What if there are old people in the world and some small ones?

What if there are old people in the world and some small ones?

It is common that the concepts, ways and differences of parenting between the two generations have caused family conflicts. What if there are younger generations among them? I hope you like it.

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Hao Hao is the kind of child who eats well in class in kindergarten. One night at dinner, grandma cooked a sumptuous dish, many of which were very popular.

The fried eggs that day were so delicious that Hao Hao couldn't wait to finish his own and then announced: I want to eat another one! ?

Grandma smiled:? All right, all right! Come on, I gave it to your mother. ?

Speaking of stretching chopsticks, you have to clip them from your mother's plate. Mother frowned and refused: Hao Hao, do you want to eat other dishes? Mom wants an omelet, too. ?

Haohao's mouth is flat, and the boss is not happy.

Grandma scolded:? Your mother is really! An fried egg is still a topic of debate among children. Mean! Wait, grandma will fry you another one. ? Put down the chopsticks, get up and walk into the kitchen.

Dear grandma, even if the Manchu banquet is placed on the table, as long as the baby is not satisfied, he will go into the kitchen without saying a word.

Mother blamed grandma for spoiling the child, but grandma was unconvinced: when the child grew up, he could not eat whatever he wanted. I spoil him? I just satisfy him to eat and drink! This is how you spoil your children! What kind of Lego toys do you want to buy? Eating and drinking are too expensive. I think many mothers go to the toy market to buy so much cheaper. Didn't they have a good time? Spoil yourself, I'll fry an egg and you tell me! ?

This kind of thing has been staged countless times in life. Grandma thinks it's normal to meet the child's small request for fried eggs, but she didn't think that how could a mother be reluctant to give her son that egg?

An fried egg is a trivial matter, but children will feel that as long as they want it, they can confidently take it from someone else's bowl to satisfy themselves.

Your own needs are the first, and others are stingy if they don't give it. Such behavior will blur the child's sense of principle and make him particularly self-centered.

When we complain that children are selfish and don't know how to understand their parents and others, have you ever wondered if family behavior education with such details of life is the main cause of the problem?

Hao Hao's mother is a smart person. The difficult thing is how to make her grandmother understand this truth.

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Six-year-old Zhezhe is playing with some children downstairs. The children have a little cousin of eight or nine years old, and children of all ages have a good time together.

Later, I don't know why, but my little cousin gave Zhezhe a push, and Zhezhe stumbled and fell down. The children on the side laughed. Before Zhezhe and his little cousin could react, they heard a thunder. What are you doing? Who told you to bully people! ?

Looking for fame, it's grandpa Zhezhe. I happened to see my grandson fall down. Grandpa, he flew into a rage All the children, including Zhezhe, were startled and froze.

Grandpa, who was born in the army, is a big man, and his angry appearance is particularly scary. He made five or six children stand in a row, then pulled Zhezhe to his face and pointed to his little cousin to start class. How dare you, bully! You are a big brother, you should let the children, Zhezhe is so young! What if you push him and hit his head?

And teach other children: What are you laughing at? Is it funny that he fell? To unite and be friendly, why not give him a hand?

Summary after a long speech:? If I see you bullying Zhezhe again, I'll be welcome! ?

Tell zhe zhe again:? Don't be afraid of them bullying you, just tell grandpa! ? Grandpa's voice is like Hong Zhong's. This lesson not only made him cry directly? Accident? My little cousin, but also let many mothers with children involuntarily watch? Live broadcast? .

A joke goes like this: a boy in kindergarten was criticized by the teacher for being naughty. He endured for a while and said angrily. Teacher, if you scold me again, I'll tell grandpa to kill you! ?

Remembering this joke is Zhezhe's mother's first reaction after receiving complaints from her neighbors at work.

Zhezhe's mother communicated this matter with Grandpa when she came home, and Grandpa didn't agree. He said to Yu Nu,? Children are bullied by others. Should adults take care of them?

Mom asked:? Did you ask people why they pushed Zhezhe? What happened?

Grandpa? Huh? Loud voice: Anyway, he is a big boy, but he can't push a child! I can't watch my grandson being bullied! His parents are not satisfied, let him come to me! I'm not afraid! ?

Zhezhe's father also asked Grandpa not to spoil his children so much. Six-year-old children, if there are disputes and contradictions with their children, as long as they are not particularly serious, they should let them try to solve them themselves. This is a social skill that children must have.

Grandpa's compulsory intervention is an excessive love and protection, which will not only hinder Zhezhe's growth, but also isolate Zhezhe when he is alone with his children.

Indeed, when necessary, adults can step forward and guide children to deal with communication problems in a more friendly and gentle way.

But more often, we should teach children how to do things. We have no right to stand in a high position and criticize other children when their guardians are not there.

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Zhezhe's grandfather has always refused to admit that he is overprotective and doting on his children.

His theory is that it is wrong, that is, to stop it. It was someone else's children who pushed Zhezhe first, so he naturally came forward.

Grandpa Zhezhe also gave an example to Zhezhe's father, what is spoil children? Zhezhe's mother actually allows children to play with plastic foam at home, which is really wrong.

White plastic foam for furniture and electrical appliances is full of small particles and floats gently. What a nuisance! Besides, that's not funny!

Zhezhema explained helplessly: children have to clean up after playing. Grandpa waved his hand:? Where did he clean it up! This kind of thing, not a toy, should not be given to him at all! You are the ones who spoil the children! ?

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You don't believe that you spoil your children. This kind of thing also includes

? What's wrong with breastfeeding? Can't watch him hungry! ?

? Children are still young, and they will naturally understand when they grow up. Is it worth being so fierce?

? Let him wash underwear and socks at the age of six? It's cold now. What if we freeze him?

? Where did he fold the clothes? Can I fold it for him?

There is always an old man who suits your family, and there is always an old man who breaks you down.

The article is written here, as if the chicken soup part should be written: the mood of the elderly can be understood, and everything is for the children, and the general direction is unified. As long as we communicate more, these problems are not problems.

Unfortunately, there are some problems, that is, poor communication. It's not that I don't appreciate the efforts of the elderly, nor do I understand their feelings.

However, when the elderly take care of their children, it is inevitable that such a problem will arise, and people will collapse. This is a problem of different concepts created by the times, and this is a generation gap problem caused by different experiences.

The old people's own ideas are deeply rooted, and their behavior patterns have been solidified in decades of life experience, which can never be truly changed by simple communication.

I'm afraid a superman's mother can only make her heart stronger and wiser, but can't change the situation that the old man helps to take care of the children. Be patient and communicate more, not only with the elderly, but also with the husband and children. Because complaints and accusations have no positive significance.

Either overcome all difficulties and ask the old people to go back and do it themselves, or close the door to be crazy and collapse, and then use strong positive energy to influence children and guide them to correct their behavior.

We must always believe that, in any case, children's instinct is to be closer to their parents, and it must be their parents who have the greatest influence on their children, not the elderly who take care of them. ;