Is there anyone who is an only child in this society? Won't you regret it?

I am a daughter, too. I won't have a second child.

First of all, I have a brother since I was a child and I have never experienced any companions at all. It's very popular/good/a basic portrayal of my family recently, and it may not be so exaggerated. It was basically like this when I was a child, except that I stopped hitting me when I grew up.

Second, we really love our daughter. She is 8 years old now. When I come back from kindergarten, I will write four big characters after eating, washing my face and watching cartoons. I also want to play cucurbit flute, practice dancing and read picture books before going to bed. It's already 10 every day, and there's really no time for a second child.

Third, now my daughter has two one-year interest classes outside, and the tuition fees are 3000+4200 and 12000 a year. There are also various school activities, parent-child activities, dance grading performances, and spending a year buying sick clothes to go out to play, basically about 40 thousand.

Fourth, I really don't want to live a tight life at home, and I don't want to be nearly forty years old and have not been out of my own province. It is true that many people around me who have a second child have never been out of the house, and at most they just go around the city.

Fifth, one more child in the family will need the parents' pension. When they get sick and go to the hospital, the money is gone. Why don't you just live a comfortable life? When you are old, you really can't rely on children. To put it bluntly, how much do you give your parents every year now? Children will be under great pressure to have their own small family in the future. Parents help their children.

Sixth, never just live, regardless of training. I really don't understand this kind of parents. The children have been in trouble for half their lives.

I firmly believe that a child will have many problems if there is no restriction on birth. However, now it is the second child system, and I firmly believe that in the near future, the one-child family will have greater advantages. In other words, a second child is not cost-effective.

I won't elaborate on my reasons here, just a little. Most families are ordinary families that are neither rich nor expensive. When their children are old enough to talk about marriage, do you want your son to find an only daughter or a brother and sister? Especially those with younger brothers. Do you want your daughter to find an only child or a brother?

On the premise that the division of property will never be fair, it is undoubtedly nonsense to talk about the benefits of two children.

To put it more thoroughly, suppose A has an only son, B's daughter is an only child, and C's daughter has a younger brother. Who will A's parents choose under the same economic conditions in BC Province?

Suppose A has an only child, B has an only child, C has a sister and D has a brother. Under the same economic conditions, if I were the father of A, I would choose B without hesitation.

The so-called illusory interests of the second child, such as playing with friends and supporting the elderly, are vulnerable to the division of property.

In reality, it is often a family with many children, and the elderly are unpopular and unattended. The only child needs to be in two places at once, but there are not many reports on his son's unfilial behavior in the news.

If you don't have one child, can you afford to have a second child? Those who gave birth to two children around them are divorced. Sometimes, it's easier said than done. Children are life, not what you want. You have to think it over. What kind of life did you give him a child? Can they still have that life and education? No money now. The point is that it is not easy for a woman to give birth. The whole person has gained a lot of weight. My parents don't know much about it, and what I said is puzzling, but I can understand a woman's sadness two years after giving birth. Sometimes people will say, you don't have to watch it yourself. The point is that I want to go back to work four months after giving birth. Even if I don't look, don't I want my golden rice bowl? And what I earn is the expenses my mother-in-law needs at home, otherwise her mother-in-law will do without money. The point is that you have to do everything you can to coax her into babysitting for you. Isn't this child her grandson? Alas, fortunately, my bitter days have passed and I am still alive. Once again, I guess I'll jump off a building with my baby in my arms. It's really hard for a woman who doesn't have a job now ... but it's all going well, and she's lost weight, and she doesn't want to do it anymore ... [tears] [tears]

There are many people who don't have a second child.

I am now living in the family hospital of a famous university. There are many doctors and postdocs in the hospital. After the second child is released, few people apply for a second child. Economy is not the problem, energy is the problem. Everyone is involved in their work and career, so they have time to take care of another child.

There are many famous professors at home, all of whom are grandparents' ages. When chatting, they are not particularly in favor of the next generation having more children. There are many things to do in a person's life, and they can't all be tied to children.

Therefore, whether to have a second child depends on the actual situation of each family. If you feel that there are many things to do in life and you don't want to lower the quality of life, then don't have a second child. If you just like children and have time and energy, why not have them?

The first thing to do when I come home from work every day is to give my daughter a big hug and tell her that her mother misses you very much today! My daughter will also be very happy to say, mom, I miss you, too. How can I love you so much?

