What people pay attention to is that people need face and trees need bark. If you behave shamelessly, most people won’t agree.

If you can do three things, you can avoid getting cancer: don't be anxious, don't be afraid, and be shameless.

This is not a medical problem, but a person's living condition.

The first two points are actually not difficult and can basically be left to time. With experience and experience, knowledge and skills, you will naturally be able to be calm and calm.

But it is difficult to be shameless.

What the Chinese people value is that people need face and trees need bark.

Most people won’t agree to being shameless.

But in fact, many times it is indeed necessary to be a little shameless.

On the first day of college, four people in the dormitory went out to eat hot pot.

I thought that by eating hot pot and singing songs, we would become brothers in the future.

As soon as we sat down, a classmate from Northeast China picked up his wine glass: "Come on, guys, let's go one by one!"

"Come on, let's have tea instead of wine, and one of us will go away!" "Another classmate and I are from the south. We were obedient children and never drank.

"Master, what kind of tea do you want to drink?" The students from the Northeast looked down upon him.

"You really can't drink." We argued.

"This is the first time we meet, give me some face. Come for free."

"This is not a matter of face..."

Before we could finish the sentence After saying that, the Northeastern classmate walked away: "I won't eat this meal!"

We were left looking at each other in shock.

We only understood this when we got along in the future. In his value recognition, if you don't drink at the same table with him, you are not giving him face.

And he always thought that life and death were not a big deal, but face was a big deal. If you don’t have any face, why are you still alive?

In fact, sometimes if you can be shameless, you can not only look more generous, but also make others feel more comfortable and comfortable.

People who love face themselves always pay attention to giving face to others.

However, if you give others face, others will be grateful; but if you force it on others, others may not enjoy the benefits.

It’s still this classmate from Northeastern China.

Treat everyone to dinner for a birthday. The food has been eaten, the wine has been drunk, and the bragging has been done. If we just stop here, we will have just enough fun.

Just when everyone is about to die. But this guy shouted to the landlady: "Two more dishes and two bottles of wine."

A group of people who were full of wine and food had no choice but to sit down and brag again. If you are tired of the wine, drink two more bottles.

Someone was so drunk that he threw his glass under the persuasion and left the table angrily.

Everyone broke up unhappy.

The next day, he himself was admitted to the hospital due to stomach bleeding due to excessive drinking.

While taking care of him in the hospital, I advised him not to do such things in the future.

But he plausibly said: "When people come to my birthday party, they are giving me face. Then how can I not give them face?"

"Are you giving people face? Are you embarrassing others? ”

“I have to give face to others, it’s other people’s business.”

Confucius said: “Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you.”

The same goes for face. If you impose your wishful thinking on others, it may not be a burden to others.

If you want to lose some face, it will harm others but not benefit yourself, then it is better not to give up.

Born in a remote rural area, it was only when I was in college that I walked out of the mountains and took a train for the first time.

For nearly ten years after graduating from college, I traveled between major cities, and the means of transportation was still trains. I'm used to hearing the shouts of "beer, drinks, mineral water; peanuts, melon seeds, eight-treasure porridge".

Finally got a chance to fly.

Try your best to pretend to be an experienced driver.

Check-in, check-in baggage, go through security check, board the plane... In every step, carefully observe what others do. Make sure you fully grasp every detail before taking action.

Everything went smoothly and successfully. Until the flight attendant came to serve drinks.

I'm sorry to say that I don't want anything, it seems very tacky.

Let’s have a cup of coffee, it’s more classy than mineral water.

But here comes the question, how much does this cup of coffee cost?

Question? So shameful.

Being as resourceful as I am, I took out a 100-yuan bill coolly.

I was secretly proud: It’s okay to ask the stewardess to give me change.

The moment when the air freezes is the most embarrassing.

Later, I invited a client to a very high-end Western restaurant for dinner.

The names of Western food dishes are difficult to understand. Some restaurants make the names of dishes even more difficult to understand in order to pursue art.

