Women’s friends in men’s eyes

As for Friends of Women, columnist Fang Xi once said that this is a "slightly boastful and fashionable identity." I believe many people will think that friends of women should be middle-aged weird uncles, but the fact is that now there are many handsome guys in their twenties who would also say that they are "gorgeous, stand up to the wind, and be independent." Friends of women, it can also be seen from this that today in the 21st century, the identity of friends of women has indeed become fashionable.

Why are women’s friends usually men? This may be because many women subconsciously regard everyone of the same sex around them as their competition, even if the other person is their best friend. They will secretly compare their appearance, figure, and temperament with the same sex around them. , than dress up, than boyfriend. Especially when it comes to boyfriends, many women seem to like to eat more than they can afford. Usually most men will adhere to the principle of "don't bully your friend's wife", but the only moral principle many women believe in in this matter is "love is as big as the sky", so when they find out that their best friend's boyfriend is... As long as they think they have a chance, they will quickly take action on the one they like. Some of these women will secretly sleep with their best friend's boyfriend once or N times, as if to prove their sexual charm and The sexual attractiveness is not inferior to that of their best friends, and some women will simply turn their best friend's boyfriend into their own boyfriend.

If you pay attention to those around you, you will find that many women have their boyfriends taken away by their besties.

Based on such a background, many women will subconsciously choose to maintain a close relationship with one or several men, and these men have become the so-called friends of women.

In addition to women’s friends in reality, many women will also look for their spiritual women’s friends in male celebrities or male writers. Usually the male celebrities who can become friends of women in the minds of women are the kind of "sister-in-law killers". As for male writers who can become friends of women, they will basically constantly encourage Chinese women to dare to love and hate. We must strive to live a sexier, freer and more independent true self. In addition, as Teacher Fang Xi said, they are spies who have been lurking in the ranks of men for a long time. They are angry at men's selfishness and for women's. Gullible, naive and worried, they are fully aware of men's tricks and hand them over to women all over the world without reservation. Compared with those friends of women in the sense of interpersonal communication, they have a lofty spiritual realm and full and sincere emotions. These are the real friends of women!

Back to women’s friends in reality, for many women, the most considerate thing about them is that they can listen to their inner troubles or help them think about having a baby, and they don’t know how to do it. Charge by the hour like a psychiatrist.

Sina Entertainment Director Dou Wanru once said this on her Weibo: "I once had a serious girlfriend who was seriously broken up in love. She was very sad and everyone comforted her. I advised her to say less. It's not that everyone is malicious, there are many people who really care, but there is a saying, "A great love in one's eyes will eventually be a joke in the eyes of others." You can't expect too much from people, just knock out your front teeth and swallow it in your belly. It is the last word to start a new life with tears and blood.”

Indeed, many people listen to other people’s inner troubles with this mentality: “What’s wrong with you?” Happy things? Tell me to make me happy."

For example, I once heard a woman cry to her friends: "Since I followed this man, I have been on guard day and night for fear that he would find a mistress. Today I found out that I am the mistress."

It is conceivable that many of this woman’s friends will treat this incident as a very funny joke and spread it everywhere.

Fortunately, some women are lucky. They have several good and wise women friends around them. The latter not only do not take their troubles for fun, but also give them suggestions. Some very constructive comments and suggestions.

I believe that many real-life friends of women were once killers of girls. Of course, that was when they were very young.

When these men reach their thirties, the amount of testosterone secreted in their bodies will gradually decrease, which will gradually weaken their sexual desire, and their thoughts and behaviors will no longer be completely controlled by male hormones as they were when they were young. . At this time, these men have the physiological conditions to become friends of women.

Speaking of this, I remembered that columnist Zhuang Yating said in one of her columns that she knew a few girls who always had free food, drink, fun and entertainment. Every night, there would be different Chinese Uncle Nian drove them to some nightclubs in Beijing, and then invited all the girls to have late-night snacks, and finally sent them home. The girls commented behind their backs: "They didn't even touch them! They were just naked." It’s about eating, drinking and having fun!” Many of these middle-aged weird uncles will proudly claim that they are impotent. Please feel free to play with them without worrying about any purpose behind them. This made Zhuang Yating very confused: Why is this?

After some hard thinking, the answer given by teacher Zhuang Yating is that she thinks these middle-aged weird uncles are in the purest period besides adolescence, "because this is their conscious For the first time since then, men want to have equal communication with women at the soul level. Only men at this age will not care about women's appearance, but emphasize temperament and sexual language. During this period, they will appreciate women's personality. Smart and wise. They lie about their impotence to give each other a sense of security..."

I believe that what Teacher Zhuang Yating said is that this kind of middle-aged weird uncle is also a type of woman that many women like. Friends, but as you know, not every middle-aged man will become such a pure middle-aged weird uncle. There are also many men who will become narrow-minded, selfish and mentally dark after entering middle age. China has always been rich in such men, which is one of the reasons why true friends of women are relatively rare in China.

By the way, in addition to the pure middle-aged weird uncle, there are some very young herbivorous men who do not aim to hunt for the body of the opposite sex, as well as some who are delicate and sensitive and know how to take care of other people's feelings. Gay men can also become women's friends who make young women feel very considerate and warm.