One night, my husband suddenly said to me, how nice it is that we have a daughter! The thought of hugging and kissing her every day warms her up! If we have a son, we can't do this to him! ! !

Indeed, I am an only child, and I grew up under the care of my father! After we got married, our parents gave us full physical and mental support! Because the daughter was brought up by grandparents, the husband's sense of responsibility at home is obviously much stronger than before. Especially for my parents, I am more patient and careful than my daughter. I am also willing to spend a lot of spare time with my parents and children!

Yes, I am such an only child. Spoiled by my father since childhood and spoiled by my husband after marriage! I have correct values, I will not give in for money, I will not envy other people's material life, because I am a woman with strong happiness!

I turned over this "Q&A" today and just talked to my girlfriend about the second child. I have countless feelings and want to share them with you!

Yesterday, I held my daughter's little face and thought, Mom is so happy to have you. How nice it is to raise you as a princess! If there is one more, I won't have so much energy! Of course, the daughter is not opposed to having one more brother or sister!

Tell me why I don't consider having a second child!

From the selfish point of view: 30 this year, the family tends to be stable in all aspects, but not too stable! I don't want to spend a few years or even longer to start raising a child again! When parents are old, it is time to enjoy family happiness. I don't want to add any burden to them! My daughter is five years old this year, and another one can't make up for her childhood! When my lovely daughter grows up, her father and I will still enjoy a period of two-person world!

From the daughter's point of view: in the current economy, mom and dad can still raise you as a princess, and there is no guarantee for one more! When you grow up, your parents hope you don't just satisfy yourself for life and economy! I hope you will have your marriage because of true love! Of course, before that, if you want to go out and see the world, we won't stop you! You have your life and dreams! The premise of all this is that mom and dad will help you get rid of some bad habits of the only child when you grow up!

All this may be related to my having a warm family and enjoying my life as an only child!

Hello, I just want to have one for the same reason as you. I have no courage, no money, and no one cares ... I brought up my children entirely by myself. From pregnancy to delivery, only I know the hardships, and I really understand the meaning of the sentence "a handful of shit and a handful of urine". I didn't sleep a wink after giving birth to the baby. When I am sick, I can't get sick. Who will take care of the child? To tell the truth, it really takes a lot of courage for me to relive those hardships. Maybe I can't suffer? Really, a child is scared.

Most people want to give Dabao a second child. In this respect, I don't think it's good to have hands and feet. My husband and I are both only children. We don't feel lonely, and we don't want to have brothers and sisters since childhood. In filial piety to the elderly, if you are an only child, you will undoubtedly support your parents. If there are more children, they may be less honest and touch each other. Whoever cares more will care less, and it will be the same then. Your bowl of water is uneven.

I don't think a second child is suitable for people with average family circumstances like us. Living in the city is really stressful now, and people are spending more and more on their children's education. Two children means double expenses. Without enough money, people can't be willful in all aspects. Individuals are unwilling to raise children in poverty, at least they should be similar to others. Children don't have to think twice about what they want to learn. The family is poor, there is no need to bite the bullet, otherwise your children will be very hard and your own life will be even harder.

Having a second child, I don't think I have the energy to take care of two children. I can't imagine the life where chickens fly and dogs jump. I shouldn't regret having only one child. I can put all my energy into him, raise him well, give him all my love, and no one will rob him.

I won't have a second child ~ the economic conditions are good, I have a car, a house and a deposit ~ I work in a laid-back system, my husband is reliable, and there are old people at home who can help with the baby ~ but! Training children is too tiring! Chinese painting on Monday, calligraphy on Wednesday and Saturday, guzheng on Friday, and Go calligraphy on Saturday morning and afternoon! Sunday is a holiday promised to children, so are you free during the holiday? No! I have to go out and play with my children on Sunday! Eat a big meal, watch a movie, or take a short trip to the playground or the suburbs ~ Send the children to school at 7: 00 every morning, pick them up at 3: 00 every evening 10, accompany them to class, and go home to urge them to do homework review and preview ~ If they can't do it, they have to explain ... practice the piano and read English at a fixed time every day ... At least my father and I can give general guidance (my husband has a master's degree) ~ But I still do. I prefer girls ~ My good friend only has one daughter, and I think so ~ Her family is in business ~ Our third-tier town has tens of millions of assets. ...

