The birth of a baby in a circle of friends is a "strange phenomenon": the birth of the first child is announced to the whole world, but the birth of the second child is silent.

Now the second child policy has been open for several years. Some families still only need one child, while others keep pace with the times and have a second child successfully.

Different from having children, many parents who have a second child have become very "low-key", quietly pregnant, quietly giving birth to a baby, and there is no publicity at all when giving birth to a child.

Last night in the middle of the night, I suddenly got a call from my best friend. At first I thought it was something important, but as soon as I answered the phone, I heard a lot of spit. According to her, she met a "plastic sorority".

It turns out that a good friend of my best friend gave birth to a second child without telling her. She also learned it from others. The child had been born for several days at that time. My best friend thinks that I don't regard myself as a good friend and don't tell myself such a big thing as having a baby.

And at the beginning, this friend also vowed that he would not have a second child, and said that whoever had a second child was stupid. I hit myself in the face six months ago.

After listening to my girlfriend's spit, I suddenly remembered a phenomenon: parents now attach great importance to having a child. From pre-pregnancy preparation to postpartum baby coming out, if the delivery can be recorded, they can't wait to broadcast live, and they will tell the world about it.

However, when giving birth to a second child, parents often pass by, and some don't even send friends, which is in stark contrast to the excitement of giving birth to the first child.

Now people are very cautious about having a second child. Many families who gave birth to a second child are also very low-key. Even many outsiders don't know that their family has a new member. Why?

1) Not as fresh as the first child.

The reason why many couples don't make public the birth of a second child is because they have had the experience of giving birth once, and it is not so fresh after giving birth to a second child.

They all say: "One child is raised by books, and the second child is raised by pigs". When pregnant with a child, the whole family is cautious, and all the food and drink are checked online before they dare to use it; When I was pregnant with a second child, it seemed a lot more casual.

After all, having the experience of the first child, I feel the same way after being pregnant again. On the good news of announcing the birth of a child, when the first child arrives, the whole family will try their best to edit the language and strive for novelty, while when the second child is born, it is not so fresh, and naturally it is too lazy to send messages.

2) The sex of the second child is not what you want.

Many people go with the intention of "having both children" when giving birth to a second child. If the birth sex of the second child is different from what they expected, they will feel uncomfortable, and they are not in the mood to announce the news of their second child, for fear that others will see their jokes.

3) Unwilling to tell about the unexpected pregnancy.

Like a girlfriend, she kept saying that she didn't want a second child, but in the end she was pregnant with a second child because of unexpected pregnancy or other reasons. After some entanglement, she chose to live. This situation belongs to the typical "slapping yourself in the face". In this case, it is the best way to keep quiet in the circle of friends and not send any messages.

4) I am worried about receiving the gift money.

Of course, some parents don't make it public, because they are worried that relatives and friends will be forced to follow the ceremony when they know. Originally, they didn't intend to do wine, but they finally came to follow the ceremony. It's better to hold a thank-you banquet. So simply choose not to make it public, so that you won't owe anyone.

Avoid excessive concern from relatives and friends;

The couple plan to have a second child. If you publicize it from the beginning, let everyone know that relatives and friends at home will definitely give care, and excessive care will easily bring pressure to pregnant couples.

Many pregnant couples have this experience: the pressure is greater than the pressure of having a child. After all, having a second child, they still have a purpose, and the most obvious thing is the expectation of the sex of the fetus.

In addition, for the matter of giving birth to children, too much concern from others will also make the couple disgusted, so it is more convenient to be quiet when giving birth to a second child.

Avoid causing some bad influence on Dabao.

On the issue of having a second child, parents should still consider Dabao's feelings. If you are pregnant with a second child, you will publicize it all day. Dabao is easily hurt by his parents' attitude. Whether Dabao agrees to have a second child or not, her parents can't treat her differently.

Avoid fetal problems, white happy.

Many mothers are older when they want a second child. Such older pregnant women are prone to abortion when they are pregnant, so keeping a low profile for having a second child is also to avoid fetal problems and make themselves happy.

The island wants to say:

In short, whether to have a second child or not is a matter for every family. There is no need for everyone to know. Only when parents bring up their children can they know that their children are good. Every child is the treasure of his parents. Less forms and more care for children are the most important things parents should do.