkled, whose shoes are dirty, and who smiles in a vulgar way; boys should not be that attracted to boys who have a messy figure and hair. The girl whose nail polish has faded.

If you want your life to be easier, if you want to be liked more by everyone, if you want your life to be smoother, if you want to live a better life, then - please try your best to become Look better. Appearance is not just natural. It can be improved dramatically through exercise, reading magazines, buying clothes, visiting the dentist, and spending time.

Reason 4: You are hopelessly lazy

With the rapid development of science and technology, you can still live a good life even if you hide at home every day. You can browse Weibo, watch American TV series, play games, and have a dazzling variety of unscrupulous and heavy-tasting anime. Unfortunately, scientists have not yet provided a solution for falling in love at home. Please be sure to go out and socialize and find true love.

To socialize, you must first mobilize all the resources around you, such as friends of colleagues, friends of classmates, etc. You can make more like-minded friends through one person; secondly, you can participate in some industries Gatherings can not only expand more career opportunities, but also meet many like-minded friends; taking a step back, there are also many interesting activities in Douban City.

If you feel that your social circle is small, you should socialize; if you feel fat, you should go swimming; if you feel that something is not working, you should get active. I yell every day, but I can't stick to anything, but it's still really not cute at all.

The most common ending for a lazy person is to have no career, no social circle, and no love partner. They accumulate a belly of fat and stay in a shared house browsing the web.

Reason 5: More boring than the news network

The common state of boring people is that they have narrow values, like to tell some bad jokes, treat stupid things as funny things, and fall into Trivial things cannot come out... To put it bluntly, there is too little input, so there is no way to output.

If you often get into long-lasting embarrassments with people of the opposite sex, or if others often start a topic in social situations and you either fail to pick up the topic or you always say inappropriate things, then you need to seriously consider yourself Whether the input is too little.

The way to solve this problem is to read more, expand your worldview, and don't be lazy. There are no shortcuts and no magic bullets.

Why are you single? Do you agree with the above five points? Finding a partner and falling in love is to choose someone who likes you and you like it too. However, to make others like you, you don't have to be willful and show off your personality. You need to make yourself less terrible, find your niche, and meet like-minded people.

If you ask me what should I do if I can't find a love partner? I think it should be 8 words - see yourself clearly and take action.