Do you know how to deal with workplace exclusion skillfully?

Wang Dewei, from the countryside, was not as proud as he is today when he first entered the workplace. At that time, colleagues often looked down on him because of his native, not only ran him with words, but also played tricks on him, and the boss always scolded him for no reason. It can be said that he was simply suffering in the company at that time. He is not only very depressed, but also suffers from mild depression, always suffering from insomnia and palpitations. But the more depressed he is, the more people crowd him out, as if his lack of Excellence just proves that his old soil is the root and the reason why he should be attacked.

Sunday is Wang Dewei's hope of living. In his twenties, he always looks forward to Sunday like a child at school, because he either goes home or is on duty quietly on Sunday.

This situation continued until Wang Dewei had a baby, and then slowly disappeared. Because with the growth of age, he gradually matured, gradually urbanized, and gradually learned to be a man. Today, he is the department manager of this company.

Many people have encountered workplace exclusion, which is a kind of exclusion from leaders and colleagues. Generally speaking, the excluded people are victims, because in most cases, the problem does not come from the excluded people, and those who are excluded are often instinctive reactions to maintaining the old order. They don't realize the harm of exclusion to the excluded, but it is a serious mental torture to the excluded. And this kind of situation can happen in all kinds of nature and scale units.

It can be seen from Wang Dewei that workplace exclusion is very dangerous, which not only affects the career prospects of clients, but also harms their physical and mental health. The symptoms of workplace exclusion will be reflected in some details. If you are the object of exclusion, and you are not aware of these details, workplace exclusion will gradually push you to the edge of the cliff.

If one day, you notice some changes in details-your colleagues suddenly change their normal state and are no longer friendly to you, but take an uncooperative attitude in everything, making trouble for you everywhere, making trouble for you and making a fool of yourself, you should be careful. These changes in details send you a dangerous signal that your colleagues are crowding you out.

Wang Long was originally a middle school teacher, but later he became a township primary school teacher because of his job transfer. In middle school, the management is relatively standardized, and Wang Long has developed the habit of not taking time off easily and not changing classes casually. However, in this township primary school, most of the teachers are in the countryside, and the family is basically farming. It is normal to take time off during busy farming.

Wang lung is very upset because he can't ask for leave in middle school. Even if he wants to ask for leave, he should try to choose when there is no class, and then adjust the class later. So he usually doesn't attend other people's classes except his own, which is right in middle school, but not in this township primary school.

On one occasion, the second-grade teacher was absent, and the principal arranged for Wang Long to deal with it. Wang lung is hard to understand: he teaches grade five, why should I take care of grade two students? But he went anyway. When this happened three times in a row, Wang Long became impatient. He began to argue with the headmaster, and even the second-grade teacher was offended. So, in everyone's mind, he became a bad-tempered, difficult to get along with and unwilling to help others. Everyone looked for every opportunity to attack him, dig at him and isolate him.

Wang lung was distressed by the reprimand of the principal and the attacks, sarcasm and isolation of his colleagues. Fortunately, he is a strong and optimistic person, and he has nothing against himself. Moreover, he is ambitious and likes to do what he thinks is valuable, so he has no more time to pester others. Therefore, apart from the tension with everyone, there are no more serious consequences such as psychological depression, resignation and suicide.

There must be a reason for being pushed out by colleagues. On the one hand, the reason why Wang Long was rejected by his colleagues may be because of his own reasons. After teaching in primary schools, they are psychologically unbalanced and show arrogance in front of their colleagues, which causes their resentment and isolation. On the other hand, because of the change of working environment, he can't adapt for a while, which leads to contradictions and tensions with his boss and colleagues.

You may be excluded from the workplace if:

First, you have been promoted many times recently, which makes your colleagues jealous.

Second, you have just arrived at work, and you have enviable advantages, including high education, background and outstanding appearance.

Third, the person who hired you is a figure that everyone in the unit hates, so you are also implicated.

Fourth, you dress strangely, talk excessively and show off, which makes your colleagues flinch.

Fifth, please the superiors too much and ignore the communication with colleagues.

Sixth, hinder colleagues from obtaining benefits, including promotion and salary increase, leadership praise and other things that can benefit.

If it belongs to the first and second situations, this is normal, because "those who are not jealous are mediocre people" and it is not shameful to be jealous. In fact, as long as you are kind to people on weekdays, it is not difficult for colleagues to find that you are an honest man and will be happy to associate with you over time. In addition, you can cultivate your communication skills, because one of your colleagues' greatest hobbies is to communicate with each other, and you can change their attitude towards you through communication.

If it belongs to the third situation, it is your misfortune. In this case, you should take every opportunity to show your colleagues that you mainly like this job, and it has nothing to do with the person who hired you or him. As long as your colleagues know that you are not a spy, they will naturally welcome you.

If it belongs to the fourth and fifth situations, then you have to reflect on yourself, because the problem lies with yourself. If you want colleagues to change their views, you can only make improvements yourself: clothes should be suitable for your status, neat and not ostentatious; Don't make amazing remarks, learn to be an audience; Don't show off, be a low-key person and do things in a down-to-earth manner.

If you belong to the sixth situation, you should pay attention to the details of how to behave. Promotion, salary increase and even praise from leaders are rewards that colleagues want, and competition is inevitable. In this case, you must know how to express yourself. Although you don't have to give up opportunities such as promotion and salary increase and praise from the leader, you can't stop your colleagues from being promoted and paid or praised by the leader.

Some professionals have been excluded by their colleagues for personality reasons, such as being too withdrawn, unsociable, eccentric and inappropriate in speech and behavior.

Solar boat is one of them. He has never worked in a company for more than a year, because he is constantly changing work units. Speaking of job-hopping, he is quite helpless, because he doesn't know why everyone doesn't like himself.

When former colleague Wang Gang mentioned the solar boat, he showed disdain. He said, "that guy works well, but he never deals with others, helps them or causes them trouble." He is disgusting, because he is full of minor faults: he doesn't brush his teeth, eats badly, sleeps dishonestly, never chips in, and never plays cards with everyone. If he is a stone, nobody cares about him, but he is a living man! "

If you are like a sun boat, you must pay attention to correcting your personality defects. Because only in this way can you get along well with your colleagues and avoid being excluded.