What is the wedding custom in Fujian?

This is absolutely true Nan 'an marriage custom. I come from Nan 'an. There are the following stages (remember to give points)

First, the first stage-blind date.

Although free love is advocated now and young men and women are more open, in Nan 'an, most people still choose the road of "blind date", at which time the matchmaker plays a decisive role. Generally, blind date is divided into two stages: 1. First, let the matchmaker snoop around to see who is married. Once the "target" appears, the trustee will take a peek first. This step is called "first glance", which means "take a look". Some also choose the place of "first meeting" in the matchmaker's home. 2. If "first meeting" feels good, please ask the matchmaker to arrange a formal meeting between men and women, usually at the woman's house, when both men and women will "send a big team to participate". Of course, some people skip the "first sight" stage and go straight to the theme of "blind date".

Second, the development stage-family style exploration.

If the blind date is successful, then the woman will go to the man's house to explore the family style. On that day, the "friends and relatives group" composed of the woman's parents, uncles and aunts went to the man's house under the guidance of the matchmaker, which meant to see the man's address and basic family situation. After returning home, they listened to each other's opinions, and some of them asked their friends or relatives to ask about their background and the situation of young people.

Third, the determination stage-talk about the engagement money and the money for shirts and trousers (that is, the money for buying clothes) and red envelopes.

If the woman feels good after exploring the family style, the matchmaker will play an important role again-talking about engagement money and shirt and trousers money. At this time, things are almost the same. It's easier to say at this stage. As long as the woman's request is not too much, the man will generally accept it. Of course, there are some bargaining (how is it a bit like doing business? )。 In Guanqiao, the employment fee is generally around 66,888 yuan, and the money for shirts and trousers is generally around 22,000 yuan, which means auspiciousness. Of course, this includes money to buy gold for girls. The engagement money and the shirt and trousers money have been settled. Next, the man will choose a day to give a red envelope to the woman's family, that is, give some money to her parents first, which is called "tying three belts" in the local dialect. Girls should take out a small part of them to buy new clothes for their parents, brothers and sisters.

Fourth, the consolidation stage-find a day and send the sun.

After "tying the three belts", the man should prepare to find a wedding day according to the birthdays of both men and women, and after determining which day, he will send the red sticker with "wedding day" and a small basket of candy cakes to the woman's house. This step is to "send Yang". After the woman knows the date, she should prepare the dowry intensively, while the man is busy preparing for inviting people and banquets.

Fifth, the wedding stage-bearing the board, above, holding a wedding ceremony.

The man needs to do an important thing the day before the wedding-serve dishes. What is the burden? That is, the man prepares some necessities, such as pig's feet and gifts, and takes them to the woman's house. The woman can't accept it all, she can only accept part of it, and then add sesame seeds and whole grains to the person who carries it. Because it was all picked by manpower before, it was called "picking the dish", and the matchmaker would accompany it on the day of picking the dish. It is also very particular that the man should ask someone to make his bed the night before his wedding. The orientation of the bed should be determined according to the groom's birthday, and the four corners of the foot of the bed should be padded with "golden paper". At the same time, the groom will also invite a boy (preferably a dragon, which is lucky) to sleep with him that night.

The exciting day has finally arrived. Marriage means adulthood, and various folk adult ceremonies are essential. On the morning of the wedding, parents of both men and women should choose auspicious time as the "head" of the bride and groom, also called "head". This ceremony is combed three times from beginning to end: one to the end (meaning to grow old together), two to Qi Mei (honored as the guest of honor) and three to the children and grandchildren. In the past, a woman had to ask someone to "clean her face" before going out, and the dialect called "Man Min". Now this ceremony is mainly for show. Before going out, the bride will "still hide half her face behind her guitar" under the quilt, and she will have to say goodbye to her parents in tears until "however, before she came to us, we called a thousand times and urged a thousand times". Even if you are full of joy, you should squeeze out a few tears-to show your reluctance to your parents and gratitude for their parenting, otherwise you will be laughed at by others. The bride's mother and sister-in-law also need to see them off in tears, commonly known as "crying fate." Before going out, the bride's brother will help the bride open the red umbrella (replace the red veil with a red umbrella). When going out, the bride needs to pass through a rice screen, and there is a censer on the rice screen, which is said to ward off evil spirits. The bride's uncle will help her carry the flowers. The groom must come and take the bride to the car. When she arrived at the groom's house, the newlyweds had to go through the same rice sieve furnace to drive away evil spirits. At the groom's house, the bride also needs to hold a red umbrella until she enters the house. The time for the bride and groom to "enter the house" is also particular, and the groom's family needs to avoid (can't watch) when they "enter the house". Then the ceremony of the newlyweds is completed, and then the wedding banquet officially begins.

Wedding banquets are always sumptuous. The old wedding banquet required 24 courses. Although it has been reformed now, some dishes cannot be changed. For example, when the whole chicken comes out, it means that the banquet is halfway through; The last course is sweet soup, which means sweet. Halfway through the wedding reception, the bride and groom will come out to propose a toast (or invite tea) to thank relatives and friends. The seating arrangement of the banquet is also very particular. Seats are ranked according to the left and right black dragons of the house. The main relatives, such as the groom's uncle, often sit in the chairman's chair, and the big uncle sits in the main seat. In contrast, the second place is the new uncle, known as the "old position of the country."

After the wedding reception, when all the friends are gone, the bride will toast "black sugar tea" to her parents and immediate family accompanied by the groom. Tea worship should be carried out one by one in the order of young and old. The bride has to prepare gifts for her parents-in-law and call her parents for the first time. Others should also be called under the guidance of the groom. In the evening, before the husband and wife sleep together, they will also drink "acacia tea" with red dates, peanuts, longan, longan and so on. It means "early birth of your son jumps over the Longmen". In some places, there are programs such as "making trouble in the bridal chamber" and "recognizing relatives and friends" at night, and everyone will have a good time.

Sixth, the final stage-go back to your mother's house, please ask your son-in-law, please ask your in-laws.

The day after the wedding, the bride went back to her family for the first time, and the bride's parents wanted to find a son-in-law. At that time, the participants are: the groom and the best man, the bride and an unmarried girl (unmarried boys in some places) and her relatives. The man should also bring enough cigarettes and money for the day, because the man should pay for the cigarettes and money for the guests that day. After the banquet, the groom and the best man have to go home first, while the bride has to wait until the little girl picking sugar cane (taking "sugar cane" as the sweet secret) returns to her husband's house, which means "getting started, having a baby" (getting started at dark can have a boy). When the bride goes back to her husband's house, the groom's house still has to be avoided (can't be seen).

On the third day after the wedding, the man will prepare to invite his in-laws, whose dialect is called "Taiwan Province in-laws". The number of people attending this day is relatively small, namely: the man's parents and their immediate family members, the woman's father, and two or three colleagues accompanying the woman's father. The woman's mother can't attend this day.

About five days after the wedding, the woman needs to go back to her family. On that day, the woman's brother needs to come to the man's house to pick up the bride.