"Daughter-in-law, my daughter went to your place for confinement, and you paid the monthly salary of 2, by the way." How can I refuse?

Only a sensible mother-in-law can manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

In a small family, a woman's personality and temper have a great influence on the atmosphere, while in the whole family, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law determines the main tone of life.

in order to manage a good relationship, both parties must make efforts, and of course, many times someone needs to take the first step. Mother-in-law, as an elder, should be more generous.

When a woman chooses a marriage, most of her hopes are pinned on her lover. It takes a lot of courage to leave your living environment and integrate into your lover's family.

A reasonable mother-in-law knows whether she can accept this brave little girl from her heart, which basically determines whether the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious. Unfortunately, not every mother-in-law understands this truth.

1. Maybe it's petite in appearance, maybe it's gentle in personality, maybe it's weak in voice. Xiaowan has always given people a feeling of "small family and jade". During her studies, Xiaowan had several suitors around her, but she put all her energy into her studies.

What doesn't match the appearance is Xiao Wan's strong and enterprising heart. Everyone thought Xiaowan was an unknown little girl, but she actually became the first girl in the class with a monthly salary of over 1,. Xiaowan was 27 years old that year, and she officially began to look for love.

The appearance of Sheng Lin made Xiao Wan feel unprecedented warmth. Every day, a joke is used as a way of showing kindness, which makes Xiao Wan have a good impression on him soon. In the face of such a warm man, Xiao Wan soon fell in love. In Sheng Lin's sweet words, Xiao Wan decided not to marry him.

2. During that time, Xiaowan's income was twice that of Sheng Lin. She felt that in love, people with stronger abilities had to take on more responsibilities, so she started the active contribution mode. Even when two people go out for dinner, Xiao Wan will scramble to pay the bill. My best friend says she is stupid, but she always responds like this: "My man hurts myself."

Sheng Lin promised her that when she got married, she would give her a large amount of bride price in return. However, when it came to marriage, Sheng Lin's mother only promised to pay 18, yuan. Xiaowan was surprised. Although she didn't pay attention to material things, it was too different from Sheng Lin's original promise.

When it comes to buying a house, Sheng Lin's family even said that they have no relevant plans. In desperation, Xiaowan can only take out all her savings and pay the down payment under the sponsorship of her parents. Before making this decision, her parents and friends advised her not to be "too generous", but Xiaowan always replied with a smile: "We are all family, don't care about these details."

3. After getting married, Xiaowan found that Shenglin didn't seem to have any special skills except sweet mouth. Not only is he not motivated in his work, but he is also very irresponsible. What makes Xiao Wan feel even worse is that Sheng Lin has no definite opinion at ordinary times. He is just a mother-in-law, and even he has to consult his mother about what color he has chosen at home.

This kind of life makes Xiaowan feel more and more wronged. She not only has to bear the mortgage, but also doesn't feel warm, and even has to do housework by herself. In the second year after marriage, Sister-in-law heard the good news of having a baby, and Xiaowan immediately sent a gold device worth 3, yuan as a gift for the baby.

But the next day, my mother-in-law asked, "Daughter-in-law, my daughter will go to your place to have a confinement. Their little husband and wife are having some conflicts. I invited her a new moon, and you will pay the 2, salary of the new moon by the way. " Xiaowan suddenly felt speechless. She obviously had paid a lot. Why did her mother-in-law still bully herself like this? She replied, "OK, why don't I give you all my savings, so that you don't have to use me as an ATM again and again."

The mother-in-law was stunned by this reply, and then she hung up the phone in a boring way. In the face of her husband's accusation afterwards, Xiao Wan finally chose a divorce. The only thing that makes her feel lucky is that she bought a house before marriage.

people will change, and in certain circumstances, we will choose to disguise ourselves. When pursuing love, almost everyone will wear a mask. It is a common mentality of everyone to show their strengths and hide their shortcomings and deficiencies.

So everyone with brains will do their homework when choosing a marriage. Get to know each other through getting along, and dig deep into each other's heart. It is somewhat irrational to be easily confused by superficial phenomena and even trust the suitors too early.

In love, the capable party should pay more, which has nothing to do with gender. But if you are the one who pays less and has weaker ability in love, you should send warmth to your lover at the spiritual level. The most chilling situation in love is that the person who relies on the other half never understands the feelings of the other half.

If you don't get the respect and understanding you deserve, and even feel full of malice in your life, it's better to let go as soon as possible. As a man, if you are not responsible, self-motivated, or even have the ability to protect your wife and coordinate the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you are doomed to be rejected.

women should maintain a self-esteem and strength.

A woman who is too cold will make people feel awe, which is not conducive to her love. And girls who are too loyal and too simple are also easy to get hurt in love.

Therefore, a smart woman will give her heart in love, while retaining a self-esteem and a strength. Have the courage to say "no" when you are wronged, and have the courage to choose to leave when you encounter a crisis. Such a woman can dominate her own happiness.