When a customer orders a dish, for every dish she doesn’t understand but is interested in, she asks the waiter in detail and directly: What is this dish? How? What flavor...

The waiter answered patiently, and finally she ordered her favorite dish.

As I stood aside, I remembered my first experience of flying on a plane.

After racking his brains, he failed at the last second. Not only did he lose his face, he also lost all his foundation.

Will you die if you openly admit that you don’t understand?

Confucius said: "Knowing is knowing, not knowing is not knowing, it is knowing."

Be shameless, face your ignorance calmly, and you can be yourself easily.

Not only will you not lose face at this time, but you will shine with the light of confident wisdom.

A friend joined the rush to buy toilet seats in Japan and got back a fully intelligent toilet seat worth nearly 10,000 yuan.

I took the manual and studied it with the translation software for a week before I roughly figured out how to use this high-tech product.

One day, another friend came to my house as a guest and went to the toilet.

After solving the problem, I was dumbfounded: faced with this high-tech gadget without a Chinese label, I had no idea how to deal with the aftermath.

Let’s ask, isn’t it too embarrassing that you can’t even flush the toilet? Just try and figure it out on your own. How advanced can a toilet be?

I found a button that looked like a flush button and pressed it back and forth several times. The water came out, but it couldn't be flushed away.

Repeatedly several times, the water filled the golden mountain and the house was filled with filth.

This result is not too bad, more like a joke, but it is also quite embarrassing.

But not everyone is so lucky, and everything ends in comedy.

Borrowing a car between two friends.

The person who borrowed the car did not want to ask more questions because he wanted to save face, and the person who was borrowed the car did not dare to say more because he took care of the face of his friend.

As a result, the car was seriously damaged due to improper operation, and the friendship between the two people also came to an end.

Everyone likes to associate with honest people and try to avoid hypocritical people.

Real good friends often joke about "shameless", which is not a scolding, but an expression of love.

Shameless friends are more frank, cute and intimate.

When I first started working, my boss would assign tasks. Even though there were many things I didn’t understand, I would always agree to them. Because I always worry that I will appear too ignorant if I ask some questions.

Later I led a team. What I hated the most were people who wanted to save face and didn’t know how to pretend to understand.

The team received the largest project in history, and everyone was nervous.

When assigning work, let new colleagues be responsible for relatively simple market sectors, and repeatedly emphasize that if you have difficulties, ask them first and ask questions at any time. He showed an air of complete understanding.

When asked about the situation several times during the process, he always said: "Don't worry, the leader, I promise to complete the task."

There were two days left before reporting to the client, so everyone handed in their respective results.

The market research done by my new colleague is completely bullshit. When asked why, he came up with a bunch of excuses: "I don't know much about this", "I've never done this before", "I thought..."

Even scolding him to death was of no use. No matter how powerful a person is, there is nothing he can do to save himself.

The entire team’s two weeks of hard work and all their expectations came to naught because of a new colleague’s desperate need to save face.

The team leader does not mind if someone asks naive questions, either to provide help and guidance, or to adjust the work deployment, this is the leader's responsibility. Nor will they look down on people who don’t understand anything at the beginning. What leaders really value is the results of their work.

He kept his face and asked all the questions he didn’t understand from the beginning. The leader knew what needed to be solved, what needed to be adjusted, and what needed to be remedied.

Such people are more conducive to improving team work efficiency, and leaders prefer them.

Shamelessness is a state of life that requires courage.

If attaching too much importance to face is the external reason for lacking this kind of courage, then the gap between the reality and the expected self is the internal reason.

Anyone who has done consultations knows this well. When facing a client, you must pretend to be an expert in the industry and talk eloquently, as if you have all the client's problems under your control.

In fact, many times I don’t know what to do in my heart. In good cases, it’s all about talking on paper, but in bad cases, it’s just talking about things and confusing customers.

This is not just a business requirement, the bigger reason is that consultants fervently hope from the bottom of their hearts to be experts who know everything, know everything, and can easily solve customer problems. .

There is just always a gap between reality and expectations.