God, you should ask how many people are willing to have a second child.

Nowadays, the pressure of life is so great that educational resources are unfair. It is difficult for ordinary families to raise a child.

People who have a second child always say that they need a companion. In fact, I want to say that if children are not well trained, they will turn against each other and die of old age.

It is obvious to all that the fertility rate has dropped now. High housing prices alone make people afraid to have children.

I'm not going to have a second child anyway. A child can see that the whole world is cold. If he has no money, he lives at the bottom of society. Sometimes it's sad to let his children suffer with themselves. Now he can finally send his children to school, and he can work hard. If he is trapped again, will poverty always surround him like this?

Of course, we don't know the rich.

I, a poor man, if I was so sober before, I think it is right not to get married.

Let me talk about myself first. I am the only child in my family. What I heard most from childhood is that a child is too lonely. But I never feel lonely. I should study when I was young. I play when I should. Although I have no brothers or sisters, I can find my own playmates. I grew up in the countryside, and all kinds of poultry and livestock at home are my good partners ... When I grow up, I know more and live a full life every day. Where is the time to feel lonely?

Now, I have my own baby, she is the best gift from God! I only hope that she will be safe and healthy all her life! The reasons I heard for having a second child are as follows:

1. A child is too lonely to go anywhere during the holiday, and no one will discuss anything in the future;

2. People are having a hard time now, and there are many cases where white-haired people send black-haired people. In other words, there are many people who have lost their parents, and finally there are no people who even support the elderly.

3. "The state encourages students" and so on.

What I want to say is, 1. If something really happens, anyone with a flexible mind can handle it beautifully; No amount of straw bag can solve the problem, but it will add trouble;

How can you be confident that you can raise a good child just by thinking about losing your parents? The child is still young. What should I do if you leave first?

The country has liberalized the second child policy, but we have to raise our own children. Some people say we don't have children because we are poor. If we can't support ourselves, we hope there is only one in the world, hehe! I really didn't think so! Besides, being rich or poor is relative. There are many pursuits in a person's life, not only material but also spiritual.

Personally, I won't regret having children. I will try my best to create better conditions for her, and be kind to myself and my family. I'm afraid she hasn't grown up yet, but we have already left. ...

Is there anyone who is an only child in this society? Won't you regret it?

Yes, I am!

My husband and I belong to the post-80s and post-90s. We only have one daughter at present. From the beginning of pregnancy, we agreed not to have a second child, whether it is a boy or a girl.

There are several reasons for this. First, I reacted too much and vomited too much when I was pregnant. Finally, he vomited blood and had to be hospitalized to prevent miscarriage. The terrible thing is that no one took care of me when I was pregnant, so I had to quit my job and go back to my parents' house. My parents take good care of me, including my hospitalization, and my parents take good care of me. In the year of pregnancy, my husband happened to be sent to other places.

Second, no one takes care of the children. I take care of them alone. My mother-in-law helped me for several months, and then she stopped helping me. I take care of the children and do housework alone. My husband is busy at work and basically goes out early and returns late. Usually fine. What I fear most is that my child is ill. I was alone, pushing a stroller, taking my children to the hospital, waiting in line upstairs and downstairs, registering, taking medicine, and giving injections ..... When I gave my children injections, I held them for hours, afraid to move, drink, eat, go to the toilet, and no one helped to look after them. In short, it's sad to think about it.

Third, the pressure is great. I take care of my children alone, my husband goes to work, I raise a family of three by myself, and I have a mortgage, which is very stressful. Nowadays, consumption is very high, and everything is expensive. Because of a lot of expenses such as school, education, medical care and milk powder, we dare not have a second child.

Fourth, my husband doesn't want a second child. I remember my daughter was just born, and my husband loved her very much and kissed her. The next day, I was silent. I asked him what happened. He said he didn't want his daughter to get married. Lying in bed by caesarean section, laughing very painful. My lover is a famous slave, not just a spoiled daughter. He offered not to have a second child, fearing that he would ignore the boss's feelings and wronged him.

In fact, after the opening of the second child, we have to admit that there are more children. However, it is not without an only child. It depends on the actual situation. There is only one child. It is also a good thing to give her all your love and energy and grow up with her!