Everyone says that middle-aged people have a happy family, but they are all faking it. What do you think of this?

Everyone has his own difficulties, but you don't have to expect others to sympathize with you. There is always some pain that can only be borne by yourself; There are always some tears that can only be wiped away by yourself; There is always a time when you can only take it slowly. The life of middle-aged people is really not easy. It stands to reason that your family knows you best and your parents love you, but you still have to learn to rely on yourself to support a blue sky for your family. Middle-aged people with happy families are good at "disguising", leaving sadness to themselves, happiness to their families and hope to their children. When life is low, pretend that "everything is fine". A man has a responsibility not to worry about his family. When a person's spine hardens, his family will have a tree he can rely on. When a person is desperate, he can still feel at ease and survive, and his family will be happier. ?

Pretend "I'm scared" when family quarrels. In any family, middle-aged people are the "backbone" and think that they have paid a lot for the family and should be ranked first. Because everyone wants to "win", the number of quarrels at home has increased; Because everyone wants to "give orders", the family is in chaos. In a happy family, everyone is willing to be a good supporting role, not a protagonist. A middle-aged man who is willing to "take a back seat" seems to live more and more lowly, but in fact he has learned tolerance and embodied wisdom. Give it up, the family world will be wider and the atmosphere will be more harmonious. When your family quarrels, you will listen to advice and take the initiative to "beg for mercy". If you are willing to give your achievements to everyone, your family will be happy. Please pretend "I am free" when you are with your family. Have you ever experienced such a thing?

When I come home from work, my cell phone is still ringing, my boss is always arranging work, my subordinates are always discussing work with you, and my customers are also contacting you. In fact, at work, I always walk around. You really want to be quiet after work. It's best to "close your ears and hear nothing outside the window" when you go home. When people reach middle age, in order to support their families, they have to associate with others and obey the arrangement of the unit anytime and anywhere. But you have been busy, making your family feel uneasy. As soon as you call directly, it will also affect your child's homework. Smart middle-aged people try to take their time after work, even if they have troubles at work, they will not bring such troubles home. The family is quietly together, such a scene, happiness. If it's not good, pretend to be deaf. When you care about your lover, you will find that the contradiction between husband and wife is getting deeper and deeper.

When you never care, you will find that "fighting is kissing, cursing is love" is true. Yes, I heard you. It doesn't matter. What kind of communication can make family members less "bad words" and better reflect the generosity of middle-aged people. Think about it, who always quarrels with the deaf and pretends to have a bad memory in the past. At home, the most taboo is to dig out "old millet rotten sesame seeds." A thing of the past, if mentioned again, will often hurt family members. You may be unintentional when you speak, but your lover will care about you very much and think that you are "a pot that can't be opened." For happy people, memory is like a "sieve", which screens out unpleasant things and leaves some happy fragments. When people reach middle age, let the past smile and forget all the faults of the family. The family goes out together and pretends that "we are happy". If you complain in front of outsiders, others are likely to laugh at you; You tell others about family conflicts, but in fact others say more.

You tell others about your lover's shortcomings, and you are ruining his image. You often complain about your child's academic performance, which discourages his interest in learning. A wise man, no matter how bitter the family is, will not look for someone to complain everywhere. When they go out with their families, they always have a smile on their faces. In fact, the difficulties and scandals at home are gradually solved with the passage of time. As time goes on, the contradiction between husband and wife will become very light. Families also have a long "running-in period" together. At first, everyone pretended to be happy, and then they were really happy, whether at home or outside. Middle-aged people have too many troubles. But after returning home, you should put aside your troubles and protect your family's pure land. You learn to pretend, that is, you learn to be tolerant, learn to understand your family with your heart, be a fool, and let nature take its course, and life will be easier.