Just like Wu Dalang walking on the street carrying the burden of selling cooking cakes, he must say to everyone he meets, "My brother is Wu Song who killed the tiger on Jingyanggang." Unrealistic bragging is not only It can satisfy your own vanity and give yourself some comfort.

Life will always give us some illusions that are far from reality. Many times, what we expect is not necessarily what we really want.

Think carefully: Is that really what you want?

If not, you might as well be shameless, see your own strengths, face your shortcomings, and be your true self, feeling comfortable and confident.

Take off your disguise and be a shameless person.

Be shameless and remove the baggage of hypocrisy, and you will appear grand and free.

Be shameless, put less unnecessary burden on others, and let others feel more relaxed and comfortable.

If you are more shameless, you don’t have to pretend to be so tired and you will be more confident and calm.

If you are less shameless, there will be fewer misunderstandings between friends and more understanding and intimacy.

If you are less shameless, your work will reduce unnecessary communication costs and become more efficient.

Be shameless...

Shameless is a state of life, belonging to those who have the courage to face life and themselves. Last year, an uncle of my husband’s in Jinmen was seriously ill, and he and I went to the hospital to visit him.

When my husband and I arrived at the hospital, at the end of the corridor, my uncle’s daughter was scolding her brother in a low voice but angrily: “My father is sick and can’t pay, so he’s not afraid of being laughed at!”

The uncle's son is in his forties, but he has spent most of his life just hanging around. He goes drinking when he has some money, and the couple has to deal with it. Not only does his wife not object, but she also drinks with him, and his life is very tight.

They have only one son. He dropped out of school early and traveled around. He is over 20 years old and has no serious job. He fell in love with a girl and ran away as soon as she asked about her family situation.

Seeing us going, the brother and sister stopped arguing and accompanied us to the ward to see our uncle.

The uncle had been asleep, and I was afraid of disturbing his rest. After a few words of comfort, my husband and I withdrew.

The eldest sister sent it out and complained to us as we walked: "Do you think there are any sons like this? My dad couldn't get out a dollar when he was hospitalized. He even asked me for money to buy food. He said that he They have no money. How come they have been so lazy for half their lives? They wish they could lie down and sleep at home every day. They have no savings at all. Their son is already so old. Let’s see what they can do to buy a house for their son’s marriage!” < /p>

Not long after, the uncle passed away. According to the custom in his hometown, the son had to pay for the funeral arrangements. But the couple had no savings for half their lives, and they were scratching their heads and scratching their heads in anxiety.

Someone advised my sister to help out and spend some money to get over this hurdle. But my sister is exhausted mentally and physically. She said that her whole family also gets up early and works hard to make a living, and they don’t have a day off all year round. It’s better for their family to live as comfortably as they want. She paid for the old man's illness, and her son didn't get a penny from it. At that time, she didn't want to care about it. She treated her own father and paid for it, but now she wants money again, and she doesn't get a penny!

My sister was very decisive, and it was difficult for others to persuade her. Everyone accused the couple of being too unsatisfactory and unworthy of sympathy. Later, the uncle's nephew and nephew jointly paid for the funeral arrangements for the old man.

Some time ago, there was a very popular article with the theme: The older you get, the less people will forgive you for being poor.

In fact, poverty is sometimes not caused by subjective reasons for poor people, but by some powerless objective factors that prevent people from being "poor", such as bad luck or illness.

There is nothing unforgivable about poverty itself. Many of it are caused by the circumstances in life. What cannot be forgiven is poverty caused by laziness.

Before I moved, my neighbor across the door would often make a lot of noise in the middle of the night. I woke up from my dreams several times. I was born with neurasthenia and was always in a light sleep. If I was disturbed in the middle of the night, it would be difficult to fall asleep.

After being woken up again, I knocked on the door angrily. When the female neighbor opened the door and saw me, she looked very embarrassed at first, and then burst into tears and said, "I'm sorry for disturbing your rest." My family is really having trouble living this life. How about someone else arguing every day in the middle of the night? Working for others is either dirty or tiring. I beg for work all day long, and then I can’t find a job and quit after a few days.”

