How to repair marriage (7 suggestions for repairing marriage problems)

From the big data analysis in recent years, it can be clearly seen that more and more women of school age still choose to be single at the age when they should be married, but the reason is not that they can't find a suitable object in the past, but more that they are unwilling to get married.

In fact, from the perspective of women's growth in modern society, it is not a bad thing, because it can indirectly reflect that modern women are more pursuing emotional comfort and their own independence.

But from the perspective of the whole society, in fact, this has exposed many problems, because sometimes this pursuit and independence may not be cultivated actively, but passively have to get used to and accept.

In marriage, with the fading of love passion and novelty, the person who was originally perfect in the other person's eyes began to have such shortcomings.

So slowly, contradictions arise. Women began to complain that men were not what they used to be, while men began to think that women were always finding fault in eggs, making trouble and quarreling more and more.

In fact, many times, it's not that TA has changed, but that our tolerance is declining as our feelings slowly return to dullness. When all the problems were blamed on each other, we began to relax our requirements slowly.

Because we will feel that our efforts and rewards are not equal, then since the other party is not as good as before, why should we wronged ourselves? Therefore, many marriages and families have gradually fallen into a vicious circle of development.

Then how can we make our marriage develop more healthily and stably? The answer is not unique. Every family will have its own different status quo and mode. Here are some suggestions for repairing marriage problems:

Economic independence, spiritual independence, love independence and making friends independence.

Everyone should understand the truth, but only a few students can really do it. In many of my classmates, I called for independence, but after having a boyfriend or getting married, I became a conjoined twin, which is seamlessly connected from body to mind and from material to spirit.

They will ask each other to hand over their financial rights, because in their minds, this is the most important embodiment of their love for themselves.

In addition, they also ask * * * to enjoy hobbies and privacy, because they feel that since two people come together, they should be completely honest, and they are unreserved, and the other party should give corresponding feedback.

In fact, it seems reasonable, in fact, there have been very serious emotional kidnapping and moral kidnapping.

For everyone, we are individuals first, and then we are part of various relationships. The meaning of individuals is to have their own independent space.

In this space, we have our own truest appearance, and only we can see it.

Once peeped by others, the result may be a series of negative emotions such as anger, anxiety, inferiority, shame, etc. We usually call it privacy and can't share it with others, even our closest lover.

Just like a girl said angrily before: she asked her husband to tell her the passwords of all social tools. Later, she found that the next day after handing over the password, people went to set up a new mobile phone card, re-registered WeChat and QQ, and all the contacts moved.

Does it really make sense for a partner to be so "unreserved"?

Do you need to show your uniqueness in this way, or to appease your inner confidence in feelings and fear of loss? Moreover, understanding a person is not achieved by this kind of close monitoring.

When one party steals the concept of companionship with restraint and control, the one who wants to escape is only giving back to deception.

So, leave him alone, leave yourself alone. * * * In addition to being responsible for life, you will be more comfortable if you have an inner world that neither interferes nor is interfered by men.

Be patient in small matters, and don't wronged yourself in big ones.

Women are born to live more exquisitely than men, so they have various requirements for the details of life.

But after all, not everyone has such thinking and habits. I can understand that some girls pay attention to details, because this is a person's living habit, but to what extent should they be strict with details?

It may be just a tablecloth, or it may be the color of the desk lamp in the room. In fact, these are issues that do not involve principles. If two people care about everything together and ignore the tolerance and patience of marriage, the result will only make both of them suffer.

But when it comes to important matters related to family decision-making, instead, they take out the so-called demeanor and give it all to their husbands, or compromise in principle, which makes the family relationship out of balance.

Once, a student insisted that her husband choose what style to buy a tablecloth. As a result, when she bought a house, she was very confused and gave it to her husband. As a result, the school district was dissatisfied. This is a typical trivial matter, and the big thing is confused.

Give your husband enough face in front of outsiders.

Women value feelings, men care about face.

Men don't care about women's feelings in front of people, and women will secretly remember their grievances. Women don't give men face in front of people, and they will leave bad feelings in life. Couples are most afraid of pressing each other in front of others, which can only increase embarrassment.

So no matter how dissatisfied you are with your man, don't expose or criticize him in front of his relatives and friends. This doesn't show how strong you are, but it will make others laugh at you behind your back, and if you do this often, it will only make him gradually give up the idea of taking you out.

Become beautiful and strong, but not for men, but for yourself

As the old saying goes, women always please themselves. The current concept is that women are a family of their own.

If you want to please others, please yourself first. Imagine how a woman who doesn't even want to look in the mirror can get men's appreciation.

But if you ask yourself just to please a man, the result can only be to lose yourself, and such pleasure requires conditions. When these conditions don't exist, you lose the reason to arrest him.

So to make yourself better, you need to be clear at all times, not for anyone, but for being more real.

After all, what's the point of marrying a man who can't even accept your true state?

Busy is a good medicine to cure all depression.

What marriage fears most is not quarreling or cheating, but boredom. Obviously, it is a room with three meals for two people, but it can be quiet without any sound. Marriage "aphasia" is the most profound punishment for a marriage.

If you feel that the passion has faded and two people have nothing to say, let you get busy. When you are busy and distracted, there will naturally be complaints, and complaints sometimes turn into coquetry in marriage.

We give the strong side to life and the weak side to each other. This is the best appearance of marriage.

How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, clear the bottom line, distance yourself, cut the crap and maintain dignity.

If you are unfortunately mistaken and marry an excellent mother, I advise you not to fall in love with war again, stop loss in time and live.

If your husband is a reasonable person, remember, try not to open fire with your mother-in-law, it will only put the person you love in a dilemma.

If your mother-in-law really goes too far, tell her your bottom line clearly in a calm and serious tone. Then turn around and leave with dignity.

Expectation and encouragement are far easier to work miracles than accusations and warnings.

If you are used to criticizing your husband's performance at home, you always hope that your husband can become your ideal man through his own advice and teaching.

Try more expectation and encouragement. Criticism is often not the best way to change people, but it will make them choose to refuse and escape, while encouragement and recognition can be catalysts to stimulate people's desire to become better.

When you are always complaining that your husband doesn't share it with you, give him more expectation and encouragement, and don't kill him with a stick if you don't do it well once. Many times, your adoring eyes may inspire his inner "super power".

Long life, patiently explore his potential and beauty. Giving each other more time and space to settle down may make your marriage more and more happy and stable.

May we be better ourselves every day!