What is the most unacceptable, worrying and tangled problem for women with few wives?

Hello, teacher. I am 32 years old and my husband is 48 years old. He is older than me 16 years old. Now, we have been married for more than four years. Now, I have a very tangled problem. I don't know what to do. I want to ask everyone to help me analyze it. Thank you.

He got married for the third time and I got married for the first time. Our marriage is called "an old man with few wives". When I met him, he just got divorced, and then he was very kind to me and chased me desperately. I was moved by him. No obstacle is an obstacle. I don't mind that he is so much older than me, so I decided to marry him. Although I was a little worried at that time, I felt that I was old and had too many choices, so I got married.

The problem of getting married started when I was pregnant. Before I got pregnant, I was happy and he took care of me. After getting pregnant, I felt alienated from him. At that time, he proposed to sleep in separate rooms, saying that his snoring affected my rest. It's true, and I'm often woken up by his snoring. We haven't been together since we parted. We have been married asexually for three years. I wanted to wait for him to take the initiative, but when I had no choice, I took the initiative. As a result, he turned a blind eye and I was hurt. Once, I slept in his room directly, and I was rejected. I hurt my self-esteem, and I feel like a failure. Is it because I am not attractive enough that he began to dislike me? I never took the initiative after that, and neither did he. So, now, I don't know if I should stick to my present marriage.

I feel that this kind of life is very depressing these days, and it is not the life I want. He was very kind to me before, but now he should say that he is not bad to me, but there is always something missing in marriage. My dissatisfaction with him is growing. I am always angry with him and always want to quarrel. He is getting impatient with me now. What should I do? I want a divorce, but I'm afraid of jokes and I can't let go of my children. It's really hard.

My answer is:

In fact, when you choose him, an old man who has been married three times, and choose to marry him, you should know what kind of situation you may face. Because of the big age gap, the greater the possibility of physical disharmony. Even if not now, there will be soon. So, you should expect something. One of the most worrying and tangled issues for women is whether husband and wife can live in harmony.

But at the age of 48, it is reasonable to say that it should be a strong period of accepting asexual marriage for three years, both physically and psychologically. Therefore, you need to be careful and find out the reason before you know what to do next. Because you have children, you always have to worry about the choice. Either continue with your present life and take good care of your children, or get a divorce. Another option is active communication, finding out the reasons and targeted treatment. Make a choice according to the situation after treatment. Don't be impulsive with each other. There was a hasty marriage. We should not be impulsive and hasty in the choice of divorce again.