“I bought my house with a mortgage, and I work in a fast food restaurant for two days a month. With a salary of more than 1,000 yuan, apart from paying off the mortgage, the rest is just a family expense. The children are getting older and the parents are getting older. Why don’t you need money? , work hard, and even if I can’t make a fortune, I can support the family with you. Which woman would want to be with such a poor and lazy man?”

I looked at the man, his face was dark, She scratched her neck and yelled: "A woman can't live her own life and thinks that other people's men are better than me all day long. If you have the ability, you can divorce and find someone..."

I saw that the more they got involved, the worse the quarrel became, so I decided Go home. My husband is waiting for me on the sofa. Are you ready? I said bitterly: "I'm not trying to persuade you. We should leave a long time ago! This kind of man is simply unbelievable!"

Yes, not everyone is born with a golden key in his mouth, and you are not the one who is poor. It's your original sin, but it's your fault that you've been poor for too long.

I often receive messages complaining to me, saying that I was born in poverty, have no skills and no education, and that I can’t climb out of the bottom of society no matter how hard I work, and it’s useless no matter how hard I try...

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That's not the case.

In this era, although there are many legendary counterattack figures who quickly entered the wealthy class, getting rich through hard work is still an eternal truth.

There are many relatives in my hometown who have little education and skills. They all came to work in the city a few years ago and worked hard. Although they earned hard-earned money, the income of blue-collar workers nowadays is not as high as that of others. Not low. In the past few years, I have watched them buy cars and houses, become well-off, and live a steamy life.

Poverty and weakness are just temporary loss and reincarnation. As long as you keep working hard with hope, time will always give you what you want. However, if you are just lying in bed daydreaming, it is just thinking.

In fact, it is human nature to like comfort, but everyone has two roads to take at the beginning of his destiny. One is what he must go, and the other is what he wants to go. You must first go Only by walking a beautiful road can you be qualified to take the road you want to take.

Laziness will make you feel comfortable and comfortable, like a powerful magnet, taking you down. When you feel particularly uncomfortable there and want to come out, you are already struggling. At that moment, you will experience all the contempt in the world, including those closest to you, and it will be difficult for you to win sympathy from anyone!

Fate is so snobbish, when you can't do anything about it, it will knock you to the ground and put another foot on it.

No matter who takes that necessary path, it will feel particularly heavy.

But when you work hard to move up day by day, you will feel that your steps will become lighter and lighter, until one day, you will feel like flying.

At this time, fate will be like a long-lost friend, holding your hand tightly and climbing one step in life after another.

This summer, Wu Jing became popular with "Wolf Warrior 2".

Many people think that he is popular because of luck and opportunity, but why is it that among so many people in the world, he is the most popular?

I once read an article about the story behind "Wolf Warrior 2". After reading it, I thought: If Wu Jing is not popular, it will be unforgivable.

In a diving action in "Wolf Warrior 2", Wu Jing jumped 26 times in one go. He was exhausted and was rescued by a lifeguard;

The 6-minute underwater scene at the beginning of the film, He filmed for half a month, and the actors spent more than 10 hours in the water every day.

For a film that usually takes three or four months to be shot, the crew of thousands of people endured difficult conditions and spent 10 months in Africa.

This kind of life-threatening effort created this military legendary masterpiece.

Someone asked Wu Jing: why "Wolf Warrior 2" was so successful. He said:

Have you ever heard the sound of a bullet passing through your ear?

I've heard it;

Do you know what it feels like when a tank passes over you?

I felt it.

When a person is crazy about his dream, he has no reason not to succeed, because if he works diligently, he will definitely get the highest reward in the world.

Now that I have reached a crossroads in my life, I know which way is right, without exception.

But I never leave, why?

Because it’s so fucking miserable.

In fact, everyone knows what they want and how to get what they want.

But we all failed in the end because we couldn’t bear the pain of this process.

Han Han said: I have heard many truths, but I still cannot live a good life.

This is what it means. Because we are lazy and enjoy ourselves, we miss many opportunities to change our destiny.

