"Faye Yu is really an old man's mirror": What will happen if a woman never gets married?

At one time, Faye Yu's content in "Three Sides of David Tang" two years ago was wildly screened in the circle of friends.

This is still due to a set of screenshots shared by writer Shen Jiake on Weibo, saying, "Faye Yu is really an old man's mirror. Whoever takes a photo reveals his ugliness, Xu Zhiyuan, Feng Tang and Dou Wen Tao have failed in the challenge."

Forwarding and commenting are very lively, including many WeChat official account who also beat up and crusade.

To tell the truth, most people haven't seen that program. Just by these screenshots, Feng Tang and Dou Wen Tao have been labeled as "straight men's cancer".

Let's not talk about Feng Tang. As an iron fan of A Triumph, I really feel wronged for Dou Wen Tao. Although he often laughs at himself as "straight male cancer", the audience who are familiar with him also know that this is just that he is used to "dressing up as a pig to eat a tiger".

As a host, you really need to ask some questions that people are curious about. After all, you should also consider improving the ratings of the program.

After this hot search, the whole network began to call for Goddess Yu, and even set her up as a memorial arch for "women don't get married".

However, the public's expectations of her are one thing, and her own choices and preferences are another.

Many people regard Faye Yu as an "unmarried fighter" and hold her to an inexplicable altar.

And she emphasized in the program: I am not a celibate, and I am not an unmarried person. My status is only that I am not married. I just said that I am not in such a hurry to choose and say that at what age I must have an actual marriage.

Many people say that the greatest charm of Faye Yu is not beauty, but indifference that never goes with the flow. Know what you want, and you won't be overwhelmed by desire.

The "beauty of order" brought by self-discipline is vividly reflected in her.

At the end of 199s, China's movies and TV series just came into the market, and everyone worked hard to make money. The actor's work standard is still not perfect, and he often turns around. "There is no feeling of creating at all, just mechanical repetition of work. I have to stop and find the feeling of creating."

The entertainment industry is a particularly cruel circle, and everyone is afraid of being out of fashion. I always want to take as many plays as possible while there is still heat, so that youth and beauty can be realized quickly.

Faye Yu, on the other hand, chose to pause, turned off most of the performance invitations and emptied himself into life.

The sense of security comes from inner peace and perfection, and from the strength and richness of self. She said, "What I care about is my life, my state of mind and whether I have grown up.

I knew at a very young age that all splendor would eventually be dull. If you can enjoy dullness, it is no longer a pressure whether it has been gorgeous or when it is gorgeous. "

She is a person who cherishes herself very much, and will not devote all her life to acting.

It seems that you are not interested in performing arts, but in fact you are following your own inner insistence. I was very cautious and low-yielding, but I was willing to empty myself for each role. I was desperate to shoot my favorite story. After ten years, I directed and performed eternal beloved.

She said: Ten years may be a woman's best time, but I don't regret dedicating it to a movie.

accept everything calmly and calmly, regardless of gains and losses. Nearly half a year old, beautiful and talented, with an excellent reputation in the industry, but unmarried.

People are willing to impose many guesses and imaginations on her. In the face of doubt, Faye Yu only took: ignore it. For her: men have never been her way to broaden the dimension of life.

When men are questioning whether it is abnormal for Faye Yu not to get married for so many years, Faye Yu is confident and calm: being single and getting married are just a state, and which state is more comfortable is at which stage.

To tell the truth, [not getting married when you are old] has always been an unavoidable topic, especially for women, which is quite embarrassing.

Faye Yu isn't the first person who makes a hot search for marriage or not because he enjoys single life.

Earlier, Lao Xu, who had faded out of public view, participated in the talk show Round Table School and returned to public view.

In the program, Lao Xu, as one of the representatives of older unmarried young women, "let herself go" and talked about the topics of marriage and love, which has shown the maturity and wisdom of a 4-year-old woman.

The "Big Four Hua Dan" in those days have developed in different ways. But people will say that Zhao Wei has a happy life, Zhang Ziyi has been promoted to be a mother, and Zhou Xun has found love and got married. Few people say that Lao Xu, who lives so freely, is the winner in life.

just because she is not married and has no children? In the final analysis, people still believe that only by getting married and having children can a complete woman be achieved, which is the only way to save women.

you ask her whether women want to get married or have children?

Lao Xu's answer is: "I don't think this is a problem at all".

In her opinion, emotionally, she doesn't need security, and economically, it has nothing to do with men for a woman to be herself. If you get married just to have children, what does it matter whether you get married or not?

But she is not an unmarried person, and she just does whatever she thinks she wants. You want to get married, you feel happy, and she will congratulate you.

In the final analysis, everyone can live a happy life. There is no need to judge others by their own standards, and there is no need to judge themselves by others' standards.

Lao Xu said, "Emotionally, I believe in love, so I don't need to prove it by marriage."

Now, it's the same here in Faye Yu.

Old wine in new bottles really concerns everyone: Can a woman not get married? Can we not cast unfriendly eyes on older singles?

in the previous generation's view of marriage, people should get married and have children at a certain age. However, judging by secular standards, after you get married, someone will soon urge you to have children. It is not enough to have one, and you will soon be given birth to a second child. The reason is that almost everyone else has it at your age. Their tone is accusatory and irrefutable.

many so-called standards are only fetters when you agree with them. When you don't care, it is nothing, or just a joke.

When it comes to getting married, Dou Wen Tao mentioned in the program that many young people can't find reasons to get married now. According to his observation, girls are generally anxious to get married, and men are not in a hurry. Under what circumstances will boys agree to marry girls?

it's probably-I already owe a lot to others, and they want to get married, so get married.

Perhaps, as Feng Tang said, "If you don't get married, you can't get along with your parents".

Our parents still retain China's traditional ideas and concepts. When you are old, it is normal to be forced to get married: what will you do in the future if you don't get married? Who will take care of you when you are old? Have you ever thought about how we feel as parents?

But is marriage a necessity? Life without marriage and love is a failure? Aren't there many ways to pursue happiness?

after all, we are ourselves first, and then we are other people's sons/daughters and partners. To live for the feelings of others is to put the cart before the horse. Of course, it doesn't mean that you don't need to think about others, but that only when we feel happy can we bring happiness to others. Therefore, to get married or not, you should first consider yourself.

I saw Faye Yu talking about love before, and I thought it was very good. I would like to share it with you:

In short, whether you are married or not, you should do what you like and be yourself you like.

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Author: Yi Dianling is the main creative group