How to get along with relatives during the Spring Festival?

Among all the customs of Chinese New Year, one that people hate most is to pay New Year greetings, because it will be questioned by various relatives. The connection between modern people is getting weaker and weaker. You can only say a few words during the Spring Festival all the year round, which makes you even more embarrassed to pay a New Year call. Have a few annoying relatives:

First of all, the relatives who are grinning and gossiping.

Stay away, many people are old and have nothing to do in their fifties and sixties. What they like best is gossip. Now I like to tell others everything, regardless of the feelings of the parties and the influence of my own nonsense. My family is one of our own, so some things are always shared with everyone. And if this kind of family affairs is known by these gossip people, it will be known immediately, and the parties will suddenly become a big joke and become people's talk after dinner. They also feel that they have done nothing wrong and will not have any intention of repentance, so it is better to stay away from such people.

Second, keep your loved ones away from you.

There is a very good saying, some people want you to live well, but they don't want you to be better than him. Many relatives are like this, or worse. Their greatest pleasure every day is to know what misfortune has happened to the people around them, which gives them a sense of superiority that they can't get at ordinary times.

If there is anything good in your family, they will immediately throw cold water on it, saying that you will not always be good, and jealousy is self-evident. And if you say something very plain, he will tell others in order to attract everyone's attention. In the end, the more outrageous it is, the more people who don't know it will take it seriously.

Third, two-faced relatives should stay away.

Such relatives are also annoying, for example. Maybe your family needs help now, but instead of helping, he says that he is poorer than you and you should help him. Even a slap in the face will make your situation worse. In fact, there are many reasons for not helping, but pretending to be poor is really harmful.

Not only do you not help, but you will also laugh at others behind their backs, saying that you are unhappy now because you don't listen to him. If he has money, he wants to show it off, even though he pretends to be poor in front of you. When others have money, he will show a flattering look, which makes people look down on him. When they are in trouble, they try their best to get you to help them, make up various excuses to kidnap your morality and make you feel guilty.

Don't talk about what he has done for you. If you don't help, he will speak ill of you everywhere and let your interpersonal relationship rot. Even if you help him, he won't appreciate it. Instead, he complains that you didn't help him effectively enough and in time. This kind of person is a vampire, as far away from him as possible.

Fourth, stay away from relatives who like to sneer at you.

Some people just like to deny others. When they met, they all looked concerned and asked how you were doing. When you buy a house, they will say that your house is not good, the foundation is not good, the development is not good, or people you know have bought a house much bigger than yours.

When you say you have a good job, they will say it's useless. Maybe one day you will lose it, which is worse than your son's iron rice bowl of three or four thousand a year. If you point out his problem, he will say that he speaks straight. You really can't take a joke. If the child is so melodramatic or something, it's all your fault anyway.

In short, relatives are people who are related to you. Some relatives will help you or take care of you, and these kindness must be repaid. However, some relatives have no contribution in your life, and the only meaning for you is to make trouble, so they are just strangers related to you. They don't respect others and certainly don't respect themselves, so you don't need to respect them. Staying away from them is the best way to protect yourself.