Pass me a cigarette joke.

The leader gives you a cigarette, which is to get close to you to some extent! Giving you a cigarette may be a move to close the relationship, or it may be to let others see that you are close and make others think that you are highly valued.

We can't "go out of line".

If you don't pick up the cigarette handed over by the leader, what psychological reaction will the colleagues next to you have after seeing it? Will take your side and think you don't smoke, so you won't answer it? Or do you think you are too axial? Or do you think the heat of the leader sticks to the cold ass of the subordinates?

This will cause the leader to lose face and you will not have a good impression!

Don't use "I don't smoke" to defend yourself. You can connect it. After you take it, you can point to it or put it aside. No one forced you to supervise you and let you suck it in completely!

When you accept cigarettes and thank them, your attitude and reaction at that time will make the leader lose face.

You think the leader doesn't know that you don't smoke? Or do you think the leader doesn't know that you quit smoking? Passing cigarettes is often a kind of respect, a kind of value, and a kind of attention!

The action of handing out cigarettes in society is often like this! More or less this meaning! I don't understand this. What are you doing?

So please note that many times, don't defend yourself with reasons that you think are reasonable. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and think about some behaviors, words and behaviors, what they are expressing and presenting to respond, and don't be one-minded!

Always ignoring the way of the world may make the other person feel that you are deliberately keeping a distance from the other person psychologically, or that you are just too axial and ignorant of the world. After a long time, it will naturally stay away from you and alienate you, let alone lead.

Netizen 2:

In this case, the first step: pick up the cigarette. Even if you can't smoke, you should take it with your hands and say, "It's a pity that I can't smoke. I want to keep it well! " "Then grab a step and light a cigarette for the leader.

Step 2: During the Chinese New Year, take two such cigarettes and give them to the leaders. Just say: I am really sorry for receiving the smoke from the leader several times. Take two cigarettes and keep them with the leader.

That's what I did. In ten years, I went from a pure diaosi who was hungry all day because I lost 50 yuan to a million dollars now.

I want to say to those friends who don't look back: Jianghu is not a fight, Jianghu is the world!

Netizen 3:

I once held a job fair in my company. The company manager and I are sitting at the main table with two major shareholders (one is the chairman and the other is the supervisor), with department managers on both sides, and some candidates at the opposite table and at the door.

During the break, everyone smoked a cigarette, and the second shareholder of the company handed me a cigarette, so I took it. Then, out of courtesy, I gave it to someone else first. As a result, he didn't give me any, which embarrassed me. I said you order first, but he gave me some first, so I put my hand on it to show my respect.

In fact, I already understood his intention at that time. I came to this company because I was hired by another big shareholder. He is my friend, and this major shareholder only knows him once. This is the second time to see him, and it is on this important occasion. Generally, even if the boss is a little arrogant, he can give you a cigarette, but it is rare.

These are some subconscious rules of the upper and lower levels in China society. He lit me a cigarette in this public place, probably because he was afraid that I couldn't carry other leaders of the company and meant to support me.

Of course, the two shareholders may also hope to close the distance with us through this matter, and he certainly hopes that I can do things fairly between them.

Although it's just a cigarette, it's just a cigarette, but in China's workplace, whether it's within the system or private enterprises, it's the same information.

Interpersonal relationships in the workplace are complex and there are many hidden rules. Sometimes, a little thing, a little gesture, its meaning is not as simple as a specific thing! This is probably what we call office politics.

On the other hand, especially in public, don't let the leaders lose face.

Netizen 4:

1, the confidant of a leader in our unit was promoted to section chief, and the spring breeze was very proud. Bought a good box of cigarettes, and he gave it to whoever went to his office.

I said I didn't smoke, and he was very determined to send me. I know what he means, so I take it to congratulate him on his promotion.

I'm a little proud, too. He lit my cigarette with a lighter when I said it was on fire.

2. The big secretary of our unit came to our workshop to inspect the work, and we accompanied him to dinner at noon. First of all, I declare that I can't drink alcohol after taking cold medicine these days, and his face immediately turned cloudy.

So I changed my mind and said that wine seemed to sterilize. Come and have a drink with our secretary. The atmosphere will be very different from before.

3, mixing in the workplace, not a matter of principle, such as smoking, drinking and eating, do not have to be true. Light it if you don't smoke. What leaders want is atmosphere.

People who understand naturally understand what I said above, just remember it, which is very helpful for you to mix in the workplace.