Choosing to be lazy when working hard is the most stupid behavior of a person.

Liu Yuanyuan, the overall winner of the second season of "Super Speaker", went to Peking University from a mountain village.

She stumbled all the way to the "Super Speaker" championship. In the process, she made efforts that others could hardly imagine.

Faced with everyone's praise, Liu Yuanyuan said:

You have to believe that fate gives you a lower starting point than others, hoping that you will spend your life fighting to create an absolute counterattack story. Instead of standing still and coveting enjoyment.

In the program, even the always sharp and calm Le Jia was deeply touched by her speech. He said:

No matter what the result is today, you succeeded in making many people happy. Regret, there is unlimited potential in you.

There is a lazy horse effect in economics:

There are two horses each pulling a truck to deliver goods to the owner. One horse goes faster and the other horse goes slower. Very slow.

So for the sake of the owner who was on his way, he had to move all the goods from the back to the front.

The horse behind laughed happily, and said secretly in its heart: The horse in front is so stupid, and it doesn’t even understand the most basic truth that the harder you work, the more you will suffer.

After arriving at the destination, the owner thought: Since one horse can pull the cart, why raise two?

In the end, the lazy horse was killed and eaten.

There are many such people in life. They are self-righteous and smart, do things opportunistically, and think they are making a profit.

But little did he know that he had dug a big hole for his future, and once he fell into it, he would never be able to escape.

You and I, as well as the young people around us, all have a dream that is as high as the sky:

I hope that one day, I can be successful without doing anything.

We never think about giving, we are always lazy, and our days are passing by. There is a saying in the TV series "Soldier Assault": Between thinking and getting, there is still something to do.

I do not deny that this is an era of seeking speed, and everyone wants to realize their dreams effortlessly.

When encountering setbacks, instead of trying to find a solution, you use Ah Q’s spiritual victory method to comfort yourself.

When peers become successful, we only see their glamorous appearance, but not the hard work behind them.

While others are struggling to move forward, many people are lying in bed and soundly asleep.

There is a saying: "I traveled thousands of miles in my dream last night, but when I woke up I found myself in bed."

It probably refers to these people who describe their grand dreams to others every day, but they always Standing still.

Because they cannot endure hardship, it is difficult for them to persevere. Because they want to be lazy and enjoy themselves, they can always find thousands of reasons not to persevere.

If you don't work hard for your dreams and always want to be lazy and enjoy yourself, you will definitely get the harshest punishment in the world.

If you find swimming difficult at the age of 15, give up swimming, and when you are 18, you will meet someone you like. When I ask you to go swimming, you have to say I don’t know how.

When I was 18, I thought English was difficult and gave up on English. When I was 28, a great job came up but it required English skills, so you had to say I don’t know how.

This passage is true and profound. It is true. There are many opportunities in life that were missed because of laziness.

In the modern era where information updates rapidly, you can open up. The difference between people is no longer how much knowledge they have, but the ability to quickly absorb new knowledge. Being lazy and enjoying will only make the gap between oneself and others wider.

Lazy people like to stay in their comfort zone, and they will never let themselves suffer because of their dreams.

Everyone has only one life, and we are fully qualified to live what we want.

But most people are afraid of success and dare not try. How can a person who has never experienced failure deserve success in a big city like Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou? In the city, it is actually very easy to destroy a person.

A quiet and small space, an Internet cable, and a takeaway phone are enough.

If you take a good look around you, you will find a phenomenon:

Anyone who has achieved something is a very diligent person. They even spend their idle time thinking about work. .

As the saying goes: If a young man does not work hard, he will be miserable.

But let me ask how many people can suffer from the pain of cantilever beams on the head and thorns in the buttocks, and how many people can endure the ordeal of chiseling through walls to gain light.

Your efforts for your dreams will always be rewarded, and the hardships you have experienced along the way will one day make you shine.

People who are lazy and opportunistic in life will one day shoot themselves in the foot. You should work harder while you are young.

Because every laziness you steal now is a hole dug for the future.