The potential energy of compromise

Compromise for perfection means accommodating against one's will and pleasing one's mind in order to preserve it. But too many examples in life tell us that often grievances may not be "all".

There is a woman named Li Ni in the neighboring village who is often abused by domestic violence. The recent domestic violence was so serious that she couldn't walk because of her leg injury. Many people cried when they talked about it, and they were wronged by this woman.

The cause of the incident was that the woman went to work in the field in the cold morning and it was almost nine o'clock when she came back. Tired and hungry, she found the kitchen cold and cold. Her husband not only didn't cook, but also invited a group of women to play cards and gamble in her yard, which made her 12 unhappy and her face looked unhappy. Women think that people in the village can't be embarrassed in front of so many people, so they go to the kitchen to cook. Who knows, after the poker game broke up, she was beaten by her husband: the reason was to show her face to someone. Because of the severe beating, one leg was swollen as thick as a bucket, so I had to go to the village health clinic to hang water.

Many people say that this woman has a bad life.

Because my husband is short and ugly, there is no way to repay the one with a big temper. The woman is not ugly, taller than him, superior in family conditions and much better in education than this man. It's because my parents were worried to death when I was looking for someone. Before marriage, I almost got into trouble because the man refused to give the bride price. Women are afraid of being embarrassed by others, so they take out their own private money as a bride price for their husbands.

After the marriage, the woman found that the man was lazy and couldn't understand her at all. But now that we are married, the trivial matters at home, big and small, make people laugh when they quarrel. Every time I go back to my mother's house, I'm afraid my family will worry, so I don't say anything. Once my best friend came to see her and said you looked blue. Is it because your husband is not nice to you? But she denied it. He was afraid that everyone would know that she said that her husband was not good in front of outsiders, and her husband hit him again. Many people say that Lini lives a cowardly life, but every time she is beaten, as long as her husband says a soft word, she will forgive her immediately, but she will repeat the same mistakes afterwards. I've considered divorce myself. I think my parents and brothers are prominent people, and their children are proud when they grow up. Besides, my in-laws are old and poor. In order to take care of the overall situation, I always think that I only hope that one day my husband can see his painstaking conscience and find something better for her.

This is actually a compromise, seemingly love: the overall situation, for everyone's good, I am wronged. Being a parent before marriage and being a child after marriage is like a dedication. In fact, the underlying energy of compromise is not love, but fear that Li Ni will not be able to talk about the East and the West before she gets married. She is afraid that this object can't be discussed properly, that her parents will dislike her picky, and that she will lose her parents' love. Therefore, her husband refused to give the bride price, so he took out his salary and posted it upside down, fearing that his marriage would be ruined. After I got married, I endured everything, big and small. I dare not quarrel with my husband because I am afraid that others will laugh at him for not doing well. Therefore, every domestic violence never asks for help, but I submit to humiliation.

In fact, any kind of compromise has fear. Through flattering personality, through forbearance. I can't live for fear of breaking the balance, losing love and losing the existing harmony.

So what are the fears in life? Is fear indestructible? Fear is actually beyond the actual fear, which is an illusion. In fact, all illusions can be broken.

How to break it? Wake up first, and then face it bravely. I remember in a marriage show hosted by Tu Lei, a woman named Xiaoyun was abused by her husband for a long time, and even her nose was bitten off. Later, she stood up bravely, not only out of the nightmare of marriage and domestic violence, but also became a brave fighter.

There are too many such examples in our life, which are called energy co-frequency attraction. The more afraid we are, the more terrible things will be attracted, even if some things are wrong. Perhaps in the face of fear, what we need more is a brave heart. Sometimes, when a person decides to face his fear, the fear is already dissipating.

Remember to play with others when I was a child. My weakness is that whenever someone touches my armpit, I laugh, and then I lose all my strength. Every time I play with others, I am always bullied by others. Although it is just a game between friends, I feel very depressed every time. Later, when I realized this, I stopped being afraid and started a "counterattack". Later, every time I played like this, I could win.

I have seen a way to survive in the wild: if you encounter flash floods or heavy rains on the way to climb the mountain, a huge current will rush down from the mountain. The best way to escape danger and survive is not to run down the hill, but to walk up the hill in the direction of water.

If there are some situations in our daily life that we don't like, don't change our adaptation in a hurry, but stop and think about it first to see if there is any fear in it. I hope everyone will not be trapped by fear, because injustice cannot be perfect. There is no fear, no persistence, no control in true love, and all the efforts are a kind of enjoyment without asking for anything in return.