Self-limitation —— The second feeling of Zeyu's core course "Nirvana Rebirth, Reshaping Self-cognition and Values"

I didn't know the word "self-limitation" until nearly a year ago. Zeyu said that "self-limitation" means having negative thoughts before things happen. Zeyu said that when he first went abroad to study, he felt that his spoken English was poor and he couldn't speak it well, so he never dared to speak it. Negative self-knowledge is a self-limiting way, which leads to our lack of self-confidence, lack of motivation to act, and even fear of trying.

Second, my top ten self-handicaps and their causes

At the end of the course, Zeyu left homework, so let's write down our ten self-limited contents carefully. For the first time, I seriously thought about the strongest self-restriction in ten years. Roughly according to the depth of psychology is arranged as follows:

1, physical thinking is not good, you may not learn well or teach well.

I have such self-awareness because I don't love physics so much (although I don't reject it, I like it now); Secondly, physics is not an elective course in high school, and physical thinking has not been effectively exercised. I still don't know how to learn college physics well. I really didn't learn it well. After graduation, there are not many systematic physical knowledge reserves, and the experimental operation ability has not improved. Finally, I work, and I don't study very hard. So I am not confident in body thinking.

2. No opposite sex really loves me.

I think so because I have never been in a formal relationship from high school to college. The boys I pursue either refuse or break up at last. Even after I got married, I didn't feel love. The feeling of "I am not good, no one will really love me" will jump out. Especially when breaking up is sad, this feeling will be stronger, as if to verify "look, no one really loves you!" " "

I don't believe that I have extra earning power, let alone my personal brand.

All along, parents are frugal, so should we be taught by actions; All along, my parents say that money is hard to earn, and I always think that money is hard to earn and should belong to people with special abilities; For a long time, my parents' business failed and their life was unsatisfactory, so I followed my parents invisibly, thinking that my life was similar and I would not live a rich life. These influences are deeply rooted, and I never thought I had the ability to make money.

I am not good enough to provide value to others.

Several times, my colleagues and friends said "I am excellent" intentionally or unintentionally. I was puzzled and asked, "What's outstanding?" In other words, I don't think I'm well. They will say, I am self-disciplined, persistent in my work, always studying and so on. I will defend myself, just doing what I like, not being excellent. They think it is excellent, but I don't think it is excellent. My definition of Excellence is: outstanding in a certain aspect, surpassing many people, making outstanding achievements and making money from it, such as professional ability. But I have participated in every aspect, and I have only a little knowledge of every aspect, and I can't get economic benefits at all. It is precisely because I think I am not good enough to take care of myself, so I can't provide value to others.

I am unlikely to have good skin and figure.

I think so, too. On the one hand, because of genetic factors, parents are not very tall and beautiful. How can ability skin be good and legs straight? At this time, it occurred to me that parents' management of body shape will have a subtle influence on their children. So if you want your children to be beautiful in the future, parents should be beautiful first! On the other hand, if I maintain it regularly, the economy will not work and time may not be enough. Maybe this is not what I need! I think, as long as I don't have a bad life, I will be satisfied. Of course, this is self-comfort. If I can become better, wouldn't I be more proud?

6, my social circle is so narrow, how can anyone help me!

I've always been bored and I'd rather be alone. I don't have many friends and I don't have many close friends. I can't live in social circles. I think, with such a narrow social life and so few intimate friends, how can there be noble people? Who can really care about me? Help me? Of course, if the online teacher does the math, there is still some.

7. My writing level will probably not be greatly improved.

The reason why I insist on writing, hoping to have some development and improvement on the road of writing, is because I like thinking and writing very much! The external reason should be that I used to have a boyfriend who was good at writing, and now there is a club that encourages each other to write, and my job also requires me to write. I hope to have a higher level of writing and write more beautiful and in-depth articles, but I subconsciously feel that although my father loved reading when he was young, he would have nothing when he was old. Can my fate be so different from his? Only then did I realize how vulnerable I am to psychological hints, especially from my parents, especially from my father (who will deeply influence us in marriage and life achievements). Parents are so indelible in our lives.

8. I may not learn to swim.

Swimming is not as simple as running and yoga, and it doesn't require skill and ability. This is a good exercise, but it takes time and energy to practice. I have always been full of confidence in sports, because I signed up for a swimming training class and didn't learn it thoroughly, which led to fear and nervousness, fear of not learning well and being laughed at by some people. Only then did I find that my negative thoughts have covered up the happiness brought by exercise itself.

9. My piano playing level should be difficult to improve greatly.

I've always liked music. When I was a child, I often idolized and listened to music, even though it was hard to get it at that time. When I grew up, I won the first prize in the school singing competition; Later, I found that playing the piano and singing folk songs also has some romance and tenderness, which may be in line with my personality-ideal and romantic; After I got married, I finally got a chance to learn musical instruments. I have taught myself for more than a year, and I can play some songs, but I can't.

10, I am a very boring person!

How should I evaluate myself? Ideal, romance, profundity, fraternity, seeking meaning, these are all! But also an extremely serious person! So sometimes it looks boring!

When I presented these self-restrictions one by one, I accepted them, and I took them as the object, so that I could analyze the reasons with a neutral attitude, and I could understand that many of these restrictions were unfounded. I can change and improve my thinking through reflection and positive psychological suggestion, but the most important thing is to get positive self-awareness through action-successful action.

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